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what usually happens when someone gets collared? - 1/25/2006 8:01:39 PM   
Daddysredhead


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Status: offline 		i have been in a D/s realtionship for over two years and have yet to be collared. my Dom asked me if i thought i was ready for it to happen. i said 'yes' and asked if He would explain it to me. He said He would, but i am just curious as to what i should expect. i can hardly wait... i think. (wink-wink)

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RE: what usually happens when someone gets collared? - 1/25/2006 8:06:36 PM   
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RE: what usually happens when someone gets collared? - 1/25/2006 8:16:47 PM   
Daddysredhead


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Status: offline 		does anyone have something special to recall from collaring someone or being collared? i think that it must be a very intimate time with one's partner, on a very intense level of connection...

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RE: what usually happens when someone gets collared? - 1/25/2006 8:23:53 PM   
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Status: offline 		Why would you say that you are ready for something you have no idea what it means and what you will be agreeing to?

He's the only person who can give you this answer. And he needs to give it before you both commit to it.

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RE: what usually happens when someone gets collared? - 1/25/2006 8:38:54 PM   
Daddysredhead


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Status: offline 		we have talked about it at great length, so i certainly didn't mean to imply that i have no clue what is going on... i know what i am comfortable with and what He is comfortable with and we are in agreement there.

i am just curious as to what other people have done to make the occasion a memorable one... nothing more than that...

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RE: what usually happens when someone gets collared? - 1/25/2006 8:48:52 PM   
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Why would you say that you are ready for something you have no idea what it means and what you will be agreeing to?


Why? Because in this modern day of internet bdsm the lifestyle has become so trendy that it would seem less and less people take time to fully understand what it is before skipping merrily along the information superhighway gathering collars that are tossed out as freely as Mardis Gras beads.
Oops. Did I go on a rant there?

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RE: what usually happens when someone gets collared? - 1/25/2006 8:53:06 PM   
Daddysredhead


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Status: offline 		interesting how my original question was never answered at all... by anyone...

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RE: what usually happens when someone gets collared? - 1/25/2006 9:00:43 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Daddysredhead

interesting how my original question was never answered at all... by anyone...


It's mostly because there really isn't an answer.

We could tell you our experiences, of course, but there -isn't- a "usually" about what happens. Sometimes it's an elaborate ceremony. Sometimes one is simpky given a collar, sometimes something else all-together happens.

You said your partner was gonna explain to you. He's the only one who knows what he intends.

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RE: what usually happens when someone gets collared? - 1/25/2006 9:01:44 PM   
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Status: offline 		Do an internet search for "collaring ceremony" and see what comes up.

I was collared many moons ago by my partner at the time...we already had ritual where he would say show me 'my mouth', 'my breasts', 'pussy', 'arse', and with each command I'd place my hands accordingly and 'offer' them too him... the collaring itself too place at a private play party and we gathered everyone in the lounge, I was brought into the room after a short piece from Steve about how we had met, how he felt, why he was collaring me, etc and told to kneel before him. He asked me if I wished to wear his collar and be his and swear my surrender to him in front of our close friends. He placed the collar, leather with d rings, he kissed me deeply, and then we performed the ritual above....with him spanking me on the butt when the last thing he asked to be presented was my butt! ...everyone toasted the moment and much laugher and tears followed... lol funnily enough thats pretty much what happened with the relationship ;) we weren't ready, not even why we were doing it really, bdsm, or d/s, etc.. but that night holds so much happiness, I think of it fondly, and always will.

I quite like the idea of rituals, or including something like a dance, or the sub recitying a devotion letter they have written specifically for the ceremony.

Some are happy for a private ceremony just between the two of them.

Regardless of whether it is done with pomp and ceremony or in a private spontaneous moment, with or without ritual or terms of endearment ... I hope it's a magic moment for you when it happens :)



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RE: what usually happens when someone gets collared? - 1/25/2006 9:35:50 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Daddysredhead

i have been in a D/s realtionship for over two years and have yet to be collared. my Dom asked me if i thought i was ready for it to happen. i said 'yes' and asked if He would explain it to me. He said He would, but i am just curious as to what i should expect. i can hardly wait... i think. (wink-wink)

Daddysredhead


I can't really tell you. I've seen some elaborate collaring ceremonies where the whole scene is invited. Typically those relationships don't seem to last it out.

I'm not collared so I don't have any personal stories to tell. I have a write-up of the branding. It was just the two of us, my owner did the branding and it was intensely bonding. My piercing was done at a friends house and was also very bonding for us. Both of those things, in particular the branding really made me feel like I was his property.

As the brand healed it was these really neat mind trips when you see just a couple of layers of your skin missing in the form of your owners initial for his last name. And now that its healed its kind of this raised and embossed mark that constantly reminds me of who I belong to. I find the brand and the piercing are very centering. And my owner definitely enjoys looking at and touching the brand now that its healed. Its like doing a custom detail to your car.

