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RE: I need guidance - 3/5/2009 12:51:48 PM

FelineFae

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lol well,

"no one likes to see some one have their feelings jerked around."

no one does, unless that's your thing, but based on your post, it isn't.
it doesn't seem that is what you signed up with the woman, but that's what you got.

"but still, "fool me once, shame on you. fool me twice, shame on me." "

you have had an oppertunity to learn from this, and i hope you have.

over all, you seem to be handling this very well, and i wish you lots of luck in the future- feline

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RE: I need guidance - 3/5/2009 12:59:30 PM

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I have many friends in serious relationships and even married 'internet girls' off internet dating ... its the way forward 'dont you know' ... obviously you are old and dont know better

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Gosh ... how nice are all you guys ... I honestly expected everyone to take the pi$$ and you all make a lot of sense .. big hugs and kisses, I'm feeling positive already

Maybe next time you will think twice before getting involved with a internet girl. I mean you look old enuff to know better.

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RE: I need guidance - 3/5/2009 1:01:16 PM

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We are not mean and nasty......all the time.

I am. You guys just wouldn't believe the nasty faces I'm sitting here making at this thread right now. I think all of your feelings would be quite badly hurt.

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RE: I need guidance - 3/5/2009 1:06:15 PM

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LOL

now thats the person I really expected

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We are not mean and nasty......all the time.

I am. You guys just wouldn't believe the nasty faces I'm sitting here making at this thread right now. I think all of your feelings would be quite badly hurt.

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RE: I need guidance - 3/5/2009 1:08:01 PM

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we're not mean, we are bs intolerant.

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RE: I need guidance - 3/5/2009 1:08:20 PM

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We are not mean and nasty......all the time.

I am. You guys just wouldn't believe the nasty faces I'm sitting here making at this thread right now. I think all of your feelings would be quite badly hurt.

A Clint Eastwood quote comes to mind......... "make my day"

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RE: I need guidance - 3/5/2009 1:09:58 PM

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we're not mean, we are bs intolerant.

I am too mean!! I even have the references to prove it!

(insert foot stomp here)

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RE: I need guidance - 3/5/2009 1:11:10 PM

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nunt uh... you wants to cuddle OP and tell him it will all be okays...

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RE: I need guidance - 3/5/2009 1:14:19 PM

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nunt uh... you wants to cuddle OP and tell him it will all be okays...

Actually that scene from the movie Moonstruck comes to mind instead.

SMACK!!!!!!!!!!! "Snap out of it!!!!"

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RE: I need guidance - 3/5/2009 1:19:57 PM

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lol, i could be wrong... it's happened before.

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RE: I need guidance - 3/5/2009 1:22:09 PM

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You've got nothing to lose Swanky and you seem prepared to have a go............. seriously, just enjoy the ride, if you get the chance.

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RE: I need guidance - 3/5/2009 1:53:27 PM

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Maybe next time you will think twice before getting involved with a internet girl. I mean you look old enuff to know better.

Im sorry SwankyPants... that you had to read the above quote. I am involved in a relationship with someone who I met online.. and I am older than YOU.
I read your post with interest...
Its not ever a good idea, in my opinion, to be something that you are not. It is very important to me that my Daddy Dom be a true Alpha male. I have met and chatted with many wonderful men.. but if I sense submissiveness, I cant imagine becoming romantically involved. And I guess thats ok for some.
I do very much understand how you must feel. For me, this whole thing is about love and romance, and the desire to give away my body and soul to the person who I trust and worship. Its not that way for everyone. And for some, I have heard that it is ONLY about the power exchange.. and has very little to do with love and romance.
Although I have been with Daddy for 3 years, I am coming to understand, that He isnt as interested in romance and love, as much as He is interested in having me do His will. I dont think either of us misrepresented ourselves at the onset. I think that perhaps it was me who heard only what she wanted to hear:(
So.. be yourself... and I am sure you will meet tons of people here who will help you explore your deeper and darker desires, whether it be as friends, or as lovers.

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RE: I need guidance - 3/5/2009 1:59:14 PM

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I have many friends in serious relationships and even married 'internet girls' off internet dating ... its the way forward 'dont you know' ... obviously you are old and dont know better

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ORIGINAL: SwankyPants

Gosh ... how nice are all you guys ... I honestly expected everyone to take the pi$$ and you all make a lot of sense .. big hugs and kisses, I'm feeling positive already

Maybe next time you will think twice before getting involved with a internet girl. I mean you look old enuff to know better.

