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Tasks for Subs who want to please - 3/17/2009 9:24:46 AM

MasterOfVenice

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I have a question regarding tasks for subs (RT ones). While I am quite good at using a sub as I wish, I am not always in tune with subs who are eager to please and derive pleasure from completing tasks for their Dom/mes. I am curious as to how others approach this kind of dynamic. What kind of tasks do you assign your RT sub/slave? Do you give them 'impossible' tasks and judge them on their effort? Do you give them simple ones and reward them accordingly? Are the best tasks BDSM related or otherwise? For instance, I have had a sub polish my boots as a task, and that worked out well.

Thanks in advance.

M.

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RE: Tasks for Subs who want to please - 3/17/2009 9:29:40 AM

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Do you give them 'impossible' tasks and judge them on their effort?

if the task is impossible then no amount of effort is good enough. As a sub, being set up for failure is a huge red flag in the relationship, imho.

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RE: Tasks for Subs who want to please - 3/17/2009 9:37:28 AM

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what Holly said

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RE: Tasks for Subs who want to please - 3/17/2009 9:42:22 AM

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I don't particularly care for it when someone makes tasks for me... if something needs to be done, then tell me it needs to be done (if I am not already aware of it).

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RE: Tasks for Subs who want to please - 3/17/2009 9:52:59 AM

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Tasks just for the sake of tasks seems kind of silly when there is so much actual 'work' to be done.

Why not use the slave in a capacity that suits you both, beneficially - as you mentioned - polishing your shoes.

I bathe my Master. Cook and clean for Him. Come when He calls and give Him space when he desires. Massages, crawling around on the floor when the mood strikes Him, sitting at His feet to be near Him when he desires me to. Anything He desires, as I am His slave.

Setting up an impossible tasks seems a little mean spirited, especially if the slave is living to please you.

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RE: Tasks for Subs who want to please - 3/17/2009 9:54:49 AM

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masterofvenice, you are the dom, so you decide what you want your sub to do to you or for you, in what way you want her to please you. if you want your boots polished, just tell her to do it. if it pleases you to have her do it in the nude while sucking your cock, then just tell her to do it

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RE: Tasks for Subs who want to please - 3/17/2009 10:36:33 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: CalifChick
I don't particularly care for it when someone makes tasks for me... if something needs to be done, then tell me it needs to be done (if I am not already aware of it). Cali

M and I feel the same why thays why we have "Honey Do Lists" for the two of us and i also have to say to ask me to do something i cant get done feels like i am being set up to fail isnt cool

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RE: Tasks for Subs who want to please - 3/17/2009 11:52:55 AM

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Thanks for the response. I think I'm with you all regarding the 'impossible' task idea, though that doesn't mean I'll stay away from difficult ones.

Yes, I am the Dom, and I do have ways she serves already. And the usual caveats always apply, of course, in regards to the individuality if each sub and their personalities and desires (I know she would get minimal pleasure by cleaning my kitchen). I think I'm going to stay away from 'household' duties and concentrate on those that are more sexual or sensually oriented for now. Perhaps this is really a question for sub/slaves, as in 'what tasks (specifically) give you the most pleasure or satisfaction?'

M.

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RE: Tasks for Subs who want to please - 3/17/2009 12:12:19 PM

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any dom that would think to set me up with an "impossible" task and setting me up for failure would learn really quickly that i can remove my collar at any time that so pleases me and remove him from my life just as easily.

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RE: Tasks for Subs who want to please - 3/17/2009 12:22:43 PM

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Hi,
I am a sub that likes to please, and so I think I grasp what you are saying. Anything that has more to do with you, personally, is more likely to make her feel content. For example, cooking for you, washing your car, doing your clothes, bathing you, massaging your back, certainly, polishing your boots. The closer it is to you... personally, the more deeply she will probably feel doing it, because it is an extension of you.

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RE: Tasks for Subs who want to please - 3/17/2009 1:40:29 PM

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Well, I'm glad you're getting away from the impossible task idea. Personally, I didn't understand the logic behind it. I'm not saying only give her the things that are easy enough for her to do in her sleep. There's nothing wrong with challenging her a bit, so she can demonstrate her creativity and resourcefulness.

The boot polishing is good, as is all types of leather care. If she's not familiar with it, that makes it a learning opportunity as well. Care of toys falls into this category as well. I don't know about you, but it pleases Me a great deal to see My sub working on My toy bag for whatever thing might be coming up. Double purpose in this is the sub is also handling the toys and it can bring fun responses (excitement, expectation, a variety of emotions) from her, as well as pleasing you.

Since you want to focus on tasks related to BDSM, what about research? Is there a new type of play that might interest you both? Perhaps a trip to an event she might be able to do the work in planning? What about errands for certain books that you might like to read? Groups you're interested in? The possibilities here are endless.

