Calandra
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Hello and welcome to the boards... I don't know specifically what you are asking, so I'll give a few insights that (I believe) work in ALL 50 states. It is not illegal to have a dominant personality. It is not illegal to take the controlling role within a relationship, whether it is for ten minutes or fifty years - so long as the other party CONSENTS to yielding control. It is not illegal to make financial, emotional, or social decisions within that relationship. It is not illegal to label yourself a Domme/Mistress/Goddess, etc, nor is it illegal to label your consensual partner sub/slave/dog/pet, etc. It is impossible to enforce that label legally because true slavery where consent is removed from the equation is illegal. If you want to have LEGAL control of your partner, you can easily accomplish it through power of attorney, living wills, and in some carefully constructed cases, guardianship. Once again though, you should proceed very carefully and with sound legal advice for both you and your partner. In cases of play, some of what we do is illegal. A person cannot legally consent to their own assault in the eyes of the law. In some jurisdictions anal sex is still illegal (technically). The idea is to play ONLY with people who are interested in flying under the radar AND making very sure that you perform any play activity as safely as possible to avoid Emergency room visits and cops knocking at your door. (Cops knocked at My door once after a session where my slave was moaning loudly - we had a prearranged story for them - that he was prone to night terrors and I was "comforting him, not hurting him". LOL) The best thing I can recommend is to find a BDSM activity checklist and fill it out, once you do that, ask yourself if this particular activity is illegal or not. If it is, consider your risk. Remember though, you are responsible to keep yourself safe, as well as anyone you play with. Control is key.
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Lady Kathryn Athens, Ga. House of Phoenix "Nothing is ever final until you're dead - and even then I'm sure God negotiates" Anjelica Huston in Everafter
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