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The reason for His hours is not His choosing, He is a soldier...He works the hours He is told which can be upto 24/7.

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ORIGINAL: antipode

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The reason for His hours is not His choosing, He is a soldier...He works the hours He is told which can be upto 24/7.

Within my peer group in and around D.C., we normally give a former soldier, sailor, or marine a full year after retirement before they are able to think independently and manage themselves and others effectively. Flyers do a little better.

This isn't a criticism of the military or of soldiers, they're trained this way for very good reasons. Lots of people put them ("awesome") on a pedestal where they do not belong. It is not well understood that it is very much harder to hit the bull's eye at 2000 meters if you're worrying about the kids and the mortgage, and as you know, the military typically tries to take those worries away from its personnel, for good reasons. And as you know, the military builds up its personnel to think they're supermen and -women, unrealistic but necessary to "get the job done".

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Dunno maybe you just had bad exp with some knuckle head

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The military Spouse Clubs generally are there to keep people informed.  If the military person is expected home from deployment, they normally have a phone system to let everyone know when the plane or whatever transporation they are using is do to show...and where.  Since plans change constantly (mine never got home at the time I was first informed) the clubs let you know the new ETA.   They get people from the base....such as Special Services, Housing, or the PX system to give talks on what they have to offer to people. 

I'm sure not all clubs are the same.  I'm sure some are not as good as others, however, with people transferring in and out of a unit constantly...she might just find a well organized club.  All she can do is try it.  Nothing says anyone has to attend all the meetings. 

I'd also like to inform you that my own son was married to a Navy woman and was a member of the Spouse Club. 

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Otherwise, I have had no bad experiences - the first division I put together, in D.C., grew to 800 staff, and was almost half former military. My carpool drops passengers at the Pentagon, in the morning, and picks what we call "slugs" up there in the evening. I really am kinda close, and more than half of my division's revenues come from the Fed . I just see the folks that come out of the military, and what it takes corporate America to turn them into useful employees, managers, and sometimes executives. There is nothing wrong with this - the military has very different aims from the commercial world, and military leadership training is very different from leadership training in the commercial world.

But again, I am not saying anything negative here. They have many good attributes, and we take almost every applicant out of the U.S. Armed Forces that rings our bell, for that reason - proven reliability, ability to stay within predetermined frameworks, security conscious, hierarchically conscious, etc. You just haven't lived until you've tried to teach a Marine how to deal with civilians, and what exactly the difference is between motivating recruits, and motivating civilians [;)]. Trust me.

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Can Husband and Master be One?

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Part of the Green Beret training survival school you would pair up<you would pick your buddy cuz your life depended on it> give you enuff food and water for 3 days a knife compass canteen toss your ass in the jungle and survive for 7 days. Yea those guys can't think for themselves or work independently.


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Part of the Green Beret training survival school you would pair up<you would pick your buddy cuz your life depended on it> give you enuff food and water for 3 days a knife compass canteen toss your ass in the jungle and survive for 7 days. Yea those guys can't think for themselves or work independently.


BadOne

Amen brother amen! Mind you the same basically applies to most Special Force Units I've come across in the US, UK, Israel and of course here in Aussie. When I was mining and had a drilling & Blasting company operating in Western Australia for a couple of years on open cut gold mines all my guys were Vietnam vets and most were ex SAS or similar. Much easier to deal with and mostly were people who I knew could and would get the job done no matter how tough the conditions were.. Bloody buggers could drink well too....

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since W/we got married the D/s has decreased significantly

This subject is discussed frequently, in the forums. In many, if not most cases, one of the partners uses D/s as a tool to "hook" the other, then once the relationship is established, drops it. "Getting it back" generally does not exist - you can't change another person, only yourself.

Look at it this way: if he wanted D/s, getting married would not have had a high importance (unless practical considerations like car & health insurance, or immigration, were at issue). So if he pushed to marry you, having you exclusively would have been his ultimate goal, not the D/s. If you were the one pushing for marriage, because you wanted to have your cake and eat it, you now know better.