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IrishMist -> RE: Down Right Horny!!! (1/29/2006 1:25:44 PM)

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Some have understood the post...


Ahhh, but true...you asked a specific question...posted it to a group that could in no way answer it in the sense that you wanted...at least not with the same answers

I understood the question perfectly, in the sense that you posted it. But, because of my own experiece...I answered based on that.

You ask...he/she says yes or no...end of discussion because it matters not what you want, but what he/she wants.

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SUB/SLAVE wants attention! It's all about Owners... And the few Owners I've seen respond make it all about them and nothing to do with sub/slaves. This is where I really find out I differ from so many others on here. I too know my Master comes first... but I know I come in somewhere too in all this


Again...WANTS...there is a big difference between wants and needs. The only thing I WANT is to make him happy...by making HIM happy...my wants are being fulfilled...whether it be sexually, or otherwise. Now, granted, this is going in tune with the belief that no Master/dom would ever deliberatly ignore the needs of his sub/slave.

Craving attention though, that is not a need, it's a want. I am sorry, but that is just my belief. I do not need to have someone pay attention to me to know that he cares for me. I WANT to have attention paid to me, but it is not something that I NEED to survive.



DelRey -> RE: Down Right Horny!!! (1/29/2006 1:36:03 PM)

we got off the subject, and now I'm horny.... [;)]



MHOO314 -> RE: Down Right Horny!!! (1/29/2006 1:37:38 PM)


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ORIGINAL: DelRey

we got off the subject, and now I'm horny.... [;)]



Not today.



IrishMist -> RE: Down Right Horny!!! (1/29/2006 1:40:44 PM)


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ORIGINAL: DelRey

we got off the subject, and now I'm horny.... [;)]


LMAO how did we get off subject?
/scratches head in confusion

As to being horny...well, sorry but I umm, can not help you there

[8|]



Oumae -> RE: Down Right Horny!!! (1/29/2006 1:50:49 PM)


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ORIGINAL: truesub4u



Now let's go on the aspects of this... SUB/SLAVE wants attention! It's all about Owners... And the few Owners I've seen respond make it all about them and nothing to do with sub/slaves. This is where I really find out I differ from so many others on here. I too know my Master comes first... but I know I come in somewhere too in all this.





I actually don't think it is all about me. It may be about my way but I care about my subs and want them fulfilled and happy and not just because they may serve better but because I wouldnt be with a sub I didnt care about.

Still doesn't mean I don't like to hear them beg or that I might say no. [;)]

Oumae



KnightofMists -> RE: Down Right Horny!!! (1/29/2006 2:23:02 PM)

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ORIGINAL: truesub4u

Ok we all know when the Dom wants to play... it's play time.

But what if sub/slave wants to play?



I take! -- they ask!

Not exactly a equitable situation, but there is two of them and only one of me... gosh if they just took when they wanted.... I never get any sleep! I do have to look after my health you know *G*

But, seriously that is how it works in my relationships. Everyone is different, they find what works and they do it. So really the question should be something is asked to ones partner(s). Having an understanding of how that works is rather important i would think.

BTW, Not all Dom's can just have play when they want... that really is not a realistic generalization. I am want to play, but there are factors that will limit my want from occuring... such as the condition of my girl or bad timing of unwanted visitors like PARENTS! *G* But all in all, I am very fortunate to have what i desire/want more often than not, I am also aware that it is important my girls get there desires/wants met in these ways as well... so they ask! I am not a mind reader! Asking is not just for play, but if they are interested in experiencing something.. they ask... Of course that doesn't mean I say yes every time... In fact, sometimes I do say No... or maybe at another time etc etc.





IceyOne -> RE: Down Right Horny!!! (1/29/2006 3:45:20 PM)

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But what if sub/slave wants to play?


Then you do the sensible thing and ask your Master/Dom. All he/she can do is say no. If it's a yes...then have at it...if it's a no...well then, sorry, end of discussion.



Wildfleurs -> RE: Down Right Horny!!! (1/29/2006 5:01:05 PM)

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ORIGINAL: truesub4u

We've seen post on all different aspects of who owns who.... who pleases who... etc... I have a question here. This could of probably been post in a ask a sub, or ask a Dom. But I wanted to ask both.

Ok we all know when the Dom wants to play... it's play time.

But what if sub/slave wants to play?


Then I’ll ask him if we can play or if we can fuck. I’m certainly allowed to be horny, I mean its not like he could control that (maybe if he made me eat rotten fish or sit around and smell shit – basically do things that are so disgusting that sex becomes the last thing I think about). But basically I’m allowed to masturbate as much as I want to so that’s always a solution.

But if I don’t feel like masturbating and just want sex, I can ask him. I’m usually naked so I’ll go over to him and kneel in front of him, show him my brand, if I’m feeling really aggressive sometimes I’ll straddle him. Usually any of those things will clue him in pretty fast, and I have a very strong libido so he knows that in general I’m ready to go most times.

