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IronBear -> RE: PUNISHMENTS (3/24/2009 8:39:35 AM)

I'm not big on punishment per se but I am rigid on discipline. It has been my experience both in and out of BDSM and the kink aspect of my life, that you have to work jolly hard for me to punish. In most situations where orders are not obeyed or rules infringed, misunderstanding or a lack of sufficient teaching or even a lack of time management are the real causes rather than a willful act. In these cases I believe in correction and retraining such as I do with our dogs, works better than punishing, which often enough can create negative attitudes. When infractions are deliberate or intentional disobedience occurs, punishment is swift and will fit the “crime” Deliberate acts unless they are as a result of other issues, is likely to result with a summary dismissal. Other punishments may include some retraining and additional duties to reinforce this. Loss of privileges especially where time management is the issue (Such privileges lost will possibly include the privilege of wearing clothes and being included in social outings for a period). Corporal punishment included the cane, crop or the slave whip are all possible too.



MasterDarkSadist -> RE: PUNISHMENTS (3/28/2009 8:52:02 PM)

From my perspective, a punishment should be something that does a few things simultaneously.
1. Allows My slave to atone for her wrong, and to let it go by being punished.
2.  Reinforces the idea that a particular behavior is incorrect and won't be tolerated.
3.  Allows me to let go of the issue, through making sure my slave knows what is acceptable and not, and reinforcing that


One of the best punishments I have used is the essay, or the corner then essay.  It makes them think, and communicate to me what they did wrong, how they will prevent it from happening in the future, and, most importantly, why it is not allowed.

Then again, I have M/s relationships, and not D/s, so my perspective might be a bit different than others.  Pain is not usually a good punishment, unless you use it in a way that promotes thought.  A sub (at least in my case) can process physical pain easily, so it isn't productive without the mental aspect.



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