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RE: Judging a book by it's cover - 3/25/2009 5:49:55 PM   
MidMichCowboy


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Status: offline 		I do like to see a picture. I'm of the school where I believe there has to be an attraction and spark. Sorry, I want it all.
I want to wake up, look at her sleeping beside me and lose my heart all over again. I'm not all that, but I post it out there. I've had ladies tell me I'm too old or they are not attracted to me. I have no problem with that honesty.

As for this lady:

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ORIGINAL: heartcream
But if you are a human with content and consciousness you have a lot more freedom expressing yourself. The profile is the business card, the one who puts it out there is what really really counts.


This lady has the coolest pictures I've seen for quite a bit. She shows herself, but does it with an artistic flair.
Love the reflections, the glimpses and the personality that shows through.

I don't hide who I am. From pictures to what I write, what you see is what you get.
(Damn ... maybe that's why it hasn't worked)


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RE: Judging a book by it's cover - 3/25/2009 6:04:11 PM   
Riesa


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Status: offline 		I am going back over +10 yr ago before i had a webcam back in 1996+01 and agreed to meet 2 seperate people, first one i chatted to for 4 mth was 28 yr old we swapped few pics, he turned up in my local cafe and joined me as i was waiting, he was not a day under 55, the second he was 30 turned up at my home after talking for a couple of weeks, not a day under 50, dressed as a woman, why do people lie when we are bound to meet anyway, i dont lie, what you see is what you get, i am glad we have webcams nowadays, these 2 were not from here, (CM).
no need to lie,
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RE: Judging a book by it's cover - 3/25/2009 6:36:37 PM   
DavanKael


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Status: offline 		I was just looking at some pics from a party the other night.  The party was over 6 years ago and I don't look appreciably different (knock-on-wood).  Soooo, I wouldn't say that a picture that's been around awhile is an immediate issue. 
Now, the picture not being of the person is unacceptable. 
'Course, I haven't ever posted photos on here, so < shrug >. 
  Davan

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RE: Judging a book by it's cover - 3/25/2009 7:16:41 PM   
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Status: offline 		I am often accused of using an old picture because I don't look my age.  So by having my real age in my profiles people often assume I'm using a picture that is fake or at least 10 years old. :(


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RE: Judging a book by it's cover - 3/25/2009 7:56:10 PM   
DrkJourney


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quote:

ORIGINAL: JovialSadist

(I'm not sure if this has been discussed here before or not; but if it has I missed it).

How many of us have seen profiles displaying pictures of someone only to find out the picture is of a friend or more than 5 years old? Do you think pictures are a good way to judge a potential partner? And if so, once you are talking, do you ask to see something date stamped to prove it's worth?


The only way I use a pic to "judge", for lack of a better word, a potential partner is along the lines of what you said.  If the pic is not of them, then they are starting our aquaintence with a lie.   Kind of hard to trust someone that started off lying to you.

Other than that, looks are not a big thing for me.  Not going to do me any good if he's some chisled boy toy but you can't have a conversation with him or take him out in public, because he can't say anything intelligent....lol

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RE: Judging a book by it's cover - 3/25/2009 8:52:03 PM   
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Status: offline 		my current pic is a few years old, yes.  but its there because *i* like it, not to lure in anyone else.  its just a cute pic, me with a kitty. 

when i was looking, i had recent photos on my profile.  and i was willing to send photos.  but....i only look like what i look like.  i may chose flattering photos of me, but they are still *me*, like it or leave it.

kitten, posing happily with his imperial bobness, the neighbor's cat.

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RE: Judging a book by it's cover - 3/26/2009 10:22:36 AM   
akisha


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Status: offline 		I have one picture on my profile that is 10 years old, and the newest one is the one of Master and myself taken last year.

I'm extremely camera shy so getting pictures of me is hard to do lol. Just ask my family. they now make me stand for the stupid camera at every family function.

Using someone elses picture is just deceiteful and unless you plan to never meet anyone in person, it's a complete waste of time.

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RE: Judging a book by it's cover - 3/26/2009 5:36:12 PM   
MarsBonfire


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Status: offline 		Honestly. Look at that pic. If I were going to lie, or cheat... I think I could do a better job. I always approach other people's pics with a grain of salt. If they seem too good to me true, or professionally shot... I figure it's fake. If I meet them and it turns out that they DO look like a model... well... miracles happen I guess!

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RE: Judging a book by it's cover - 3/26/2009 6:26:18 PM   
Andalusite


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Status: offline 		BTW, there is one circumstance in which it is not lying or deceitful to use pictures of other people. Some people have pictures of their partner or playpartner, clearly labelled as such (either demonstrating their rope handiwork, or just showing what their partner looks like.

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RE: Judging a book by it's cover - 3/26/2009 7:04:33 PM   
MarcEsadrian


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quote:

ORIGINAL: JovialSadist

(I'm not sure if this has been discussed here before or not; but if it has I missed it).

How many of us have seen profiles displaying pictures of someone only to find out the picture is of a friend or more than 5 years old? Do you think pictures are a good way to judge a potential partner? And if so, once you are talking, do you ask to see something date stamped to prove it's worth?


No matter what website you're on, check the profile for more than one photo, and consider the composition of those photos as well. Indicators of a possible fake profile are those having only one image (of someone extremely attractive), or a series of them that look like they've been pulled from a stock or adult photo set. After the basics of communication have been passed, asking the individual to do a salute isn't a bad idea either. Most people can do this easily enough, considering there are digital cameras everywhere these days.