Just because I ask, or hell even if I straddle him that is no guarantee that I’ll get sex. If he’s not interested he’ll let me know, and him not being interested has nothing to do with me, it could be for a myriad of reasons. But I’m definitely allowed to make my feelings known and at times be demonstrative about it (kneeling at his feet, straddling him, etc).

C~



truesub4u -> RE: Down Right Horny!!! (1/29/2006 7:30:30 PM)

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ORIGINAL: KnightofMists

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ORIGINAL: truesub4u

Ok we all know when the Dom wants to play... it's play time.

But what if sub/slave wants to play?



I take! -- they ask!

Not exactly a equitable situation, but there is two of them and only one of me... gosh if they just took when they wanted.... I never get any sleep! I do have to look after my health you know *G*

But, seriously that is how it works in my relationships. Everyone is different, they find what works and they do it. So really the question should be something is asked to ones partner(s). Having an understanding of how that works is rather important i would think.

BTW, Not all Dom's can just have play when they want... that really is not a realistic generalization. I am want to play, but there are factors that will limit my want from occuring... such as the condition of my girl or bad timing of unwanted visitors like PARENTS! *G* But all in all, I am very fortunate to have what i desire/want more often than not, I am also aware that it is important my girls get there desires/wants met in these ways as well... so they ask! I am not a mind reader! Asking is not just for play, but if they are interested in experiencing something.. they ask... Of course that doesn't mean I say yes every time... In fact, sometimes I do say No... or maybe at another time etc etc.






Thanks KoM....

was wondering where you were hiding on this.


Irish..I understood your responses.. liked them too. For the most part. Not actually arguing on any of them.. just responding to them.



xxblushesxx -> RE: Down Right Horny!!! (1/29/2006 7:50:08 PM)


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ORIGINAL: MrDiscipline44

Well, my dear Tress, in googling Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs, Deficiency Needs, I've found that the #3 that you're pointing to is:
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3) Belonginess and Love: affiliate with others, be accepted

This is in all of the listings that I've found. No where does sex come into the equation. Even biologically, men do not need sex. There is nothing that shows that if a man does not have sex, he'll die or that it leads to any illnesses. No, it's very much a luxury. One that people put more emphasis on than is needed.

Intersting how people just spew out crap without actually posting where they've got there information to back themselves up. Maybe they're just too full of themselves to understand that just because they say something, doesn't mean that it true or law.


But....

chocolate's near the top of the list, right?

*looks up hopefully....



IrishMist -> RE: Down Right Horny!!! (1/29/2006 8:04:56 PM)

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Irish..I understood your responses.. liked them too. For the most part. Not actually arguing on any of them.. just responding to them


Well darn it...True you know me too well...I can't even pick a good fighting debate with you anymore

[:o]



cltcdrd -> RE: Down Right Horny!!! (1/29/2006 9:11:26 PM)


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ORIGINAL: truesub4u

We've seen post on all different aspects of who owns who.... who pleases who... etc... I have a question here. This could of probably been post in a ask a sub, or ask a Dom. But I wanted to ask both.

Ok we all know when the Dom wants to play... it's play time.

But what if sub/slave wants to play?

I was reading RiotGirls post on Masterbation Restrictions. So I got to thinking.. what if sub/slave didn't want just to masterbate. What if sub/slave down right wants to play, scene, (depends on how others put it) or just simply wanted to fuck because they are horney. Doms are allowed to get horney.. are sub/slaves?

Now keep in mind.. this is focusing simply on SEX... not the "special bonding" "Emotional bonding" .... I'm talking.. being with someone that you have been with.. be it short time.. or long time.. And just by God horny.. wanting to have either slow loving sex.. or hard play scene because sub/slave is blossoming and raring to go!




Submissive wants to play...he/she asks...or does something to let her Dom know that he/she is in the mood...the worse that can happen is a no.

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it would be a very dumb and stupid act if a dom said no . and it would show you that the sub is not loved in any way shape or form .
i am all for it .
love on darling


This is about the stupidist statement I have ever seen or heard. What planet do you live on buddy?

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Now, whether she's allowed to cum? Well... That's a different story... hee hee hee (just kidding... maybe... <--- Evil)

hee hee hee


Sadism at it's best [;)]

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For a sub/slave to make Him/Her happy all the time..... a sub/slave should be allowed happy times as well.


And pleasing him/her should make you happy...no matter what.

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a happy sub/slave... is an even happier Dom/Master


Sorry, but I disagree with this here. You have it backwards. A happy Master/Dom = a happy slave/sub

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It really isn't all 100 % about making someone else happy. It just simply can't be done all the time.. every step of the way. (ok unless Dom is an extreme sadist and thrives on making sub/slave totally miserable 100% of the time.. LOL)


Sure it can be done. If that is the kind of dynamic that is existing between two people. Just because it can not be done with you...does not mean it can not be done. And sadist's, even extreme ones...care just as much about their slave/sub as non sadists.

