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StormsSlave -> RE: Can I send you an email? (3/28/2009 1:25:55 PM)
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Writing instead of talking is a cop out to me. It's a way of communicating without interruptions or having to be accountable to be clear. It takes the communication from being a two-way street of "I talk, you talk." to "I talk, you listen." Surely, you can discuss it afterwards, but the opportunity to share the emotion, the thought processes, and the moment together is gone. I have a bad habit in relationships. I tend to struggle with an issue, come to a decision about how to handle it, then inform my partner of my decision and try to argue my point of view when they think I am wrong. Writing would make this all too easy. By approaching My Lord with what I THINK I should do, with the question of "What do you think?" before I make the decision, then I not only share the burden of the decision making, but I leave myself open to his thoughts and feelings on the matter, and we really can come to a decision together.
Open discussion is a requirement in our relationship. My Lord and I gauge each other's faces, our body language, and our tone when we communicate. By removing the opportunity for him to go through this with me, then I remove his opportunity to see my pain/anguish/anger/happiness/love/ocharacter.
If I were writing a love letter to him, that would be one thing. If I were trying to talk to him about an issue, an event, or a situation which required working out between us, it would violate the lines of communication and rob him of an opportunity to share in it with me. I have finally learned everything is easier to deal with when his arms are around me.
Writing is for my journal, my public journal, and discussion boards. For everything else, I'd rather just talk to My Lord.
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