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a question of some importance for me - 3/11/2009 3:41:31 PM   
irishslavedesire


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Status: offline 		Hi gorgeous ladies,

i was wondering if you could help me out with a question I have.
How many of You demand/want penetrative sex from your sub/slave? i am a sub and find it hard to penetrate a Mistress sure i get extremely aroused around her and love pleasuring her with my tongue often many times daily. However when it comes to sex it just hasn't clicked yet! i am afraid of losing her due to lack of penetration and was wondering if any of you have come across this problem in your sub before and if so how did you rectify it?

Thanks again
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RE: a question of some importance for me - 3/11/2009 3:45:29 PM   
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ORIGINAL: irishslavedesire

However when it comes to sex it just hasn't clicked yet!



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RE: a question of some importance for me - 3/11/2009 3:47:37 PM   
irishslavedesire


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Status: offline 		do you mean viagra?

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RE: a question of some importance for me - 3/11/2009 3:54:55 PM   
DavanKael


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Status: offline 		Can you explain "it just hasn't clicked yet", please?  It seems to me that you must have some sense of what's up (Er, uh, or not). 
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RE: a question of some importance for me - 3/11/2009 3:58:13 PM   
YourhandMyAss


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quote:

ORIGINAL: irishslavedesire

Hi gorgeous ladies,

i was wondering if you could help me out with a question I have.
How many of You demand/want penetrative sex from your sub/slave? i am a sub and find it hard to penetrate a Mistress sure i get extremely aroused around her and love pleasuring her with my tongue often many times daily. However when it comes to sex it just hasn't clicked yet! i am afraid of losing her due to lack of penetration and was wondering if any of you have come across this problem in your sub before and if so how did you rectify it?

Thanks again


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RE: a question of some importance for me - 3/11/2009 4:02:04 PM   
EmpressOphira


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Status: offline 		Is this a serious question?

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RE: a question of some importance for me - 3/11/2009 4:04:39 PM   
irishslavedesire


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Status: offline 		i am very serious Empress Ophira. i see the penetrative act as being very dominant and thus find it hard to do it thus constantly disappointing my Mistress. 

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RE: a question of some importance for me - 3/11/2009 4:05:56 PM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		I know two who have a huge distaste for sex becasue they claimed to be tired of being used and good for only one thing. I felt it came from far more than that. They were willing to give oral sex.. but not anything more unless they decided it was okay.   But... it was a no go for me, becasue I want a relationship and that includes sex for me.  I wanted to know why they felt as they did and they wanted to just accept it rather than explore it and find a way through it.  We would never make more than friends becasue my partner needs to explore any area where there seems to be a problem.

There are some who don't have sex with a submissive.  I might consider at some point a different type of relationship, but if there is no penetration... there is no oral.  It is all or nothing with me.

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RE: a question of some importance for me - 3/11/2009 4:08:44 PM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		How is penetrative sex a dominant action?  I don't see dominance as only sexual... but in a sexual context... how is it dominance?

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RE: a question of some importance for me - 3/11/2009 4:29:02 PM   
DavanKael


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Status: offline 		I'm with LockIt; all or nothing.  I am a penetration kind of a girl (Like being penetrated and penetrating).  Oh, and along those lines of thought, what gave you the idea that just because it's a penis entering a vagina that the act is dominant?  Service is service and doing anything other than what your Lady demands of you is poor service and that thought process reeks of topping from the bottom.  Open your mind. 
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RE: a question of some importance for me - 3/11/2009 4:31:35 PM   
irishslavedesire


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Status: offline 		i mean clicked as in stayed hard inside her...didnt want to be to explicit.

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RE: a question of some importance for me - 3/11/2009 4:35:37 PM   
SweetDommes


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Status: offline 		I'm with the others - if it's done my way, when I say ... how on earth could that possibly make me less dominant (or him more dominant)? 

Penetrating during sex does have a history of being considered more dominant ... but geez, that was back in Ancient Greece - move up to modern times.  No matter what the sex act is around here, Holly and/or I are always in charge ... it doesn't matter who has what stuck up where - we are in charge.

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RE: a question of some importance for me - 3/11/2009 4:37:26 PM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		LOL SweetDommes, that last line was great!

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RE: a question of some importance for me - 3/11/2009 4:44:23 PM   
irishslavedesire


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Status: offline 		Ok thanks for answering but i didnt really want any sarcasm as i said this problem is something that is very important for me and as its essential for personal relationship i was just looking to see if any of you had experienced it before and if so how did you rectify it. i want to be a sexual sub and not an asexual one.


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RE: a question of some importance for me - 3/11/2009 4:47:31 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		While I don't see penis/vaginal penetration as a dominant act, I do have a sub who had this on his hard limit list when I got him.  It has another reason associated with it.  Off hand, I can think of one other forum regular who has a slave that I believe has this as a hard limit for himself as well.  Again, for a different reason.  (She'll have to speak up on her own if she'd like.)

Perhaps I can help you in some way.


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RE: a question of some importance for me - 3/11/2009 4:49:12 PM   
SweetDommes


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Status: offline 		Ask a question on an open forum, and you'll get all kinds of answers.  Ones you like, ones you don't like. 

Honestly, if the problem couldn't be fixed quickly, I'm afraid that I'd have to find a different submissive.  When I want sex, I want the real thing - no tongues, no toys ... I want dick.  A boy who can't/won't give it to me isn't one who will last around here.  We might try therapy of some sort for awhile ... but seriously, it would have to be fixed fast.

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RE: a question of some importance for me - 3/11/2009 4:51:02 PM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		Who is being sarcastic?  I think we have tried to understand here and give input on what you have said.  How can we know the reasons you have this going on without asking questions or saying things to try and answer you?

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RE: a question of some importance for me - 3/11/2009 4:53:05 PM   
SweetDommes


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Status: offline 		*raises hand* I was being sarcastic ... I'm a bitch like that, I can't help it *grin* 

I meant what I said though - no act, in and of itself, is dominant or submissive and that includes penetrating for sex. 

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RE: a question of some importance for me - 3/11/2009 4:55:13 PM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		LOL I so didn't read it that way... I didn't hear the tone I guess!

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RE: a question of some importance for me - 3/11/2009 4:58:53 PM   
irishslavedesire


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Status: offline 		Thank you Ladies for your responses especially you Lady Pact. i will send you a mail and maybe you can help me out. I would really appreciate that Lady Pact.Its not that penetrative sex is a hard limit quite the opposite its just that psychologically i cant seem to perform and it is quite upsetting.

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