Of course, there is always personal service. My boy loves cooking for Me. Giving Me a massage after a hard day. Taking care of My feet. (This can go a lot of ways.) A variety of things that can be either play or non play related.

Before I forget. If you have a sub who thrives on pleasing you, remember to give the reinforcement for when she's made you happy. It will lend to her fulfillment.

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RE: Tasks for Subs who want to please - 3/17/2009 2:11:53 PM

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When ever I have had a submissive that saught to do more than what I was asking of her I alway start out with the tedious things that I would LIKE but do not need here are the things I often have done.

Alphabetize My VHS Collection
Alphabetize My CD Collection
Alphabetize My Book Collection
Organize My Mail
Fill in all the extra data of my Windows Media Player (Genre, Artist, Album..... Do know this could take MONTHS and they usually only enjoy it for about a week.)
I have her Iron all my work Shirts all at once
shine all my boots
Take care of my feet
Organize the Food Pantry
Find Great Hotel Rates or Restraunts in places we Might Visit.

Some people would see these as Busy Work, and to some it would be, but to a submissive who just wants to serve it is something else they can do for no other reason than it would make my life easier.

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RE: Tasks for Subs who want to please - 3/17/2009 2:25:49 PM

Caillin

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I am assuming that this is a new sub, so apologies if I am wrong. Why not have them write essays. Journaling is a common requirement. You could ask that they write about their fantasies, or their concerns, or just the questions that they are asking themselves. For me, writing is how I process all the new things that I am experiencing.

I would say that setting up/putting away any toys is good. Maybe baking something to use during aftercare. Bathing is a good suggestion, I'll have to remember that one.

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RE: Tasks for Subs who want to please - 3/17/2009 5:06:08 PM

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Thanks for all the suggestions, they will be put to good use! Or I guess I should say, SHE will....

M.

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RE: Tasks for Subs who want to please - 3/17/2009 5:28:38 PM

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I find essays to be "make-work", even though I love to write. It is not a chore that needs to be done, or will make his life better or more comfortable, nothing "useful" in a concrete way.

It is certainly a chore that can be related to relationship development or personal growth, but as a sub who gets off on pleasing, that one would fall far short with me. YMMV.

Cali

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RE: Tasks for Subs who want to please - 3/17/2009 5:33:33 PM

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quote:

Perhaps this is really a question for sub/slaves, as in 'what tasks (specifically) give you the most pleasure or satisfaction?'

I get the most satisfaction out of doing whatever he requests of me to the best of my ability.

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RE: Tasks for Subs who want to please - 3/17/2009 6:17:03 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: CalifChick

I find essays to be "make-work", even though I love to write. It is not a chore that needs to be done, or will make his life better or more comfortable, nothing "useful" in a concrete way.

It is certainly a chore that can be related to relationship development or personal growth, but as a sub who gets off on pleasing, that one would fall far short with me. YMMV.

Cali

Generally I agree, but I was thinking that if the person is very new, writing can be a way of unlocking enough of the sub to make them easier to mold. But I do tend to agree. It's not something I do to give someone else pleasure, and so it isn't pleasurable to me. But I know it makes it easier for someone else to work with me if I'm not conflicted while we play.

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RE: Tasks for Subs who want to please - 3/17/2009 10:54:44 PM

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i enjoyed the sexual tasks, of course.

the more menial ones were laundry... i loved taking care of his clothes, knowing he looked good in them. getting up every morning to start his coffee and have it ready as he woke up. making his lunch for work. cleaning the windows... he always had such a huge smile when he saw that. polishing his room (its very dusty here), of course i didnt go in without permission.

more personal... he would love for me to sit at his feet and give him a foot massage after a long day. i loved that task more than anything. back and thigh massages, scrubbing his back in the shower. when he hurt his heel, i would rub the spot for hours.

i cooked and cleaned, the home ran per his wishes, from laundry to floors to even the way he wanted the beds made. sometimes we didnt speak for days, then he would pull me to the couch and we would talk for hours on end. some things i did out of habit.. some were tweaked by him, others dictated by him. they were all done, regardless of the task, out of a desire to see that smile and know i pleased him.

no matter the task you set, or she sets for herself, the end result will still be her desire to see that you are pleased. lol... i remember when he came home and found me on a chair in the bathroom, scrubbing the ceiling tiles! he laughed and said "damn, I got me a real slave!" that still makes me glow to this day.

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RE: Tasks for Subs who want to please - 3/18/2009 12:03:05 AM

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I do have to argue about the journal, it is truly helping the dom/me, because they are getting to know you more and how you think, which could help later, with anything of how to assign tasks, to what fun to have.

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RE: Tasks for Subs who want to please - 3/18/2009 7:37:18 AM

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My favorite task I have pulled so far was to give my sub a really bizarre shopping list of seemingly unrelated random components. This task had her all over town, walking of course for exercise purposes and relaxation since I kept the kids at home. She accomplished it all and returned home at which point we used all the things in the bedroom that night. Worked well for me...

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