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cpshasha31 -> PUNISHMENTS (3/21/2009 8:59:56 AM)
HOW DO KNOW WHAT AN APPROPRIATE PUNISHMENT IS?

GreedyTop -> RE: PUNISHMENTS (3/21/2009 9:10:46 AM)
WHY ARE YOU TYPING IN ALL CAPS?? appropriate punishment should be decided between the parties involved.

DesFIP -> RE: PUNISHMENTS (3/21/2009 9:17:01 AM)
First, don't type in all caps. It's rude. Second, not all relationships include a punishment dynamic. Third, you get to have hard limits in this area as well as in every other. Judging by your profile you aren't in a relationship. So make this part of how you pick partners. If you ask someone what they would do if you couldn't obey an immediate command and their answer is so severe that you are appalled, then you aren't compatible with them.

VeryNastyDom -> RE: PUNISHMENTS (3/21/2009 9:47:58 AM)
A good punishment is one that instructs and corrects rather than being overly punitive in nature, and one that can escalate if the behavior is repeated. Obviously it will have not have the desired effect unless the person receiving it finds it unpleasant. Precisely what is appropriate depends on the receiver so this is one of those unanswerable questions. That which some subs find horrifying is like a walk in the park for others. Some can barely endure pain, others love it. Some like humiliation, others become an emotionally scarred for life. It is the Dom's responsibility to carefully probe and slowly escalate until he or she learns where the merely unpleasant ends and the abuse begins. If you don't feel comfortable that a prospective Dom has that level of sensitivity, move along to the next one.

DarkSteven -> RE: PUNISHMENTS (3/21/2009 10:25:50 AM)
You're a sub. The general sorts of appropriate punishments should be agreed upon beforehand between you and your Dom/me. The specific punishment should be decided on by your Dom/me, using the previous discussion.

Zechriel -> RE: PUNISHMENTS (3/21/2009 5:32:08 PM)
Good evening! I concur with all the other posts as well,as does Daddy. You should have sat down-to some people even prior to being collared-but we did ours afterwards and discussed it. We did 2 lists, each on our own of some punishments and then combined them. Funnily enough, we each had most of the same things. I wrote us each a copy of the final agreed upon list, one at Daddy's house, and one in my journal. Incidentally, I was just punished last night for a second time in a year. I had neglected to Messenger Daddy 2 mornings in a row...excuses were heard but we both agreed that it was still wrong. But we picked from our list-no chips for 3 days and I had to drink 2 (not my usual 1)bottles of water-ick! Will I forget again? Not likely since I had just bought 2 bags of yummy chips last night, it just has to be agreed upon. Good luck! Love, Zechriel [sm=couple.gif]

IronBear -> RE: PUNISHMENTS (3/22/2009 7:15:30 AM)
Firstly, as others have already stated; ..Don't type in caps as that is akin to shouting and thus rude. Secondly, for God's sake read what you type before posting, your use of the English language ia appauling.

cantilena -> RE: PUNISHMENTS (3/22/2009 7:37:31 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: IronBear ... Secondly, for God's sake read what you type before posting, your use of the English language ia appauling. Respectfully, I must say that I found the above somewhat ironic.

DesFIP -> RE: PUNISHMENTS (3/22/2009 8:38:36 AM)
Highly

peppermint -> RE: PUNISHMENTS (3/22/2009 9:13:55 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: cpshasha31 HOW DO KNOW WHAT AN APPROPRIATE PUNISHMENT IS? The same way you know if a reward is appropriate. You use the intelligence with which you were born to figure it out.

daddysliloneds -> RE: PUNISHMENTS (3/22/2009 9:25:34 AM)
i don't know, i'm not into punishment dynamics... now, if you were to ask me about discipline, i could fill up a page or so in responses. on the other hand, if you are a parent, and even if you're not, if you were ever punished as a child, how did it make you feel? did you feel like the punishment fit the crime? you could always think back to your childhood to conjur up in your own mind what is appropriate or not.

WestBaySlave -> RE: PUNISHMENTS (3/22/2009 10:49:22 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: cpshasha31 HOW DO KNOW WHAT AN APPROPRIATE PUNISHMENT IS? IT'S THE ONE THAT MAKES THEM SCREAM THE LOUDEST! [:D] Seriously though, I'd say an appropriate punishment is one that's effective and works and works for both of you.

DomM&SubK -> RE: PUNISHMENTS (3/23/2009 7:22:37 AM)
First why on God’s Green earth did you use caps? Caps are Yelling! Second that is between you and your partner not the boards. If you felt you were punished un fairly as the Dom part of your relationship why you got the punishment and what you can do to not receive it again. I have had to ask this once after M Beat me one night and it was because I wasn’t listening to him and well I tried to rape him not a smart move the was I agree worth the ass beating I got. But not getting the chores all done I would lose say getting the chance to pamper him because I live to pamper my King.

Arpig -> RE: PUNISHMENTS (3/23/2009 12:42:15 PM)
quote: First, don't type in all caps. It's rude. Ridiculous!!

antipode -> RE: PUNISHMENTS (3/23/2009 5:01:52 PM)
APPROPRIATE FOR WHAT? U USNG UR BLKBRY?

ThomasMore -> RE: PUNISHMENTS (3/23/2009 5:24:54 PM)
WHEN YOU SEE THE PINK SOCK, YOU WILL UNDERSTAND THE COSMOS.

antipode -> RE: PUNISHMENTS (3/23/2009 8:06:18 PM)
quote: First, don't type in all caps. It's rude. Ridiculous!! Seriously, it is considered shouting, in the traditional internet community.

SirJ40 -> RE: PUNISHMENTS (3/24/2009 8:18:26 AM)
Depends on the sub/slave involved.. for instance, Mine has a decided aversion to having her feet touched. Punishment for her is a foot massage, or even the threat of one.. but that's not going to work for too many! Personal preferences will dictate. Use your intuition.

FangsNfeet -> RE: PUNISHMENTS (3/24/2009 8:27:12 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: cpshasha31 HOW DO KNOW WHAT AN APPROPRIATE PUNISHMENT IS? It works by teaching the one being punished a lesson modifying an action/behavior or not to get caught next time.

kittinSol -> RE: PUNISHMENTS (3/24/2009 8:28:36 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SirJ40 Punishment for her is a foot massage, or even the threat of one.. but that's not going to work for too many! It would work for me, honest, Sir.

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