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Do You ever have thoughts You shouldn't? - 3/22/2009 8:20:23 PM   
sfdrew


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Status: offline 		As a Mistress, have You ever been tempted or had thoughts about violating Your slave's trust? Have You ever found Yourself tempted to or fantasizing about doing things to them You know are hard limits or are probably a bad idea? As kinky as I am, I know Mistress has thoughts about doing things to me that She restrains. I fear the day She lets loose. She used to face slap me and it caused me to need a root canal due to the jarring, which pinched the nerve, and killedthe tooth. Since then She doesn't face slap me in the mouth or at all but I know She just wants to slap my head off.

Just wondering if this is common with anybody else?

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RE: Do You ever have thoughts You shouldn't? - 3/22/2009 8:23:11 PM   
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RE: Do You ever have thoughts You shouldn't? - 3/22/2009 9:04:22 PM   
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quote:

Have You ever found Yourself tempted to or fantasizing about doing things to them You know are hard limits or are probably a bad idea?


As a sadist I have had many fantasies about doing things that I should not.  Acting on them is a completely different fruit. 

quote:

As a Mistress, have You ever been tempted or had thoughts about violating Your slave's trust?


Making my s-type psychologically uncomfortable ~ yes.  Violating his trust ~ oh hell no!



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RE: Do You ever have thoughts You shouldn't? - 3/22/2009 11:20:12 PM   
IndigoMystry


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Status: offline 		No, never had such thoughts.  The mutual trust and respect goes with the territory.   Why would you even fantasize about doing something beyond their limits to someone you care about? 

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RE: Do You ever have thoughts You shouldn't? - 3/23/2009 1:08:04 AM   
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ORIGINAL: IndigoMystry

No, never had such thoughts.  The mutual trust and respect goes with the territory.   Why would you even fantasize about doing something beyond their limits to someone you care about? 



Because the key word there, to me, is FANTASY.  That means that it is not real.  You might want to invest in a dictionary. 

In a fantasy anything than happen.  The laws of nature need not apply.  There are no consequences.  It does not even have to be practical or possible.  Nobody actually gets hurt.  Things do not get messy.  It is all in the fantasizer's mind. 

An example. . .

You are having dinner in a Chinese restaurant with your s-type.  It passes through your mind that it could be fun to take two sets of chopsticks and attach them to your s-types nipples while at the table. 

That is a fantasy. 

Do you even have rubber bands with you?  Would it really be a good idea to have your s-type remove their shirt in a restauant?  Would you likely end up with some sort of legal problem? 

Those are realities. 

So, you have just had a fantasy about doing something to some one you care about that would violate their trust and their hard limits.  (Legal trouble is typically a hard limit.) 

Has the world come to an end?  Have you endangered your relationship?  Has anyone been harmed?  NO.

For goodness sake, when I was a freshman in high school I had fantasies about a romantic relationship with on of the crew members of the Starship Enterprise.  If you are unaware, it does not even exist. 

What does that say about me?  Well, for one I am a geek.  Other than that, it was a nice bit of escapism.  Likely says something about my feelings of being an outsider in school.  Big whoopty-doo! 

To sum up, I am not sure why you felt that my answer was so horrible.  I also think that it was a much more honest answer than claiming never to have had any fantasies. 

Now. . .

If you were upset over the idea that I might do something to make my s-type psychologically uncomfortable. . .

Well, tough.  It happens.  More than once I have mentioned something that I have been thinking about or might like to try.  I then watch him mentally and psycholgically squirm over the entire idea.  Everytime, he has later came to me to say that he has changed his mind and would like to try it as well.  Typically he gets more enthusiastic about it than I am. 

Again, I do not see the horror.  I have watched scenes in movies, read passages in both fiction and non-fiction, heard jokes, and seen museums that have made me psychologically uncomfortable. 

I am completely missing the reason behind what I see from you as a visceral reaction. 



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RE: Do You ever have thoughts You shouldn't? - 3/23/2009 2:22:37 AM   
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Status: offline 		Never. Not even once. I think had you phrased your questions slightly different, I might have said yes. Do I have urges, sure, but not if they are stated or prefaced with words like "violating trust" and so forth. :)

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RE: Do You ever have thoughts You shouldn't? - 3/23/2009 4:14:34 AM   
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sfdrew wrote: As a Mistress, have You ever been tempted or had thoughts about violating Your slave's trust? Have You ever found Yourself tempted to or fantasizing about doing things to them You know are hard limits or are probably a bad idea?

Those are two completely different questions.  It's perfectly possible to fantasize about something while having no intention of actually doing it.  Fantasizing about anything at all does not and cannot violate anyone's trust, as long as it remains a fantasy.

