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RE: unreasonable request - 4/17/2009 6:46:35 AM   
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If stuff like that is a problem then put it up as a hard limit, and then any dom worth his salt won't demand it because hard limits are there for a reason and not to be crossed willy nilly at the doms amusement.

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ORIGINAL: jstmi

i would like to ask the Doms opinion if they have ever asked a submissive whom You are training to perform a task that seemed ok because You wanted them to prove their eagerness to please.  but this task involved something like touching oneself and this sub was parked and  in clear view of a building.

Please answer with Your thoughts on this task, would You require the sub to do it without question OR would You be more pleased  and proud with them if they said no and spoke up to You.

Thanks in advance

jstmi  

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RE: unreasonable request - 4/17/2009 7:09:01 AM   
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Well, then techniquely,  if you did that, then you should hard limit most bdsm acts, flogging and beating and spanking, and consensual torture, because it's all against the law. You can not consent to be hit by law.

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I personally believe you should hard limit anything that involves breaking the law - though in the case of harmless fun like sex in a car in the woods, at least has no likely victim or poses a very slim threat of getting caught.

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RE: unreasonable request - 4/17/2009 8:19:19 AM   
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Daddy and I were 2 hours apart and didn't see each other much, one day, Daddy had all day off to do house work and laundry and stuff, and one time I called him and he's like I Can't talk I need to do laundry and stuff, and I was so upset with him for pissing the whole day away, and so then when I was finally able to come home and talk he couldn't talk, and I hung up with him and then was just stewing in my own emotions and afraid to call him back, and I finally did and then said I am mad at you because you pissed the entire day away and I haven't gotten to talk to you all day and now we can't talk because you have to do stuff you waited last minute to do, and he said you're right I am sorry.



Thank you for telling me how you feel, and please tell me anytime there's anything you need to tell me or any time you're angry or upset.


And then one time I woke up at 6 am from a horrible nightmare, and I knew he had to go to work early and calling him at 6 am would be bad for his getting the sleep he needed, and so I debaited and debaited and finally called and he said no no he's Daddy that's what they're for, and if you have a nightmare and need me you're more than freee to call.

Because he knew I wouldn't call for any reason that wasn't a good one so early in the morning, when I knew he had to be at work at 8.

Now I don't think of these things as tests nor did I do them to test him, but in a way it is a test, yes, and he flew through them beautifully.


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Each time I contacted him in need of something it gave me a chance to test whether he would be willing to help me when needed.  I wasn't setting him up for failure - I was seeing if the level of trust I had given him was warranted (and it was).

Each time I have been tested in my relationship I have grown from it.  I have been able to do things that I never thought were possible, and each time it left me feeling stronger and more sure of myself.  That doesn't mean that I was never scared or never had any reservations about it.  I simply chose to overcome my own discomforts to prove to my Master what he and our journey meant to me.  Most Doms/Masters test their subs for this very reason - to allow them to show their trust and to grow.  It has a very valuable place in the BDSM world.  Each submissive needs to know when to draw the line and that is a very personal matter. 


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RE: unreasonable request - 4/17/2009 8:44:03 AM   
YourhandMyAss


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Out here you can get puti nto jail and put on a sex offenders list and if that happens you have to register as a sex offender any time you go to a new neighbor hood or town to live, and the neighbors can be informed you're a sex crimes offender, and then they're free to hassle you and torment you and do all kinds of shit to try to drive you out of town, and as long as they're not caught doing it, they're allowed to.

You could be charged in excess of 1 or 2 k depending on w hat the laws on the books are.

Plus even if you get caught and you don't get charged as a sex offender, it's still on your public legal record, and it's just not a risk I find worth it.
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ORIGINAL: NihilusZero

So...to play a bit of devil's advocate (and the moral silliness aside): how much legal trouble can you realistically get into for what would amount to 'indecent exposure'?

All I'm really seeing here is an incompatibility in the 'thrill seeker' department between the OP and her (former?) Dom (which can be enough reason alone to part ways).


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RE: unreasonable request - 4/17/2009 8:51:31 AM   
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No, she clearly said he got angry at her refusal and said she was being disobedient, and since she had not agreed to submit to him and they were just getting to know each other a refusal to accept or consider her objections ment he was a wanker. to her.


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ORIGINAL: NihilusZero

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ORIGINAL: jstmi

Happy to not be abused any longer by wannabes

If "wannabe" describes a D-type you muster the courage to desert only after acquiring justification from unknown posters on a message forum based on a difference of kink preference, I predict many more around the corner.


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RE: unreasonable request - 4/17/2009 1:39:23 PM   
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i will take the high road on this comment- i am so glad You enjoyed Your shopping excursion


lmao

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< Message edited by jstmi -- 4/17/2009 2:16:47 PM >

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RE: unreasonable request - 4/17/2009 2:42:11 PM   
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ORIGINAL: jstmi

LeatherBentOne
i will take the high road on this comment- i am so glad You enjoyed Your shopping excursion


lmao




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But where is your sense of humor?  I was only trying to be amusing and complementary.

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RE: unreasonable request - 4/17/2009 2:54:43 PM   
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Great new pic, jstmi!



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RE: unreasonable request - 4/17/2009 2:59:36 PM   
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dreamerdreaming

thank You very much Ms, yes someOne close to me helped me to choose the new pics

smiles

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RE: unreasonable request - 4/19/2009 9:00:03 PM   
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i dont really see how these kinds of things show dominance and submission. they seem childish and maybe even lack of self confidence issues. either way its a good way to get a sexual misconduct case

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RE: unreasonable request - 4/19/2009 9:04:25 PM   
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i can find better ways to train my potential slave in the safety of my home. in public is no place for sexual activity, and it is certainly no place for "lifestyle" exposure.

i think the courage it would take for a sub to come here for training would be enough indication in itself.

please, do not do your training or sex acts while i am trying to eat, or show my neighbors kid how to fix a flat tire on a bicycle.

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RE: unreasonable request - 4/20/2009 8:14:32 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Delphinus

Damn - Does this mean I have to stop whipping out my vibrator in the Lowe's parking lot?


No it means you have to call me first so I can come and watch....errrr.....out for anyone who might be lurking. Yea that's it.

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