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Question on M/M relationship - 3/22/2009 4:03:18 PM

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How come these aren't very common? I am about to get into a relationship with a dom, we plan to do BDSM along with forced feminization and humiliation. Has anybody had a good relationship like this? And any suggestions for what to do?

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RE: Question on M/M relationship - 3/22/2009 4:23:07 PM

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This is just a personal guess, but I think that the male gay scene is pretty well developed and most of them who are into BDSM met using their own networking and don't come to sites like this as much. I'm sure there are a lot of them out there.

Give it a little while and see if anybody can give you a decent answer. There are a lot of good people on this message board.

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RE: Question on M/M relationship - 3/22/2009 4:38:41 PM

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I am sure there are plenty of gay/bi men that have had relationships. I am not really sure what your question is. As far as ideas, I would hope the Dom you are getting involved in has some ideas about what to do.

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RE: Question on M/M relationship - 3/22/2009 4:38:43 PM

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Because demographically there are more people into hetrosexual relationships than into homosexual relationships.

I know that beargonewild is in a positive m-m relationship. So, yes, they do happen.

As far as what to do? In what regard?

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RE: Question on M/M relationship - 3/22/2009 5:18:41 PM

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How come these aren't very common? I am about to get into a relationship with a dom, we plan to do BDSM along with forced feminization and humiliation. Has anybody had a good relationship like this? And any suggestions for what to do?

The thing which has to be understood is even the general gay male population is less common here on this site then the heterosexual and bisexual community thus the pool to search from is small. Add in the fact that within the gay community which is splintered into it's own sub cultures such as leather, bears,. twinks, etc. Not all gay men are kinksters and it takes a lot more time and patience for a submissive gay male to find a gay dominant male that is suitable.
As Aylee pointed out, I am in a positive M2M relationship, yet the fact is I met him on another site which isn't BDSM oriented yet my cub and future spouse does have a kinky streak a mile wide!
Another thing which you should consider is not all gay doms are into forced feminization and it's a matter of searching for one who's kinks and proclivities are compatible with yours. If you'd like, I can pass on a few sites that may help you find a dominant gay male who may suit what you're looking for. Just pvt message me here and I'll pass on a few website links.

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RE: Question on M/M relationship - 3/23/2009 1:01:48 AM

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yea thats what i think, my Master has a bunch of BDSM friends but i dont think ever has met someone online

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This is just a personal guess, but I think that the male gay scene is pretty well developed and most of them who are into BDSM met using their own networking and don't come to sites like this as much. I'm sure there are a lot of them out there.

Give it a little while and see if anybody can give you a decent answer. There are a lot of good people on this message board.

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RE: Question on M/M relationship - 3/23/2009 2:25:18 PM

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this sight isnt overly oreinted to gay/bi males where other sites are only for that demographic, therefor you dont have alot of queer boys on this site as aposed to others, i generally avoid gay sights as i find them trashy and get trolled to much for my liking. besides who doesnt like a few hetro's kickin around.

i think kink is more acsepted in the gay world as well as apossed to staight, 2 girls or 2 guys dating obviously have to redefine the man/woman roles of traditional relationships, once you get past that little hurdle the whole D/S thing would seem much easier to get confortable with.

in laymans, i think you have a better chance at finding a gay kinky person than a straight one, just gotta know where to look.

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RE: Question on M/M relationship - 3/23/2009 3:39:59 PM

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Just to be clear, M/M means master/master, right? This post deals more with the interactions of two dominants, independent of sex and orientation.

I'd assume there aren't many because neither is getting what they need (in the M/s dynamic sense) from the other. Why be entwined with someone who can never please you in that capacity? Love does strike in awkward ways, and that brings some M/M couples together. Separating dominance and gender, I see more Dom/Domme couples (but probably a similar amount per capita as compared to the M/M couples of the gay community). Often they got into BDSM after meeting each other and both identified with dominance.

As a dominant male, I can see myself falling in love with a dominant female, but our D/s needs would have to deal with an additional hurdle. It's not the end of the world. We may even add a submissive to our family, but then we'd be M/M/s. Even playing with submissives makes us M/M/s for the night, that is to say we are not complete without someone filling that spot.

The OP, youngdude, identifies as a switch. Assuming 1) he meets a dominant man, and 2) he has a 50-50 switch nature, half the time it's D/s and the other half D/D. What would you do during those times? Find a submissive to play with, stifle the desire, or go see a movie (which is kind of the same as option two).

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RE: Question on M/M relationship - 3/23/2009 7:38:41 PM

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"Just to be clear, M/M means master/master, right? This post deals more with the interactions of two dominants, independent of sex and orientation."

ohhh.. that makes sense since we are on a bdsm site... thanx for freeing me from my blonde moment Heavens.

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RE: Question on M/M relationship - 3/23/2009 8:01:15 PM

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Anytime, I'm here to help.

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RE: Question on M/M relationship - 3/23/2009 8:05:16 PM

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I have to second what Bear said up there. Pretty succinct. Although, I am somewhat into forced fem for my pet, it works because he likes it too. ;) Not to the degree where I would have him going around in a dress or skirt all the time, but, he certainly does look good in soft, pink, satiny things and not much else...

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