BadOne

LOL thanks for the reply it made me smile. Yea see it's like this sonny. I'm so old that I know 1 out every 1,000 internet lovefests fail, or some such outrageous number. But if you think yer smart enuff to beat the odds you keep banging your head against the wall. So I can keep saying " it ain't real til it's real" Read you gotta meet the babe before you can call it a "relationship"

Yep I'm OLD and I do know better. BadOne

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RE: I need guidance - 3/5/2009 2:09:14 PM

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You can't change to be what she needs. More importantly it sounds as though she doesn't know what she needs. Her last d/s relationship broke up so instead of working out what went wrong she decided to get involved with a nilla guy. But she wouldn't meet you.

Whoever she is, she isn't over her last relationship or she would have met you instead of stringing you along. You are lucky not to get further sucked in by her.

Now, for the future, you can't change to be what she needs. It isn't about who gets tied up tonight if she needs a power relationship, it's about whether or not you always need to be in control, to be the place the buck stops. You can't 'change' to become that. It's either hard wired or it isn't.

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RE: I need guidance - 3/5/2009 2:23:35 PM

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Swanky, are you sure she said "dismissive" and not "submissive"? She may want you to be a little more bossy with her. Sure, hugs and cuddles can blend in well with a scene but she may be telling you that she wants some rough play. Aftercare is a perfect time for the cuddles. : )

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RE: I need guidance - 3/5/2009 2:46:03 PM

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I think its easy to chat on the phone/internet and only see the good side of people, you don't see the traits that normally you wouldnt be attracted to in real life - maybe she was looking at the bigger picture and realised that meeting up would not be a good idea because there were too many differences in what you both want to even consider starting a relationship......relationships are tricky ground to start with, even without added negatives. I'm sure many people have chatted to 'strangers' for a couple of nights and then realised that they weren't the person for them. I don't know about you, but I don't tend to meet people who I don't think are right for me. Maybe she knew that she would 'dismiss' any advances you made towards her and didn't want to hurt you because she liked you as a person. Look on the bright side - you may have gained a friend.

I think by saying that you wanted to 'win her back', you were trying to get something that you had never had in the first place.

Good luck finding your special person

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RE: I need guidance - 3/5/2009 3:05:55 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SailingBum

quote:

ORIGINAL: SwankyPants

I have many friends in serious relationships and even married 'internet girls' off internet dating ... its the way forward 'dont you know' ... obviously you are old and dont know better

quote:

ORIGINAL: SailingBum

quote:

ORIGINAL: SwankyPants

Gosh ... how nice are all you guys ... I honestly expected everyone to take the pi$$ and you all make a lot of sense .. big hugs and kisses, I'm feeling positive already

Maybe next time you will think twice before getting involved with a internet girl. I mean you look old enuff to know better.

BadOne

LOL thanks for the reply it made me smile. Yea see it's like this sonny. I'm so old that I know 1 out every 1,000 internet lovefests fail, or some such outrageous number. But if you think yer smart enuff to beat the odds you keep banging your head against the wall. So I can keep saying " it ain't real til it's real" Read you gotta meet the babe before you can call it a "relationship"

Yep I'm OLD and I do know better. BadOne

Can't argue with that. I'm old too.......lol

agirl

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RE: I need guidance - 3/5/2009 5:52:33 PM

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Look OP, you don't get it. Nobody's saying don't meet people online. They're saying not to get emotionally involved with pixels on a screen.

That was your mistake. Not realizing that she could be a he, could be 20 years older or younger than she claims, could be married, could be conning you just for kicks, etc.

You don't start chatting to someone in Starbucks and ask them to marry you before you even get your frappacino, same here. You don't get emotionally involved with someone who won't meet you.

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RE: I need guidance - 3/5/2009 9:39:34 PM

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Look OP, you don't get it. Nobody's saying don't meet people online. They're saying not to get emotionally involved with pixels on a screen.

That was your mistake. Not realizing that she could be a he, could be 20 years older or younger than she claims, could be married, could be conning you just for kicks, etc.

You don't start chatting to someone in Starbucks and ask them to marry you before you even get your frappacino, same here. You don't get emotionally involved with someone who won't meet you.

Over the years I have seen countless morons going from one online relationship to another, some ppl just never get it. Same story line. One day she just vanished, She didnt show up for the meet, My dog ate your contact info blah blah. Sometimes old makes you wise ....sometimes is just makes you old.

BadOne

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RE: I need guidance - 3/6/2009 12:47:11 AM

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My mama used to say, "if you wanna dance, you have to pay the fiddler". I live by that, and am willing to take chances and deal with the consequences. But to say one should NEVER get involved with anyone online, is a shame. I do agree tho that if you are gonna play that game, you have to be prepared to get burned sometimes. I have chatted with many, and ultimately met a few people online over the last 15 years. And the ones who are real, are very very real!!!

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