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RE: The "Getting to Know You" Stage... - 4/27/2009 11:22:29 AM

LaTigresse

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It's okay, your a cute weird.

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Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!

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RE: The "Getting to Know You" Stage... - 4/27/2009 2:12:36 PM

crazyredhead1957

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ORIGINAL: HeavansKeeper

CrazyRedHead, I've already seen you leashed up, on all fours, seen down your shirt, and know you like some dirty talk and a spanked bottom. This is hardly the introductory information I'd have if we were pupils or co-workers.

I can appreciate the difference here, and the need to handle this automatic intimacy in a comforting manner. I'm certainly not trying to dismiss the wonder of the dance, merely explain why it can go overlooked by so many people.

HeavansKeeper, thank You so much for Your answer to my post. You are so right, and always so right on target. In the last few days, i've realized that my profile pictures alone give a sleazy impression, and have deleted and changed some of them. Heck, MOST of them. i've also changed the wording on the essay portion of my profile. Now i'm considering deleting the kink off my list of loves/likes/tolerates and so on. The reason i had included it was so it would't have to be asked about right off.

To E/everyone, thanks for all Y/your replies. Very informative. They are helping me update to a "decent" profile.

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RE: The "Getting to Know You" Stage... - 4/27/2009 2:29:28 PM

SnowRanger

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Hello A/all,

I am with LaTigresse. It's an internet thing. There is an annonimity to it. We assume that there is a 'saftey' to it. I've posted this a couple of times; but, I think that it's worth repeating:
   CM does not remove any of the steps necessary in the "Getting
   to Know You" process. Too many of us make the mistake of
   believing that it does. All you can reasonably expect from CM
   is a help in finding and meeting the kind of person that you seek.
Thus endeth the lecture.

I use the "Ask a Mistress" forum to gain a better understanding of Women in general and Dominant Women in particular. This forum helps me with socialization skills necessary to succeed in the FemDomme Universe. It helps me understand what my desires really are; what my limits really are and where I need to make compromises. I am thankful to all of the Mistress who frequent this venue for that (ongoing) education.

That having been said, I am anxious to find someone to serve in real time; face to (ummmm) face. I can't think of one of you that I'd rather 'cyber' with than serve in person. This gives my sympathy for the guys who want to meet NOW... RIGHT NOW!

Well, That's my nickle ninety eight.
Respectfully to A/all and Submissively to ONE,
Mike
Snow(less)Ranger

< Message edited by SnowRanger -- 4/27/2009 2:31:31 PM >

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RE: The "Getting to Know You" Stage... - 4/28/2009 8:28:30 AM

Andalusite

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I think online is a good way to screen people out, but I don't feel I truly get to know someone until I've met them in person a couple of times. Like Venatrix, I feel that coming on that strong is a "next," that asking them about vanilla/other interests is a waste of time, since they'll be right back to trying to cyber at me. I prefer to wait until I meet someone in person before discussing kinks - much hotter listening to their breathing get a little ragged and their heartbeat accelerating than to try to reduce it to a few sentences on a screen.

LadyPact, I've met people without showing them an identifiable closeup of my face - I'm a little nervous about sharing pictures, since some people have had them spread around/etc. I just tell them what I'm wearing, and call them when I get there. My photos here are headless, but I'm not in just underwear.

LaT, I don't think it's just on the Internet, I've run into people in person with a similar attitude at munches and playparties. If anything, it's far more awkward in person.

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