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what makes you feel more submissive? - 3/7/2009 1:41:24 PM

serisa

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subs/slaves... what makes you feel more (or less) submissive?. i am not really looking for comments that this makes me a bad sub etc etc but for me warmth, attention & affection combined with s strict Dominant nature will make me feel more and more submissive.

Humilation, being ignored or treated badly will make me feel more angry, less submissive and more Dominant. i am afraid i think that my attitude gets worse too when this happens.

So just out of interest what works and doesnt work for you in making you feel more submissive... and less submissive? xxx

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RE: what makes you feel more submissive? - 3/7/2009 1:45:51 PM

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We don't do humiliation either, it doesn't work for me. Kindness, caring, him paying attention to my responses, and a certain amount of physicality gets me. Biting my neck is an immediate trigger to get me dazed looking, melting into him.

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RE: what makes you feel more submissive? - 3/7/2009 1:50:06 PM

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Serisa. I am big on humilitations at times, but when it's not done in the right setting it really has the effect to make me more agressive then I would be. I've found the slightest little compliments about something casual, when put in the right context can really bring out my submissive nature. Now physically, that's a different matter, a hand in my hair good and firm or fingers around my neck with a little clench will send my sexual submission into overdrive! The biggest one is the emotional go for me. I'm submissive by nature, but when my Master would come home, and find nothing 'wrong' with the house and how it was cleaned and say something so simple as 'supper smells good, girl'. It was enough to get me to go into the kitchen to start him a cheesecake to finish his meal.

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RE: what makes you feel more submissive? - 3/7/2009 2:00:02 PM

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quote:

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Now physically, that's a different matter, a hand in my hair good and firm or fingers around my neck with a little clench will send my sexual submission into overdrive! The biggest one is the emotional go for me. I'm submissive by nature, but when my Master would come home, and find nothing 'wrong' with the house and how it was cleaned and say something so simple as 'supper smells good, girl'. It was enough to get me to go into the kitchen to start him a cheesecake to finish his meal.

i really go for this sexually too, to be grabbed... perhaps round the neck like you say, just will make me putty in His hands

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RE: what makes you feel more submissive? - 3/7/2009 2:07:20 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: serisa

.... Humilation, being ignored or treated badly will make me feel more angry, less submissive and more Dominant. i am afraid i think that my attitude gets worse too when this happens.

I'm with you on this point. Also, to add, obsequious behaviour does that to me too. I abhor it. The more someone behaves that way to me, the more it brings out the bitch in me and I hate myself for behaving that way.

But to answer your question, I agree with DesFIP's points on being treated wtih kindness, caring and attentiveness. That, coupled with his taking control in a non-bossy, non-arrogant way brings it out. I know that isn't really a very descriptive answer. It's difficult to describe. A man who is self-assured (but not overly cocky), and is in control of himself and how he deals with the world around him is soo...hot. In control but not controlling. Does that make sense?

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RE: what makes you feel more submissive? - 3/7/2009 2:08:52 PM

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this slave has never felt submissive, just like she has never felt freckled...but she is, both.

it is an instrinsic part of her, just like her freckles...one that isn't inspired by another, or situations, or positions, or how she is feeling that day, or how another person behaves/looks/smells/treats others...it just is, constantly there...like her freckles.

some folks abhor it, just like her freckles...consider them to be "scars" or "imperfections" that need covering up...or lasering off.

others appreciate it, just like her freckles...considering it pleasurable and not wanting it hidden, or covered with some false mask of socially accepted "look"/behavior.

serisa,

the above comments are in no way meant to imply that if you indeed "feel" submission or dominance, you are a "bad" sub/slave...just that this slave, like others, doesn't "feel" submission or dominance...and that's okay, too, and doesn't make us bad sub/slaves, either.

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RE: what makes you feel more submissive? - 3/7/2009 2:14:19 PM

serisa

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I'm with you on this point. Also, to add, obsequious behaviour does that to me too. I abhor it. The more someone behaves that way to me, the more it brings out the bitch in me and I hate myself for behaving that way

100 % with you on this one. i get like this too... and the more bitch and sarcastic i feel the more i hate myself for feeling like that... because i feel it just doesnt suit me

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RE: what makes you feel more submissive? - 3/7/2009 7:30:35 PM

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We can be just going along our way, like any couple anywhere, and then suddenly, He'll look at me with this sadistic gleam in His eye and- WHOOSH - my stomach flips and all I want to do is kneel before Him.

Oh, and when I do, I love to feel His boot on my back.

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RE: what makes you feel more submissive? - 3/7/2009 7:38:50 PM

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Knowing that I am appreciated = more submissive.
Sensing I am being ignored or disregarded = less submissive.
Notice the first is more of a confident, gut-level understanding, and the second is more of a vague insecurity?
That must mean that feeling confident makes me feel more submissive and feeling insecure makes me feel less submissive.
Nothing the Dominant is doing directly - more my feeling about myself in relation to him.
hmm...