As for judging a book by its cover: though it may not be "correct" to do so, it is human nature; we are visual creatures. As such, there is no reason why we shouldn't aspire toward the best aesthetic we can find, not only in others, but ourselves. I'm sure many will find that to be somewhat shallow advice, but that's ok. I'll deal with it.

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RE: Judging a book by it's cover - 3/26/2009 8:40:57 PM   
littlesarbonn


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Status: offline 		I tend to look exactly as I did 5 years ago, and I rarely take current photos (although my current one on my profile was taken a few months ago for my work registration). So that's never really concerned me. I ran into a girlfriend from a decade ago right before I left to go to Korea, and she laughed that I haven't changed a SINGLE bit in the last ten years. That's just me.

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RE: Judging a book by it's cover - 3/26/2009 11:30:29 PM   
NihilusZero


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Status: offline 		This comprises two issues:

First, the authenticity of the images people have on their profiles. You'll rarely see an image folder (of a genuine person) full of pro-touched images...even from the folks on here who have done modeling. That's a big first clue...particularly if there is only one such image.

Second, is the topic of whether the physical aspect of an individual is a pertinent factor in interest. I see far too many people who seem comfortable forsaking their physical/visual preferences because of the over-prioritization of "what's inside". Settling is settling regardless which facet you apply it to. Granted, it is anyone's prerogative to do so...but I personally am interest in having as close to the entirety of my prerequisites met.

< Message edited by NihilusZero -- 3/26/2009 11:31:31 PM >

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RE: Judging a book by it's cover - 3/27/2009 12:20:57 AM   
MarcEsadrian


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quote:

ORIGINAL: NihilusZero

Second, is the topic of whether the physical aspect of an individual is a pertinent factor in interest. I see far too many people who seem comfortable forsaking their physical/visual preferences because of the over-prioritization of "what's inside". Settling is settling regardless which facet you apply it to. Granted, it is anyone's prerogative to do so...but I personally am interested in having as close to the entirety of my prerequisites met.


Well said.

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RE: Judging a book by it's cover - 3/27/2009 12:33:06 AM   
heartcream


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Oh thanks for the compliments MidMichCowboy.

< Message edited by heartcream -- 3/27/2009 12:35:06 AM >

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RE: Judging a book by it's cover - 3/27/2009 12:52:33 AM   
Prinsexx


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quote:

ORIGINAL: JovialSadist

(I'm not sure if this has been discussed here before or not; but if it has I missed it).

How many of us have seen profiles displaying pictures of someone only to find out the picture is of a friend or more than 5 years old? Do you think pictures are a good way to judge a potential partner? And if so, once you are talking, do you ask to see something date stamped to prove it's worth?

I guess it's fair to ask why would  a person intentionally use someone else's pic?
For numerous reasons I guess like:
1. Having low self-worth
2. Being under the age of consent and wanting to lie
3. Being under 18 years old and wanting to get on the site
4. Wanting to hide their true identity
5. Wanting to get laig and needing to appear as a couple instead of a single male or appearing as a single female instead of a single male....This based on the assumption that it is more difficult to get hooked up if you are a single male.

But another reason is the risk involved in appearing as one's self. On alt the terms of conditions with regard to pies is different so there tends to be endless cock shots (scuse pun). I take a risk on here as appearing exactly as who I am... ok so in different moods and so on. But then if anyone who knew me from my world of work they would also have to explain why they were perving me on here anyways.




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RE: Judging a book by it's cover - 3/27/2009 9:14:52 AM   
MarcEsadrian


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quote:

ORIGINAL: heartcream

Form matches essence.



If only that were true of all human beings! It's nice—and ideal—when it does happen, however.

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RE: Judging a book by it's cover - 3/27/2009 9:25:25 AM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		I think my photo is just a little over a year old. It was taken by my sister when we were painting (which is why it is cropped and fuzzy so you all wouldn't see the paint splattered, hole filled, ancient, old t-shirt and jeans I had on)  She later sent it to me because she liked it.

The photo of me riding, I have no idea when that was taken. One of our many trail rides.

I am the one that is usually BEHIND the camera so I have very few photos of myself.

I am not on here looking for the love of my life so I really don't care if anyone like's the photos or if I am representing my current self exactly. I simply put them here so people have a clue who they are chatting with. I know I like to have a face to put with the words and name and love ogling profiles. It would be rather rude of me to not give them something to point and laugh at also.

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RE: Judging a book by it's cover - 3/27/2009 10:32:49 AM   
Kana


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Status: offline 		I just care that the pic is representative
if it is, great. I am not worried about the time frame.
Now if radical changes have gone on....

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RE: Judging a book by it's cover - 3/27/2009 11:00:48 AM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		Well there is that huge wart that is growing on my nose. It's rather cute to be honest. It has 6, curly, little black hairs growing out of it.

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RE: Judging a book by it's cover - 3/27/2009 4:20:55 PM   
NuevaVida


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quote:

ORIGINAL: JovialSadist

(I'm not sure if this has been discussed here before or not; but if it has I missed it).

How many of us have seen profiles displaying pictures of someone only to find out the picture is of a friend or more than 5 years old? Do you think pictures are a good way to judge a potential partner? And if so, once you are talking, do you ask to see something date stamped to prove it's worth?


I tend to be more interested in the words inside the book than in its cover.

However, yes, if I am talking with someone I will want to see a photo.  I will also gladly send a photo.  If I am interested in some sort of relationship with him, then I will plan to meet him.  So if the photo is old and falsely represents, I will know when we meet.  I don't ask for date stamps, but I do ask how recent the picture is.  If he says it is recent and it obviously is not, then relationship possibilities end due to dishonesty.


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