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How do you flag ? - 3/26/2009 12:03:23 PM   
crouchingtigress


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Status: offline 		How do you tell the public that you are into SM? Are your clues subtle? Do you use sybols like a triske tattoo or handcuff earrings, or do you do it in person, drop hints in conversation....

Just curious how others do it...



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RE: How do you flag ? - 3/26/2009 12:06:01 PM   
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How do you tell the public that you are into SM?

I don't.

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RE: How do you flag ? - 3/26/2009 12:10:06 PM   
RCdc


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It's not so much about letting people about ones sex or play life.  It's about living life to it's fullest and being happy.
(And occasionally perving gorgeous photographs like yours)
 
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RE: How do you flag ? - 3/26/2009 12:11:59 PM   
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Status: offline 		   I've never flagged, but I've often wanted to try a black handkerchief  in my right pocket just to see if anyone notices...

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RE: How do you flag ? - 3/26/2009 12:13:45 PM   
RCdc


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  I've never flagged, but I've often wanted to try a black handkerchief  in my right pocket just to see if anyone notices...


I would just think you had sinus trouble...with style.
 
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RE: How do you flag ? - 3/26/2009 12:28:00 PM   
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Status: offline 		I flag in such a way that those in the lifestyle MIGHT see it. I always have my keys out, hanging from the left pocket. Beyond that, I don't bother.

Classic flagging only works on those who are in the know...and hence, not vanilla anyway.

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RE: How do you flag ? - 3/26/2009 12:33:08 PM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		I would be afraid I would lose my keys.

I was going to say I don't, then I thought about how I met the delightful gentleman that filled my office with daffodils this morning.

I always knew he was gay, he is one of my favourite people in the whole world, and he is a customer of ours. But through joking around without any thought, we both had a lightbulb moment.

With that in mind, I guess little clues do slip into conversation without even thinking much about it.


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RE: How do you flag ? - 3/26/2009 12:36:58 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: crouchingtigress

How do you tell the public that you are into SM? Are your clues subtle? Do you use sybols like a triske tattoo or handcuff earrings, or do you do it in person, drop hints in conversation....

Just curious how others do it...




If it comes up naturally in the flow of conversation or I specifically want the person to know, I say something like: "so,I was oing some rope bondage yesterday with my friend Sarah..." (or whatever applies correctly). 

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RE: How do you flag ? - 3/26/2009 12:39:39 PM   
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RE: How do you flag ? - 3/26/2009 12:57:22 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		Ditto on the keys.  I've only ever lost Mine once, but I do have them on  a hook that prevents that.  On My rear view mirror of the car, I have a small set of red cuffs.

I also have a purse that catches a lot of attention.  It's the foot portion of a stiletto boot with chains that run up where the back part of where the foot would be and also serve as the strings.  Let Me tell you.  That thing is a legend in itself.  Even the nillas love it.  People go ga ga over it wherever I go.  I've had people stop Me in the street to ask about it more times than I could tell you about.  There has even been one instance when I was at a restaurant where a gentleman approached Me and offered to buy it from Me on the spot, for twice what I paid for it.


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RE: How do you flag ? - 3/26/2009 1:22:28 PM   
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Status: offline 		i tend to have very good gaydar, kinkdar and whatnot. i tend to pick up vibes of people around me alot, i typically know when someone thinks i am cute or if tention is in a room. its a matter of reading people,

people will often joke about things they want to hint about, it depends on the person and how they joke. the "freind of dorthey" type flags dont work on people that much, its all about subtle hints, the more out you and they are the easier it is to pick up on the sub/dom vibes. iv found alot of the people i have met into kink will pick up on my vibes and flurt in a kinda assertive way. if i really like someone i tend to drop in my social assertivness alot around them to make myself seem more aproachable.

i think picking up on vibes, flags and such isnt really something someone can learn that well beyound their own experiance, it is a people skill which you kinda have to learn by trial and error.


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RE: How do you flag ? - 3/26/2009 1:25:31 PM   
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Status: offline 		I have a key chain that I let hang out of my pocket....It is a nipple clamp with a dried up nip in it's grip.  I figure anyone that talks to me without screaming, gagging or calling the cops is one of those "no-limit" subs I have been searching for.

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RE: How do you flag ? - 3/26/2009 1:30:29 PM   
ThomasMore


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Status: offline 		It's no one's business except the people actually in the dynamic.

Explaining things to plebes is a drag.

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RE: How do you flag ? - 3/26/2009 1:33:19 PM   
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Status: offline 		Guess I not in the withit crowd keys hangin out of  pocket???  Never heard of it.  what does it mean?  Ive seen ppl with keys on their belt loop same thing?  Wallet on a chain have any meaning?

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RE: How do you flag ? - 3/26/2009 1:36:26 PM   
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Status: offline 		Wallet on a chain.........truck driver!

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RE: How do you flag ? - 3/26/2009 1:38:38 PM   
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RE: How do you flag ? - 3/26/2009 1:39:07 PM   
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Status: offline 		I do not flag SM unless at an event where there are others who use the same symbolism.
 


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RE: How do you flag ? - 3/26/2009 1:40:07 PM   
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It's random. It depends on how much I want someone to know. I don't care to let everyone know. If I am attracted to a man on some level and want to clue him in, I can usually do so with body language, flirtation, or just directly telling him, if we're at an appropriate stage in a relationship.

But casually - within 5 minutes, for example - I find it to be relatively easy as it's part of my persona, my flirty nature.  I just put out "feelers" and see what vibe I get.

I was at a hockey game a few months ago and a couple of "cute" guys were flirting with me and my girlfriend. We were sitting, they were standing in the aisle (intermission) talking.  Rather than stand up, which is common courtesy, I motioned that he should crouch down instead.  He looked at my boots, and he said, "Nice boots."  I said, "Thanks. They go great with my whips and chains."  The combination of that, along with my direct nature, my eye contact, and my body language was absolutely clear - based on his response, I could tell he was vanilla but open minded.  I could have gone any direction with that.  It just requires reading between the lines a bit.

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RE: How do you flag ? - 3/26/2009 2:07:17 PM   
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Status: offline 		Funnily enough i was in a police interview room yesterday (don't ask) and getting some funny looks. It wasn't until i got home that i realised my collar had turned and the padlock was on show
So i'm guessing my collar and the handcuff necklace pretty much give it away
 

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RE: How do you flag ? - 3/26/2009 2:39:09 PM   
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ORIGINAL: SailingBum

Guess I not in the withit crowd keys hangin out of  pocket???  Never heard of it.  what does it mean?  Ive seen ppl with keys on their belt loop same thing?  Wallet on a chain have any meaning?

BadOne



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