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sleeping with someone on the first meeting: do or don't? - 3/18/2009 11:47:41 PM

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i've heard different opinions on this topic. i generally don't mind sleeping with a guy i have a connection with but if i'm meeting him for the first time in person, i want to know what people think about that. i mean besides the unsafe factor which i generally establish when i first meet a guy. would it be more appropriate to wait for the second or beyond meetings?

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RE: sleeping with someone on the first meeting: do or d... - 3/18/2009 11:50:30 PM

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It really depends upon the guy. For every guy in the world besides myself, I think it would be an awful idea on the first date. If I were you, I'd be more flexible with me, for example.

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RE: sleeping with someone on the first meeting: do or d... - 3/18/2009 11:58:40 PM

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depends there are alot of std's around, and they go around everywhere not just greesy guys and people are cowardly and may not mention them for fear of rejection, make sure you have a good amount of trust they would tell you if they did, and always play safe.

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RE: sleeping with someone on the first meeting: do or d... - 3/19/2009 12:05:02 AM

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as long as you do it safely.. whats the problem?

Men are studs if they fuck anything that moves, women are sluts if they do so.... according to stereotypical moral (?) standards.

Do what you want. UNderstand that some will hate you for it, some will love you for it. The only thing that matters is how YOU feel about it.

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RE: sleeping with someone on the first meeting: do or d... - 3/19/2009 12:12:37 AM

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i, for one, ADORE you for it, greeds....suh-lut...

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RE: sleeping with someone on the first meeting: do or d... - 3/19/2009 1:47:30 AM

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Many men will apply the old double standard to a woman if she sleeps with them on the first meeting and not see her again, using terms like slut or cheap to describe her. Some are out looking to score and keep count of their conquests. There are women who have the same behavior.

On the other hand there are men who will continue to date the woman if they like her and do not have those hang-ups. Dating is always a risk and how much you loose depends on how much you invest in the situation. Be smart and protect your health and safety whatever decisions you make.

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RE: sleeping with someone on the first meeting: do or d... - 3/19/2009 2:42:10 AM

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That depends on what you are seeking.

If you meet the person online, and are seeking something long term, then no to doing it on the first meeting. You have no way to tell if they are who they say they are, no community to discern their character.

If you just want a casual thing, do it like the army, be all the slut you can be. :) Well safely, that is. Follow some safety protocol, at least, by getting the guy's full name and license plate number, telling a friend that info, and then calling said friend afterwards to ensure that you're safe.

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RE: sleeping with someone on the first meeting: do or d... - 3/19/2009 2:43:45 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

as long as you do it safely.. whats the problem?

Men are studs if they fuck anything that moves, women are sluts if they do so.... according to stereotypical moral (?) standards.

Do what you want. UNderstand that some will hate you for it, some will love you for it. The only thing that matters is how YOU feel about it.

what I am a slut I have no problems admitting it lol.

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RE: sleeping with someone on the first meeting: do or d... - 3/19/2009 2:47:37 AM

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More appropriate? Depends...maybe. If you know them pretty well and end up having great chemistry when you meet, why not?

What's the point in waiting for the sake of waiting? When the time's right, roll with it. =)

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RE: sleeping with someone on the first meeting: do or d... - 3/19/2009 5:04:05 AM

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only you can answer that question.

personally, i don't sleep with any man on the first, second, fifth, tenth etc meeting. i prefer to be in a solid relationship first.

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RE: sleeping with someone on the first meeting: do or d... - 3/19/2009 6:24:34 AM

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I wouldn't sleep with someone on the first meeting. It's important to me to establish that the desire is real, and not born out of desperation for a fuck. And the delayed gratification makes the event all the more delicious.

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RE: sleeping with someone on the first meeting: do or d... - 3/19/2009 6:59:43 AM

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This is one of those things where everyone needs to follow their own instincts . There are times when it might seem like the absolutely great thing to do , and others where it might mess up an otherwise good connection .

But I will say - having tried all sides , that the sweet anticipation of waiting awhile and building that sexual tension , when it's with someone you really like , is well worth the wait ! Pure lust can be hot and delicious , but having someone who really cares about you can heighten all of that , and help the connection grow .

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RE: sleeping with someone on the first meeting: do or d... - 3/19/2009 7:43:34 AM

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Your a grown woman who should not need anyone's approval. If you want to sleep with him go ahead you know the dangers and if you don't you should educate yourself. Personally I have never slept with anyone on the first date. I want time to get to know them and to find out if they have any diseases that antibiotics cannot cure.

But that is me, this is your life proceed as you see fit.

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RE: sleeping with someone on the first meeting: do or d... - 3/19/2009 7:53:50 AM

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First meet, third meet....sometimes the time factor doesnt mean the person is "safe"....protection at all times is the key.

In the words of my favorite singer "get it while you can"
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RE: sleeping with someone on the first meeting: do or d... - 3/19/2009 8:08:57 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: kittinSol

I wouldn't sleep with someone on the first meeting. It's important to me to establish that the desire is real, and not born out of desperation for a fuck. And the delayed gratification makes the event all the more delicious.

My thoughts exactly.

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RE: sleeping with someone on the first meeting: do or d... - 3/19/2009 10:17:09 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sambamanslilgirl

only you can answer that question.

personally, i don't sleep with any man on the first, second, fifth, tenth etc meeting. i prefer to be in a solid relationship first.

Tonya BIG hugs! I missed you so much during my time away. I thought I was done with the black outs- but now I am waking out of the 2nd one this month. (spinal cord trouble) My brother and mom were here to visit. I guess I dont keep the place warm enough for them. My brother does not look good. Nor does my uncle John. Gram and mom do tho.

As to sleeping with someone- I find the best way to not see them a 2nd time is to lay them. That can be a oh wow- as long as we went to all this we might as well.

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RE: sleeping with someone on the first meeting: do or d... - 3/19/2009 10:19:52 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

as long as you do it safely.. whats the problem?

Men are studs if they fuck anything that moves, women are sluts if they do so.... according to stereotypical moral (?) standards.

Do what you want. UNderstand that some will hate you for it, some will love you for it. The only thing that matters is how YOU feel about it.

Interesting take on it. "safe" being the key word. I will never view the Mabeline model quite the same way after passing on a STD to a male buddy of mine.

moral of the story- looks dont mean no stds.

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RE: sleeping with someone on the first meeting: do or d... - 3/19/2009 10:22:23 AM

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RE: sleeping with someone on the first meeting: do or d... - 3/19/2009 10:26:54 AM

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I take it simple...if it happens, then it happens, but the guys I am going to meet know that I don't waste much of feelings into them until they have proofen to be worth it. Therefore the real sexual pleasure with me they will only get after a real and long lasting relationship is formed....and that takes a lot of time

I don't see the point to keep wasting my time with a bloke who might just be interested on sex...therefore, if he would disappear afterwards, then at least it safes my time from then onwards...and if I wait with him for ages, then it can still happen that he f**** o** once he reached his goal...therefore I just take it simple and don't waste my emotions on that fact.

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RE: sleeping with someone on the first meeting: do or d... - 3/19/2009 10:34:07 AM

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More appropriate? Depends...maybe. If you know them pretty well and end up having great chemistry when you meet, why not?

What's the point in waiting for the sake of waiting? When the time's right, roll with it. =)

I agree. I am 52 years old. I am not waiting around if someone seems to have great chemistry with me.

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