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It's an exchange of power and with power comes responsibility. To take that power and completely ignore the needs of the sub is irresponsible


Need or want? Sex is not needed to survive. It's wanted to keep a balance mentally, physically, and emotionally. But it is in no way a need.

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Sex may be a WANT for Women, but if women understood Mens plumbing they would further understand Sex is very much a N=E=E=D !


Sorry...once again...sex is not a need...for man or woman...it is not necessary to survival.





Nendarye -> RE: Down Right Horny!!! (1/29/2006 9:43:59 PM)

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But what if sub/slave wants to play?


It does not matter what I want. If Master wants to play, we play. Master's rules are very strict. It is not my place to ask.



michaelGA -> RE: Down Right Horny!!! (1/29/2006 9:51:49 PM)

i guess the "aphrodisiac" joke went over like a lead balloon.

*sigh*



OscarHargraves -> RE: Down Right Horny!!! (1/30/2006 7:46:05 AM)

My Sub knows that I love it when she begs. If she wants sex ..... and she begs, I'm very likely to give in and please her.



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Down Right Horny!!! (1/30/2006 8:04:43 AM)

It often, like most things, comes down to a style in management.

Some doms prefer the style of "Don't do anything unless I tell you otherwise."

Some doms prefer the style of "Keep doing what you're doing unless I tell you otherwise."

Just depends on finding a style that works for you.

As far as happiness- we all choose to get into relationships that fulfill who we are. No one gets their immediate happy switch thrown every time they want it, sometimes no matter how much the slave tries and wants it (many a slave has brought themselves to a useless outburst because they somehow can't solve their masters problems).

As far as needs- it depends on the context. If you WANT me to be happy, high-functioning, energized and connected with the world, I NEED sexual stimulation.

If you don't want those things, then no I don't need it. It's just how I am wired.



Petruchio -> RE: Down Right Horny!!! (1/31/2006 3:24:21 PM)

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Some doms prefer the style of "Don't do anything unless I tell you otherwise."

Some doms prefer the style of "Keep doing what you're doing unless I tell you otherwise."


Or, my own: "Just keep doing ME unless I tell you otherwise."



champagnewishes -> RE: Down Right Horny!!! (1/31/2006 3:49:38 PM)


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ORIGINAL: MHOO314
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ORIGINAL: subtoFemDommes
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As long as he begs...smiles

Oh my Goddess! You mean i get to beg too, Ma'am? <melt> As in ... "Please Mistress ... May i beg to be obsequious?" "Pleeeeeeeeeeease?"


Puts her hands squarely on Her hips, raised the dreaded Mistress eyebrow and sends him to corner time.


THAT'S one powerful eyebrow...i was on my way to the corner when i realized "oops wrong sub". lol

I am as free to ask as He is to deny. In general though, i really can't remember an instance when I went without long enough to become horny.



truesub4u -> RE: Down Right Horny!!! (1/31/2006 10:42:24 PM)

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ORIGINAL: IrishMist

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Irish..I understood your responses.. liked them too. For the most part. Not actually arguing on any of them.. just responding to them


Well darn it...True you know me too well...I can't even pick a good fighting debate with you anymore

[:o]


Ok Irish... it's taken me a little time to think this over. And at least you like to debate so riddle me this... riddle me that..... (grinz)

I totally understand the need to please said owner. I'm not disputing this. But there's no way you can tell me that you .... yourself.. never have needs.. or wants.. that you wish to be fullfilled.... and I am talking other that submitting... i'm talking sexual needs.. wants.. luxuries... or how ever anyone wants to put this.

You being a fellow pain lover that I've grown to be slightly envious of (because i'm still learning to deal with my new found love for more of it)...... There's got to be some nights.. that said owners not in the mood to say..... flog you... but you are really craving that (this is just an example)....Owner is pleased and done for the evening.... but you still have a craving... a itch that needs scratched.. so to speak... So next night.. still no flog.. but crave still there.. and then yet again... when do you let him know you have a craving.. itch that is needing scratched?

Or do you just say or do nothing at all to let said owner know that you also would like something?

Just wondering...because we're not talking survival... we're not talking bout being a submissive or slave fullfilling said owners needs each and every time... we're talking about said sub/slave actually wanting something.... needing something... (or how ever the hell someone wants to put this) of the sexual nature... to scratch that so called itch.



IrishMist -> RE: Down Right Horny!!! (2/1/2006 7:32:22 AM)

Ok...speaking from past experience...He scratches his itch and decides that we are done for the night...that's it...matters not what I want, or how I am feeling...if he is in the mood to be very 'mean' and unwilling to give on that particular night...so be it...

so yes, my wants go unfulfilled if that is how he has decided it should be

Notice..I said my WANTS not my NEEDS



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