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Wife has Doubts - 3/13/2009 3:13:52 PM   
RealinNortheastO


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Status: offline 		I know my wife too well and know that if the right person who could dominate her mentally and physically came along, she would let loose. We have talked about this many times and she always states that if she falls for someone else, where would the relationship be between her and I. I know I would have no issues finding a dominant male that would control her and cuckold me to some extent. She, however, does not think I could do it and give control of her to someone else.
Any ideas out there. ANyone out there understand where I am at?
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RE: Wife has Doubts - 3/13/2009 3:16:15 PM   
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I know my wife too well and know that if the right person who could dominate her mentally and physically came along, she would let loose. We have talked about this many times and she always states that if she falls for someone else, where would the relationship be between her and I. I know I would have no issues finding a dominant male that would control her and cuckold me to some extent. She, however, does not think I could do it and give control of her to someone else.
Any ideas out there. ANyone out there understand where I am at?


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RE: Wife has Doubts - 3/13/2009 3:18:54 PM   
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Status: offline 		You have a lot more issues than finding Mr Right now to have at your wife.  If my girl said that to me re finding another man.  My suggestion to her would be get the fuck out ummm NOW!

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RE: Wife has Doubts - 3/13/2009 3:20:05 PM   
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Status: offline 		Sounds like you're trying to force / cajole her into something that she doesn't want, and that's just plain not good. When you say " ... does not think I could do it and give control of her to someone else" that sounds rather, um, unnerving. Is she submissive to you? I've always viewed cuckolding as being something that the woman / couple pursues because it's something that they both desire - forcing her to give herself to another, when she doesn't want to, because you want to be cuckolded, is selfish.

Why not ask her what she wants / desires? Her concern about the relationship between the two of you is completely valid: how will you interact before, during, and after? Where's the control? How will you deal with tangled emotions? How will you handle things if they don't work out and she decides not to go through with it? Realistically, how will you feel about "forcing" her to do something that she doesn't want?


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RE: Wife has Doubts - 3/13/2009 3:26:47 PM   
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Status: offline 		It is something I know she wants but is afraid to admit it. She is submissive to me and it would not be forced on her. It's more like how do I open that door
so it happens naturally?

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RE: Wife has Doubts - 3/13/2009 3:28:55 PM   
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ORIGINAL: RealinNortheastO

It is something I know she wants but is afraid to admit it. She is submissive to me and it would not be forced on her. It's more like how do I open that door
so it happens naturally?



If it is something she wants then you just allow her to be herself. Love her and support her, let whatever happens happen.


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RE: Wife has Doubts - 3/13/2009 3:32:10 PM   
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Status: offline 		Talk about her fantasies and desires - it's likely that the more you explore / fulfill hers, the more likely she'll be to listen to yours. Find some decent cuckolding erotica (not porn, literature) and try reading it to each other.

How do you *know* that it's something she wants? If she's "not willing" to admit it, then you're probably not ready to start pushing things - she first needs to be to a point where she's comfortable talking about it. And you do need to talk about the good and bad consequences and how you'll handle them long before you start looking to move anything into the real world.


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RE: Wife has Doubts - 3/13/2009 3:37:11 PM   
RealinNortheastO


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Status: offline 		We have had experiences with two men over the years. WHile it never became resular because of distance, seeds were planted.
She is very open to finding a dominant male, but hesitant in admitting her feelings about letting someone other than me control her mentally

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RE: Wife has Doubts - 3/13/2009 4:09:00 PM   
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Status: offline 		You don't know her as well as she does. You want this fantasy and she has told you that she doesn't. Either accept her as a person who loves you or leave her to find someone who does love her just as she is. Because she deserves that, not a man who insists she screws other men to give her husband a thrill while it destroys her marriage for her.

