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Hello ladies. I want to ask you what is it like to own ... - 3/16/2009 8:34:27 PM   
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Hello ladies. I want to ask you what is it like to own a male slave, because I'm insanely (not dangerously) jealous of women who own real slaves or servants. It's such a powerful position to be in and I would love to have a man in that position, but I find it hard to find sincere men.

I want to know how does it feel to own a male slave? How does he make your life better? I'm especially interested in ladies who aren't in a romantic/loving relationship with their slave, who have a strict or sterile nonsexual Mistress/servant relationship or don't live with their slaves. What is your life like? In what ways do you use him? And how does his serving you effect your dating life or relationship with your boyfriend/husband?

I am just so very interested in the real stuff outside of fantasy. You guys are my heroes, and I wish to some day be in your shoes.



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RE: Hello ladies. I want to ask you what is it like to ... - 3/17/2009 1:41:00 AM   
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 It can be a blessing, or a curse. Just like any other type of relationship, some are good, some are a horror. 

Some women might have a sub who contributes to her life in so many positive ways, others may have the "do-me, domme-me" demanding sub. Being a 24/7 "mommie" to a bratty, petulant, pouty "slave" gets old in about 5 minutes, which is why so few dommes are willing to play that game and go that route. It can be like owning a huge house, others may be jealous, but the owner still has to pay the bills, the insurance and fix the gutters and toilets. :)

Go slow and be sure what you want is what you get before signing the purchase order.

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RE: Hello ladies. I want to ask you what is it like to ... - 3/17/2009 7:04:43 AM   
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It took Me a while after reading your post to decided whether or not I qualify.  In some areas I do and some I don't.  One favor though.  Please don't call Me a hero.  I'm still processing someone calling Me "famous" last week.

To answer your question on how does it feel, the word that keeps coming to My mind over and over again is fulfilling.  Those who are familiar with My situation around these boards might find that an odd term to use, but it really is the heart of the matter.  The quick explanation is that I have a poly family that includes My husband, My sub, and Myself.  Due to external circumstances, none of us get to sleep under the same roof every night.  Still, what I have that is important to My inner self far outweighs what I don't have.

My life looks a lot like other military wives who have a husband (or more) deployed somewhere, except I happen to be kinky.  I still go out to munches, etc, and I do participate in casual play.  (Please read that as play, not sex.)  Both of My males know this and accept it about Me.  In fact, I play with others even when they are here, so it's not unusual.  They both know or at least have met most of the people I play with.

Not living with or near your sub can raise some challenges in using his service creatively.  It's not exactly like I can tell him to go to the kitchen and do My dishes.  LOL.  Instead, I have him do things such as make the phone call to check on the car in the shop or help Me research materials for various things.  There's always stuff like making him My personal alarm clock or wake up service by phone.  I've thought of trying him out as My social secretary, but I'm just better suited for that.  Even across the miles, he likes feeling as though he's taking care of Me.

When we are all in the same time zone (My new expression for what some people might call living together) there isn't a detrimental effect on My relationship with My husband.  We're an "O" type poly family, meaning the two males aren't separate from each other.  They are both very comfortable with the different roles that they have in My life.


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RE: Hello ladies. I want to ask you what is it like to ... - 3/17/2009 8:16:57 AM   
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Yes, it is very difficult to find males who are sincere in serving as slaves. I currently own two males, but only after carefully picking them. As the saying goes, the gate is wide but the path is narrow; there are many men who are infatuated with the fantasy of slavery, but you quickly come to recognize those who are worth the time spent molding and those who don't deserve a second glance.

How does it feel to own an actual slave, and not just in the fantasy sense? Extremely liberating. You have a human being who lives for you solely, who exists to serve you at the snap of your fingers, who works loyally for your own gain and pleasure. Stop for a moment and imagine how that might feel on a daily basis; how would you feel to know you are free to pursue the higher-minded things you desire to pursue, leaving the menial toil to your boys? How would you feel knowing you never have to exert yourself over such things that you can live glamourously and luxuroiously, enjoying the finer things in life? How would it feel to know you can have things paid for at the snap of your fingers? Most of all, how do you think it would feel to have another human being shivering and groveling naked at your feet in worship, knowing they are yours mind, body and soul to do with as you wish?

Any male who wishes to serve will come to understand that I take slavery quite seriously. It is not a game or a diversion or a lifestyle - it is servitude in the most unapologetic sense. As such, their slavery does not ever infringe upon My many interests, romantic or otherwise.

Good luck; I hope you find what you are searching for! :)

< Message edited by MistressDolly -- 3/17/2009 8:19:44 AM >


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RE: Hello ladies. I want to ask you what is it like to ... - 3/17/2009 3:12:58 PM   
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quote:

LadyPact wrote: Please don't call Me a hero. I'm still processing someone calling Me "famous" last week.

Awwww, even world-famous super-Dommes get bashful.

beeble


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RE: Hello ladies. I want to ask you what is it like to ... - 3/17/2009 3:28:15 PM   
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If you think you ever really own another human being, you're living in fantasy--
 
it's all by mutual agreement--at any given moment, someone could awaken from the state of mind and say "I/i'm outta here"...