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RE: what makes you feel more submissive? - 3/7/2009 7:47:25 PM

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That commanding aura of his power over me.... no words.....just those vibes

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RE: what makes you feel more submissive? - 3/7/2009 8:06:21 PM

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I don't think there's any one thing that makes me feel more submissive with Master. I always feel submissive with him..his voice, his presence is pretty much all I need. I just feel that way around him always.

Now there are times when I don't feel AS submissive and those are times when I'm extremely stressed from personal stuff in my life going on or I"m extremely tired or I feel as if I'm being pushed aside.

Most times he can tell and adjusts. If he doesn't know then I make sure to communicate it to him.

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RE: what makes you feel more submissive? - 3/7/2009 11:50:00 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: serisa

So just out of interest what works and doesnt work for you in making you feel more submissive... and less submissive? xxx

I feel more "submissive" when he touches my face gently or puts his hand on my shoulder as i kneel beside him. or when he looks at me with that gleam in his eye.

I don't become less submissive but do get an attitude (usually at my peril) if i'm feeling insecure or out of sorts. if i'm over tired or sick or stressed I tend to get snappish or contrary.

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RE: what makes you feel more submissive? - 3/8/2009 12:16:15 AM

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WHat works for me is pleasing him. I can't get enough. I love being taken care of and taking care of him. I love feeling small and protected. Daddy is much larger than I am so it's pretty easy to feel that way. I don't know, being taken is what makes me crazy... but humilation, he wouldn't do it, I would just cry anyway...

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RE: what makes you feel more submissive? - 3/8/2009 5:36:03 AM

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I can't feel anymore submissive than I all ready am. His caring, kind manner, listening and hearing what I have to say, treating me with the respect that I deserve, letting me be myself, telling me that I can do it when faced with a difficult task, telling me it's fine if I screw up along the way, not being judgmental.

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RE: what makes you feel more submissive? - 3/8/2009 7:05:17 AM

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it's not the 'what' that makes me feel submissive, it's the 'who'.

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RE: what makes you feel more submissive? - 3/8/2009 8:16:25 AM

JulieElizabeth

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here are my thoughts

traits in Him that make me more submissive: In the last few years and up to present, I have found these are the traits that make me want to submit without fail (keep in mind as you read these, I've only had online Dom's....)

His unconditional love
His stead-fast calm demeanor....never showing anger towards me
He never shows judgment towards me...meaning i can tell Him everything..yes everything
His maturity
putting me first (after his family/work)..ok so i guess that means putting me third *sorry bad joke*
His dedication to his family and work
His love and affection towards me
the little ways he shows me that He is dedicated to making our relationship grow
punishment/lectures..not letting me get away with acting 'naughty'! He is strong enough to know that I won't leave him just because I'm being punished and for needing to give me tough love at times
His pushing to want to know more about me and understand me
gaining His trust...i badly want to know more about Him

traits that make me less submissive: These traits have not been shown to me by the two wonderful Dom's in my life, but rather the One's that I've quickly left knowing the relationship would be futile.

no rules
no follow up to assignments
being punished unfairly ... or not being punished when i really need it
relationship revolving only around His sexual needs
humiliation
playing extra 'down and dirty' and not being held and uplifted afterwards

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RE: what makes you feel more submissive? - 3/9/2009 11:03:59 AM

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I am always submissive thing that make me feel even more so is Mastes wicked evil grin, ewan he strokes my hair or back, being in his arms. Knowing he loves me for who and what i am not trying to make me change.

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RE: what makes you feel more submissive? - 3/9/2009 3:36:23 PM

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Safety, trust, respect: make me feel more comfortable with submitting. In the absence of these, I hold back.
Now, if we're speaking of physicalities, a very simple thing that will work every time is tp grab a fistfull of my hair near the scalp, from the back and tug; instant submissive skullspace.
Davan

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RE: what makes you feel more submissive? - 3/9/2009 4:26:37 PM

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What makes me feel submissive is domination. The submissiveness is a response to the dominance. If the stimulus is provided the response follows. Being asked if I want to so something does not come across as dominant, and there is nothing in the request to which I can submit. Being told what to do does come across as dominance, evoking my submissive response. If things are right then whatever her dominant impulses will be reciprocated by my submissive ones. The key is sincerity. A contrived command seems so, and will not reach me.

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RE: what makes you feel more submissive? - 3/9/2009 4:41:07 PM

jstmi

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what used to make me feel more submissive was when She used to call me the pet names i loved to hear, "kitten" "slut" etc. the special way She looked at me when we were in public. i knew i was Hers.

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