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RE: Wife has Doubts - 3/13/2009 5:35:46 PM   
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Status: offline 		plain and simple this is your fantasy not hers  and you are assuming rather than listening

she submits to you as her dominant because she trusts you

you cannot expect her to submit to a stranger where no trust has been established  if you force it you would also destroy the trust she has in you which in the end could destroy your marriage


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RE: Wife has Doubts - 3/13/2009 7:28:41 PM   
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Status: offline 		stop reading her words as a 'challenge' in your minds eye; it's not that she can't be dominated by someone else.  what she's trying to tell you is that if anyone could mentally and physically dominate her, outside of you, that there may not be anymore you and her left to worry about.

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RE: Wife has Doubts - 3/13/2009 7:50:15 PM   
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Status: offline 		Agreed - if she falls in love with another, she may well fall out of love with you. If she is of the monogomous mindset, then she may well be only capable of loving one man at a time.
Seems a bit of a risk on your part in trying to push this on her.

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RE: Wife has Doubts - 3/13/2009 7:55:56 PM   
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ANyone out there understand where I am at?


For many women, sex is intrinsically bound with the partner. Your wife is one. She has tried to gently get you to back off. Do. If you want to continue to be her husband, that is.

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RE: Wife has Doubts - 3/13/2009 7:57:16 PM   
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I know my wife too well


And, uhhh, sorry, mate, you don't. No shame in that, but you should learn to recognize when you're wishful thinking. This is all in your head.

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RE: Wife has Doubts - 3/13/2009 8:54:01 PM   
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Status: offline 		Maybe that's her way of saying she doesn't want to go down that road.

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ORIGINAL: RealinNortheastO

I know I would have no issues finding a dominant male that would control her and cuckold me to some extent. She, however, does not think I could do it and give control of her to someone else.

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RE: Wife has Doubts - 3/13/2009 9:04:06 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

Maybe that's her way of saying she doesn't want to go down that road.

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ORIGINAL: RealinNortheastO

I know I would have no issues finding a dominant male that would control her and cuckold me to some extent. She, however, does not think I could do it and give control of her to someone else.



this is what i agree w/. still it is ur will, not her will. u just keep stating her apprehension to the whole thing. if she is uncomfy w/ someone else mentally dominating her, then stop forcing her...she doesn't feel it will be "natural" or pleasurable to her.

my thoughts...



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RE: Wife has Doubts - 3/14/2009 7:03:38 AM   
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ORIGINAL: SailingBum

You have a lot more issues than finding Mr Right now to have at your wife.  If my girl said that to me re finding another man.  My suggestion to her would be get the fuck out ummm NOW!

BadOne 


From the op I got the idea that she wasn't sure about this and he wanted it to happen. Not sure why he wants to stick her with someone else, but that's how I read it. This is the first time I have seen a dominant who wanted his sub to cuckold him

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RE: Wife has Doubts - 3/14/2009 7:26:37 AM   
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Status: offline 		Make sure you have all your finances together and a plan to get out debt free with a superannuation scheme. Once your cuckold that's it for you buddy. Your arse is grass and you lose ALL rights or say in her sexual activity and you should start learning how to suck cock and swallow other mens semen from her cunt. Not to mention her hiring you out to be fucked up the arse and kept in chastity permanently.
Enjoy your little fantasy on line.  

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RE: Wife has Doubts - 3/14/2009 11:11:11 AM   
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Status: offline 		Big clue here..
If that is her first thought.. it indicates that if someone came into her life there would be no need for you.
Are you ready for that possibility?  It is not your need that she is concerned about. It is her need of you.
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ORIGINAL: RealinNortheastO
she always states that if she falls for someone else, where would the relationship be between her and I.

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RE: Wife has Doubts - 3/14/2009 12:42:08 PM   
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Status: offline 		If you dominate her now, why would she need someone else? Or are you her Dom and you want to loan her out to someone more Domly? Personally it sounds like your fantasy that your trying to make a reality. The problem is if she is not into it, she may not "perform" up to your expectations or she may fall for the other guy and drop you flat.

The only advice I have it be sure that this is what you and she want otherwise you may end up, odd man out.

Good luck,
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