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ORIGINAL: Rainfire

It's about caring and protection, for some, but not all people, there may be some ageplay involved, it's about helping her grow as a person, so very many different things and yet it's unique and different based on your needs, wants and personal dynamic.

For us, (I met my Daddy here on CM and we were married last October) I wouldn't have Him any other way. He hs helped me tremendously, shows me unconditional love, punishes me when I need it, and teaches me when I need that. He guides and protects me, from myself and others, as needed. He is all I was looking for in a Master and I found so much more.

Good luck.

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ORIGINAL: lovingpet

For me, it is about a return to innocence, trust, and faith in the good in people.  I know that sounds almost like I am trying to undo some damage from the past.  I am and I am not.  There were things I missed out on in childhood that I want a chance at. There are also a lot of things I can only discover about myself when I let down the walls of adulthood and face the world like a little child.  That means I am just as exposed to said world and all the dangers of it as I was when I was little and needed adult protection and guidance.  I want someone who can allow me the safety to re explore the world that way.

I believe it is a natural part of a lot of dominant personalities.  Some are exclusively in this role or mindset and for others it is something that they grow into.  It is as individual as the relationship and the people involved in it.  I can approach D/s from many directions and enjoy them.  It is a specific dynamic that happens to work for me in a very select number of cases.  My guess is that the girl was basically asking you if you would take ownership of her.  Your questions were likely perceived as judgement even if it is not how they were intended. 

I don't know if this rambling answered your question, but feel free to message me on the other side if you would like to discuss it at length.

lovingpet