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RE: Hello ladies. I want to ask you what is it like to ... - 3/17/2009 4:18:16 PM   
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ORIGINAL: beeble

quote:

LadyPact wrote: Please don't call Me a hero. I'm still processing someone calling Me "famous" last week.

Awwww, even world-famous super-Dommes get bashful.

beeble



All right, you cheeky thing.  You have mail.


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RE: Hello ladies. I want to ask you what is it like to ... - 3/17/2009 7:01:16 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: dominika

Hello ladies. I want to ask you what is it like to own a male slave, because I'm insanely (not dangerously) jealous of women who own real slaves or servants. It's such a powerful position to be in and I would love to have a man in that position, fbut I find it hard to find sincere men.

I want to know how does it feel to own a male slave? How does he make your life better? I'm especially interested in ladies who aren't in a romantic/loving relationship with their slave, who have a strict or sterile nonsexual Mistress/servant relationship or don't live with their slaves. What is your life like? In what ways do you use him? And how does his serving you effect your dating life or relationship with your boyfriend/husband?

I am just so very interested in the real stuff outside of fantasy. You guys are my heroes, and I wish to some day be in your shoes.


Dear dominika Welcome! If i may,….. There are sincer men out there but like shopping for apples, You have to look them over carefully. You don’t consider that all apples are bad do You?! Instead You inspect each one carefully before choosing which one(s) are best for the taking right? So please don‘t lump us all as bad apples. Even here in Maine there are sincere male slaves. You just have to be penitent in Your search. Then yes, as has been said here, with the right slave Your Life could be made better for You. Remember life is what You put into it. Give guys a fair shake if they appear to be posable slaves, then take the time to trian them, we don't come ready to serve,.. like you may want but with a little training and comunacation he can be molded into what suets Your fancy. And in time You too will boast of having a man under You who is only there to be ever mindful of what ever pleases You over them selves. i Am sure that the Ladies on here have all been where You are now. Take advantage of They’re wisdom by reading pass and present posts and keep asking Them questions like this and remember,…. Everything comes in due time. Time and experience well light Your path in choosing a slave, even in what looks like at the time to have been bad choices, if You can learn from them then,… they weren’t bad choices just bumps in the road. Hey! All you Ladies Stay Safe! hairslave






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RE: Hello ladies. I want to ask you what is it like to ... - 3/17/2009 8:25:13 PM   
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I don't think anyone questions the legality of the term "ownership" here, unless of course we're speaking of situations outside Western borders and the rule of modern civil law. Additionally, I believe it's a given in a forum like this most of these arrangements are made out of mutual agreement.

With that out of the way, the term "slavery" does still literally apply in the types of relationships we're talking about in this thread. A person who
is excessively dependant upon or controlled by another person or thing sums it up pretty well, and has nothing to do with reference to a legal litmus
test. This is the spirit in which I believe most of us use the term "own".

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RE: Hello ladies. I want to ask you what is it like to ... - 3/20/2009 8:33:59 PM   
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For me it's the best thing in the world and my slaves would agree. We both are fulfilled because I get to tell a man what to do and he gets to see a woman happy and satisfied with the things he does for her. But I know where your coming from. We tutor women for free and some of them say to us what you said. They envy women like us and what us to teach them how to get men to obey them. We're really enjoying training both women and men on both sides of it.



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RE: Hello ladies. I want to ask you what is it like to ... - 3/20/2009 8:40:41 PM   
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i think this might be a wanker. i havn't figured out yet if it is female or a male. My best guest would be that it is a male...

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RE: Hello ladies. I want to ask you what is it like to ... - 3/21/2009 7:36:38 AM   
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Perhaps you are better suited to ask, " what is it like to own Your horse"--for I see HAVING a devoted slave or sub to be no different than having a mate in a relationship--after all we don't really OWN another human being,  do we?

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RE: Hello ladies. I want to ask you what is it like to ... - 3/21/2009 9:05:41 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: AcademyForSlaves

For me it's the best thing in the world and my slaves would agree. We both are fulfilled because I get to tell a man what to do and he gets to see a woman happy and satisfied with the things he does for her. But I know where your coming from. We tutor women for free and some of them say to us what you said. They envy women like us and what us to teach them how to get men to obey them. We're really enjoying training both women and men on both sides of it.




I could see how some, dissatisfied with themselves and their lack of ability to inspire submission from males, could get jealous of you: to be in a satisfying M/s relationship is the ultimate. It is generous of you to offer training and a way for them to possibility enjoy what you enjoy as well.

Kudos for having found what you want and for being able to make it work! ;)

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RE: Hello ladies. I want to ask you what is it like to ... - 3/21/2009 9:14:21 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressDolly


quote:

ORIGINAL: AcademyForSlaves

For me it's the best thing in the world and my slaves would agree. We both are fulfilled because I get to tell a man what to do and he gets to see a woman happy and satisfied with the things he does for her. But I know where your coming from. We tutor women for free and some of them say to us what you said. They envy women like us and what us to teach them how to get men to obey them. We're really enjoying training both women and men on both sides of it.