I don't know if this answered your question since I'm not talking about a collaring, but I hope it helps. The write up of the actual branding is at: www.wildfleurs.com/brand

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RE: what usually happens when someone gets collared? - 1/25/2006 11:27:19 PM   
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Status: offline 		Himself and I did nothing but talk for the first 8 months. Then we played for the next year while continuing to communicate. Next, we moved in together and lived together for a about 18 months before he collared me. We had a ceremony that was much like a wedding. Our good friends were there to stand by us and we video taped the whole thing and took tons of stills. Before he placed the collar around my neck, we each spoke about what being together meant to us and what the collar meant ... I was very emotional and did cry, but they were happy tears. Michael did not put an actual collar around my neck. He had a solid silver bracelet which is two ropes entwined together. It was a gift from his mentors and about 20 years old at the time. They told him that when he found the right slave, to give it to her.That's my 'collar' and it's beautiful and means the world to me. We exchanged personal vows which we wrote and after the actual collaring, Himself bent me over the horse and each guest came up and gave me a smack on each butt cheek in congratulations with the admonishon from Himself it was the very last time anyone else would ever get to touch me. lol I don't know if the Dom's in attendance were just being nice, buts my girlfriends, submissives all, hit me MUCH harder than the Doms did. :)Then we had a play party for our friends, which lasted till the wee hours of the morning, to thank them for sharing with us. Good food, good friends, lots of tears.. ::and lots of screams which was also good:: It was everything that I imagined and more. Flowers, cake, scented candles, music, a beautiful location. When we actually got married, it paled in comparison. Maybe that's why I remember the date of the collaring so vividly and keep forgetting the actual wedding date. lol

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RE: what usually happens when someone gets collared? - 1/26/2006 5:28:41 AM   
MasterRobert1


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Status: offline 		It's as intimate and personal as you (and your Dom) wish to make it. It's really up to you.Somke type of ceremomy is "usual". As is having in friends to witness and help to celebrate. What is it exactlythat you want to know?

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RE: what usually happens when someone gets collared? - 1/26/2006 8:58:27 AM   
eurosub44


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Status: offline 		I was collared at a "public" session in Colorado...i went into my Masters possesion 24/7 and had no regrets till we had to seperate due to my leaving for overseas....
When you get collared, it means that YOU as a SUB will give all of you to your Master and that you trust him with all that you are and that YOU will serve him...i did and i DO enjoy being of "service" to my Master...

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RE: what usually happens when someone gets collared? - 1/26/2006 9:01:19 AM   
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Status: offline 		Everytime I've been collared as a slave it was impromptu, in the middle of a parking lot at night, with only myself and them around.

Now when I put on a collar for a playdate, it's usually more for fashion, or ritual, but still a fairly simple process of kneeling and collaring.

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RE: what usually happens when someone gets collared? - 1/26/2006 9:20:23 AM   
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RE: what usually happens when someone gets collared? - 1/26/2006 10:47:55 AM   
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Status: offline 		Personally, I prefer a formal ritualistic collaring of a kajira. The details will depend on circumstances and who will be there. However it is possible that after the naked girl has the collar locked about her throat, she may be placed on a suitable available table hand have her pubic hair removed if it isn’t clean shaved already. If she were a white silk (virgin) she may have that matter attended too immediately and certainly she would be tied to the whipping post and introduced to the Gorean Slave Whip (reserved for punishment) so as to enforce her understanding of punishment. In all of these, I may do this in either private or in before the guests.

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RE: what usually happens when someone gets collared? - 1/26/2006 9:57:55 PM   
Daddysredhead


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Status: offline 		THANK YOU to all of you who shared these beautiful experiences. This was exactly what i was asking. my Dom (Daddy) and i talked at length today about this and i was thrilled to see that what He was talking to me about was also as lovely as what Y/you all have written here. i am happy to say that W/we are making some plans for my collaring and i hope that i will have a wonderful story to share sometime soon as well...

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RE: what usually happens when someone gets collared? - 1/26/2006 10:09:13 PM   
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Status: offline 		You grow a third nipple. It's right here in the "Submissive's Guide to Life" handbook, page 167, paragraph 2, sentence 15.


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RE: what usually happens when someone gets collared? - 1/26/2006 10:12:33 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Everytime I've been collared as a slave it was impromptu, in the middle of a parking lot at night, with only myself and them around.

Now when I put on a collar for a playdate, it's usually more for fashion, or ritual, but still a fairly simple process of kneeling and collaring.


Parking lot lol yep that is where I collared my sub. We went into the store and bought the necklace, took it out to the parking lot, he sat in my car and I gave it to him before he got into his car and drove back to Savannah. There was no big deal made, it was private and sincere. We did however spend a great deal of time discussing what his collar was going to be. Whether it was going to be a necklace or another peice of jewlery. He finally chose a sterling silver necklace. We never call it a necklace or chain though, it is his collar.

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RE: what usually happens when someone gets collared? - 1/26/2006 10:48:16 PM   
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ORIGINAL: KittenWithaTwist

You grow a third nipple. It's right here in the "Submissive's Guide to Life" handbook, page 167, paragraph 2, sentence 15.



Shoot! You mean those books really do exist?? And I thought Master was kidding me when He said He had a copy!

My "collar" is my engagement ring and we will be getting married sometime this year depending on Master's health issues. We may have a simple collaring ceremony after that, but that is yet to be discussed. More likely we'll be having a bbq with friends, most not into the lifestyle themselves but kink friendly all the same

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