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Ialdabaoth -> RE: Looks and weight (6/26/2009 12:10:49 AM)
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ORIGINAL: peachgirl
if anyone had told me I'd fall in love with a man whose thighs were smaller than mine, I'd say they were crazy.
And there's clearly some reason for that.
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ORIGINAL: sleazybutterfly
The thing is, he isn't the big dudes I am used to, but I love him anyway.
That word "anyway", there, is worth examining.
See, here's the thing. All hyperbole aside, yes, I know that "guys want the cheerleader / girls want the weightlifter" isn't absolute. We're talking about bell curves, here. But we're talking about some pretty sharp bell curves.
Certainly, there are smaller guys who "get plenty of action", to use an unfortunate but oft-repeated turn of phrase. Likewise with bigger girls. But most of the time, it's not with their first picks - and if it is, it's either an exceptional occurance, or that particular less-physically-endowed person has some sort of pronounced compensating advantage.
Statistically, we reward men who are taller. They get better jobs, better salaries, more power, and more respect.
Statistically, we reward women who are thinner. They marry men with better jobs, better salaries, more power, and more respect. And if they break the statistical mold enough that their primary focus is their own job, their own salary, their own power, and their own respect, then it's even more important that they have the right look and the right attitude.
Our hyper-masculinized and hyper-objectifying culture is brutal to any perception of weakness or deviance. Yeah, you can overcome it, just like you can overcome any disadvantage or disability. But that doesn't mean you're likely to.
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