I could see how some, dissatisfied with themselves and their lack of ability to inspire submission from males, could get jealous of you: to be in a satisfying M/s relationship is the ultimate. It is generous of you to offer training and a way for them to possibility enjoy what you enjoy as well.

Kudos for having found what you want and for being able to make it work! ;)


and all for an affordable price!

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RE: Hello ladies. I want to ask you what is it like to ... - 3/21/2009 1:18:20 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: CatdeMedici

quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressDolly


quote:

ORIGINAL: AcademyForSlaves

For me it's the best thing in the world and my slaves would agree. We both are fulfilled because I get to tell a man what to do and he gets to see a woman happy and satisfied with the things he does for her. But I know where your coming from. We tutor women for free and some of them say to us what you said. They envy women like us and what us to teach them how to get men to obey them. We're really enjoying training both women and men on both sides of it.




I could see how some, dissatisfied with themselves and their lack of ability to inspire submission from males, could get jealous of you: to be in a satisfying M/s relationship is the ultimate. It is generous of you to offer training and a way for them to possibility enjoy what you enjoy as well.

Kudos for having found what you want and for being able to make it work! ;)


and all for an affordable price!


No price, because it's free for woman ;-)


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RE: Hello ladies. I want to ask you what is it like to ... - 3/21/2009 2:38:59 PM   
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Gender bias?
(just kidding)

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RE: Hello ladies. I want to ask you what is it like to ... - 3/21/2009 6:44:40 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyMerrisa

quote:

ORIGINAL: CatdeMedici

quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressDolly


quote:

ORIGINAL: AcademyForSlaves

For me it's the best thing in the world and my slaves would agree. We both are fulfilled because I get to tell a man what to do and he gets to see a woman happy and satisfied with the things he does for her. But I know where your coming from. We tutor women for free and some of them say to us what you said. They envy women like us and what us to teach them how to get men to obey them. We're really enjoying training both women and men on both sides of it.




I could see how some, dissatisfied with themselves and their lack of ability to inspire submission from males, could get jealous of you: to be in a satisfying M/s relationship is the ultimate. It is generous of you to offer training and a way for them to possibility enjoy what you enjoy as well.

Kudos for having found what you want and for being able to make it work! ;)


and all for an affordable price!


No price, because it's free for woman ;-)





Amen to that. It is as it sould be for women,... Free and liberating!

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RE: Hello ladies. I want to ask you what is it like to ... - 3/22/2009 8:29:16 AM   
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Very well said, Mistress Dolly. I admire that outlook so much. When I first met Ms. Mlicious, she was overly concerned with crafting scenes and trying to figure out what to do. She actually used to get frustrated at me when I would keep saying to her, "Imagine that you bought a slave... in real life. What would you do? Now, go ahead and do that".
quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressDolly

Yes, it is very difficult to find males who are sincere in serving as slaves. I currently own two males, but only after carefully picking them. As the saying goes, the gate is wide but the path is narrow; there are many men who are infatuated with the fantasy of slavery, but you quickly come to recognize those who are worth the time spent molding and those who don't deserve a second glance.

How does it feel to own an actual slave, and not just in the fantasy sense? Extremely liberating. You have a human being who lives for you solely, who exists to serve you at the snap of your fingers, who works loyally for your own gain and pleasure. Stop for a moment and imagine how that might feel on a daily basis; how would you feel to know you are free to pursue the higher-minded things you desire to pursue, leaving the menial toil to your boys? How would you feel knowing you never have to exert yourself over such things that you can live glamourously and luxuroiously, enjoying the finer things in life? How would it feel to know you can have things paid for at the snap of your fingers? Most of all, how do you think it would feel to have another human being shivering and groveling naked at your feet in worship, knowing they are yours mind, body and soul to do with as you wish?

Any male who wishes to serve will come to understand that I take slavery quite seriously. It is not a game or a diversion or a lifestyle - it is servitude in the most unapologetic sense. As such, their slavery does not ever infringe upon My many interests, romantic or otherwise.

Good luck; I hope you find what you are searching for! :)


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RE: Hello ladies. I want to ask you what is it like to ... - 3/22/2009 6:14:54 PM   
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i think this might be a wanker. i havn't figured out yet if it is female or a male. My best guest would be that it is a male...


I thought wanker was an exclusively male term. Can females wank? Do we need a noun with a feminine aspect? Wankerre?

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RE: Hello ladies. I want to ask you what is it like to ... - 3/23/2009 4:08:31 AM   
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hardbodysub wrote:  I thought wanker was an exclusively male term. Can females wank?

Sure, women can wank.  Even if you disagree, men can be cunts, so I don't see why woman can't be wankers.  It's not a literal term anyway: it's hardly an insult to say that somebody masturbates.

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Do we need a noun with a feminine aspect? Wankerre?

Wankeuse?

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