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ORIGINAL: RavenMuse

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ORIGINAL: IrishMist
Exactly. She's playing him. No if's, and's or but's about it.

Has been doing yes. Basicaly he has been thinking like a sub, it is all very well giving an order but he hasn't been setting a clear boundery and sticking to it, you subs are going to test a boundery, especialy with someone new, to ensure the dom means it and can hold it. She was allowed to walk all over any boundery that was set.

This as far as I see it is no longer about her. Its about him getting out of it in a way he makes a decision about. If he sets this boundery (Or if by some quirk she makes this one, she'll test another very soon) and she fails at submitting to it, he can hold to it at least this once. Come out of this with a better mind set, more knowledge and able to look at if he is realy cut out for being a Dom (And that is upto HIM to work out, not you or I)

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That's utter bullshit. He's not controlling this at all, she is. By giving her more time, he is not setting the terms...he is telling her..."hey, you're playing me...but what the fuck...it's ok...go right ahead...I'll even be so Domly as to give you another month to play your game"

You are looking at it as if there is any chance of this continuing. Petal that would take a change on the scale of the road to Damascus. He knows what she is, he knows what he did wrong.

He has taken advice here and made a decision.... Not the way I'd handle it but he's made a decision and if he is going to continue trying to find hims Dom side then he has to start making decisions and sticking to them. Not just with a sub but with himself.

THAT is the positive bit here.

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Nah, not annoyed...I just enjoy being difficult [8D]

And your sort of cute with it too[;)]

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ORIGINAL: SirKenin
I have read this over a couple of times and thought about it. It does make sense provided we had more information from the sub, but do you not feel you are being awfully presumptious considering we have absolutely no data to work with apart from that of the Dom?

My way of looking at things is that there are three sides to every story. His side, her side and the truth. Unfortunately we do not have enough data to make any accurate conclusions, so I do not think it is fair to judge her sight unseen.

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ORIGINAL: SirKenin

Yes, I certainly understand about the Dom aspect of it. I Myself do not approve with the way he is handling the boundaries, not that that is really worth anything.

It was just the condemnation of the sub I was questioning. I have no data to work with, so it is only safe to say that there very well could be reasonable circumstances preventing her from making the commitments she has attempted to make. I believe in this circumstance there is no harm in giving the woman the benefit of the doubt.