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yescando -> RE: Where are... all others? (3/10/2009 10:38:06 AM)
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Sex is there and it's not about to go away. It works, or else there would be no babies only very, very old people with no idea how they got here. I think it is not unusual for people to get stuck on sex, one way or the other, either for or against, because of how the subject is treated. Young people develop the desire way before they have the brains to manage the consequences, and so for practical reasons we have traditions that inhibit sexual activity, in the hope of preventing the unfortunate consequences. The problem is that sex is usually left unexplained, hidden, taboo, making it easy for people to fill that information void with all kinds of odd assumptions. In the process people latch onto underground or subculture attitudes, habits and misconceptions, none of which serve well to make for a healthy personality or sex life. Anyway, my point is that sex becomes a kind of dark corner or closet where people meet to grope blindly for the intimacy and emotional connections they need. For one person sex can be their only way of connecting, while for another it is what always gets in the way. Men would be more likely to invest sexuality with all of their needs because the male drive is single minded and because other means of emotional connection are typically deemed feminine. Women would be more likely to dismiss sex as merely physical because the act itself is not where they experience the broader emotions and relationship things that they like so much. Still, sex remains the common ground even if it must be approached from different sides, and so it is a reliable way to at least get close and make of it what you can. I also think that men have the same emotions that women have but because men typically do not make a big deal expressing these, to women men may seem lacking and unresponsive compared to other women. And on the flip side of that, what a man does to express his passions may well be mistaken as mere lust by a woman who is listening for words instead of the noises men make. It's all happening but you have to know how to see it for what it is.
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