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RE: Do You ever have thoughts You shouldn't? - 3/23/2009 4:15:22 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Aylee


For goodness sake, when I was a freshman in high school I had fantasies about a romantic relationship with on of the crew members of the Starship Enterprise.  If you are unaware, it does not even exist. 




The question here is: which crew?  mmmmmmm....Picard....


I agree, I think he phrased it kind of funny (this question seems to have stemmed from a discussion we had had earlier in the day).  He makes me out to see like some sort of tooth killing monster!! 




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RE: Do You ever have thoughts You shouldn't? - 3/23/2009 5:41:05 AM   
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RE: Do You ever have thoughts You shouldn't? - 3/23/2009 6:12:01 AM   
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Status: offline 		Does MsKitty fantasize about things She shouldn't? No. Not at all. She fantasizes about everything She wants to fantasize about...that's what Dominant Women DO...they have that purgative. They also have the choice to tell their property about those fantasies because it kills said property's boner while They're getting off. And frankly, they do just about anything they want anyways. If you have that limit, they can ALWAYS find someone who doesn't.

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RE: Do You ever have thoughts You shouldn't? - 3/23/2009 6:45:13 AM   
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Status: offline 		No because he and I have the same set of limitations. So there is nothing that I would want to do that we are not doing already.

HOWEVER these guys that write to me begging me to castrate them, now THAT is different. Oh yeah give me a sledge hammer....in my fantasy of course.

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RE: Do You ever have thoughts You shouldn't? - 3/23/2009 7:23:49 AM   
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RE: Do You ever have thoughts You shouldn't? - 3/23/2009 7:58:09 AM   
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Status: offline 		Oh yeah, I've had those "castrate me" guys write, too.  What's up with that?  Do they think they're going to have a great career as a falsetto soprano in the boys choir again?  Epic Fail.

re: fantasies.  Hmm, guess my fantasy urges are rooted in reality. Dichotomy? Sure.  But then I can always make them happen safely and sanely.  Mind you, I did once have to remind myself that Hellboy was fiction. LOL.

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RE: Do You ever have thoughts You shouldn't? - 3/23/2009 8:45:16 AM   
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Status: offline 		Do I fantasize about being genuinely evil?  ABSOLUTELY.  Sometimes people I love are in those fantasies!  Sometimes, I use those fantasies as mindfuck fodder.

Would I do any of those things?  So far, I haven't.  I do not intend to, either.  But I could...

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RE: Do You ever have thoughts You shouldn't? - 3/23/2009 8:51:46 AM   
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Status: offline 		Oh hell, I've fantasized about doing a lot of things I know I am never going to do. Some of them are even beyond my own boundaries but daydreaming about it doesn't hurt a soul.

(as long as they don't know where to find the bodies......it's only a fantasy......)


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RE: Do You ever have thoughts You shouldn't? - 3/23/2009 8:56:55 AM   
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From what I see, we all have fantasies and some of these fantasies do fall in the realm of being illegal and/or highly immoral. Anyone who says they don't have these type of fantasies are merely self deluding themselves. Hopefully most of us have the ability to separate feasible fantasies from fantasies which stay in the realm of fantasies.


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RE: Do You ever have thoughts You shouldn't? - 3/23/2009 9:05:17 AM   
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ORIGINAL: sfdrew

As a Mistress, have You ever been tempted or had thoughts about violating Your slave's trust? Have You ever found Yourself tempted to or fantasizing about doing things to them You know are hard limits or are probably a bad idea? .....


Not even once

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RE: Do You ever have thoughts You shouldn't? - 3/23/2009 9:32:20 AM   
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Status: offline 		I had no idea y'all were so fluffyhappy!  NEVER had a bad thought ever.  Dang.

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RE: Do You ever have thoughts You shouldn't? - 3/23/2009 10:30:41 AM   
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Status: offline 		I've never had fantasies about breaching the limits of a sub I was actually playing with.  I have, however, had fantasies about nonconsensually dominating and abusing other guys, like my ex-boyfriend or my current boyfriend's college roommate (who liked to boast about how many girls his frat had raped), or my writing teacher who gave me a bad grade because he didn't agree with the sexual morals in my stories.  I have a genuine desire to punish men who have mistreated women and I know this would violate the SSC principle because I dont' want it to be safe or consensual for them.  But I don't think this is a problem in real life because, since these guys think they're better than women, they'll never want to session with me, or any other mistress (which is a shame, we could really help them :p)

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RE: Do You ever have thoughts You shouldn't? - 3/23/2009 12:48:52 PM   
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Status: offline 		Yes. Of course- everyone has little half second fantasys of things they'd like to do to that jackass that just cut them off in traffic.

To me- they are harmless, just because I have the urge to choke a submissive out doesn't mean I'll do it.


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