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RE: Too much vanilla - 3/19/2009 9:46:23 AM

antipode

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but in the end I had to leave

And I'll bet you wished you'd done that sooner? Love, I find, isn't always what one needs.

I hate you, BTW, loved your pictures until I came across that fully kitted out exam room, now I am insanely jealous

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RE: Too much vanilla - 3/19/2009 9:52:37 AM

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I know he loves me- If he didn't, after everything we've been thru, he wouldn't still be with me.

Hmm. I've stayed with partners because I couldn't face being out there on me own, when I was much younger, so that's not necessarily a given.

But you must walk your own path, and loving, and being loved, is kind of a precious commodity in our lives. I hope this works out for you both. Many of the comments here, mine among them, come from jaded older folk - we've been there, done that. But that does not mean any of that applies to you, you will find your own way, and it is quite possible you may achieve what we couldn't. So best of luck.

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RE: Too much vanilla - 3/19/2009 10:10:51 AM

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Let me preface with the fact that I am somewhat new to this lifestyle and I am learning more everyday about myself and my own desires/relationship so what I say may not be a viable option.

It is my thinking however that sometimes we get into a rut sexually, even with all the excitement of BDSM things can become "same ole'....same ole'..." and you constantly need to be looking for ways to keep the momentum going. Is it possible that he is growing weary of always having to be the Dominant and delivering punishment? Does he see you as "conquered" so the excitement of the chase is over? Maybe he needs the excitement of a Switch role. Is that something you can even do? In my own experience which again I admit is limited, I love the variety of sex. Sometimes I want to be utterly submissive and even forcefully used, other times I want to play games and tease play, and sometimes I want to remember the fire and passion that is shameslessly intense between us and make love. BUT then there are times when I want to remind him that inside me there is a strong, independent woman who can make him beg ME for release!

Best of luck to you.

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