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RE: How do you know? - 3/17/2009 4:45:20 AM

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I may have just passed into the category of fossil, and I've had quite a bit of life experience that may or not be useful for you to consider.

Like everyone else has said there isn't any magic formula for knowing is anyone is "the one" and be prepared to welcome many "ones" into your life as adding threads makes a richer and more interesting tapestry.

That being said, what makes relationships work is having common goals. Those goals could be to have an available fuck buddy or to get married and have 3 children or hire someone with specific skills for the job, all relationships work best if the goals are in synch. If your goal were to have a life partner and the guy you meet has a goal of casual play, it really doesn't matter so much how much your tender bits tingle when you are with him or that you both like the same music. Goals can change and evolve within a relationship but again if the changed or evolved goals are not shared by the parties in the relationship, it tends to end the relationship.

Know what you want, where you want to go, at this moment in time and be prepared to communicate this. Be prepared to achieve larger goals through the series of smaller related goals. Learn patience. Maybe I'm too much of a fossil, but to me, any meal prepared in a microwave is not nearly as satisfying as the ones that took all day to prepare.

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RE: How do you know? - 3/17/2009 5:27:13 AM

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Thanks all for your advice. After a few days of him now being strangely absent and not speaking to me, I'm deciding to back off. But I do have your advice in case I should find someone else I'm interested in. Thanks so much ladies!

im sorry to hear that, it does happen sadly. lots of different reasons to go with the lots of different people involved.

my pet theory is that sometimes people love the idea of it but when suddenly faced with the intensity get a bit spooked.

dont feel too low - youre new to this search fandango and believe me it can be an uphill climb at times.

youre subbie needs and instincts were all akimbo and excited and you felt that should be enough to seal the deal. it isnt always, for the above reason and others. my advice now, is to keep youre subbie needs and instincts a little more in check and when the right guy comes along he'll enjoy eeking them out of you.

its a lesson i learnt a time ago. i used to submit to my submission, fly along like a big boobie bird all out to express the natural me. i learnt that what you should probably be doing is let the guy bring out the subbie in you, specific to what he requires and in what order. that way youre submission is to him, his and noone elses.

in an ideal world being who you are, submissive to the core and ready to give youreself to a D should be enough. but it isnt always.

give youreself a big hug and know that pretty much all of us have been where you are now. it does get easier.

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