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Missokyst -> RE: Leaves me wanting (7/11/2009 12:48:32 PM)
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Personally I believe that MANY people profess to be dom sub switch ect to get sex. It does not mean they are what they say they are simply because they say it.
To the OP
DUH.. this guy wants sex and then to be gone. How many times do you have to experience it to know it?
I hear people say ask your master, discuss this with him, be patient. ect. But seems as if you have brought it to his attention and yet nothing has changed. What about this senario makes it appear he is a master and not a guy out for easy sex?
If this was a nilla relationship would you be satisfied with your guy coming over to grab a beer, get a BJ and then go off to enjoy the rest of his day?
Its not rocket science.
Kyst
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ORIGINAL: chamberqueen
First, I'm sorry you're going through this. I know it's difficult.
Second, showing your anger about it will rarely get you what you want. You are the submissive, and while many of your wants should be met that doesn't mean that they all will be, and not necessarily on your time schedule.
Try to put yourself in his shoes. Not all people enjoy talking on the phone and prefer to use the computer. He's not the first Dom that I've heard of that finishes having sex and leaves within minutes. He asked you to be patient and you got more angry.
Patience is one of the most difficult things to learn. We all crave time with our Doms/Masters or we wouldn't be in the relationship. Only he knows if he is training you or if all he wants is short conversations and some sex and run. Let him know calmly and respectfully what you want from him. Here's an example: "You know, my ideal would be if we could have contact each day for at least a short time on the computer and if we could talk a couple of times a week. I enjoy your company so much that I wish you could stay with me more than a few minutes after sex so that when you leave I could feel that I truly pleased you." If you put it in terms of him being pleased, even though it is taking care of YOUR wants, you are more likely to get it.
Yes, a sub's wants should be fulfilled but by simply demanding it chances are you won't get it. It may be a case of incompatible goals for the relationship.
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