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Does looks really matter? - 4/6/2009 10:19:08 PM   
uncollaredmalenj


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Status: offline 		If a submissive male is seeking a short or longer-term relationship with a dominant female does looks truly matter or does compatibility and personality matter the most?

Respectfully it seems that looks are most important than anything else 
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RE: Does looks really matter? - 4/6/2009 10:25:07 PM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		Looks matter to me in a way of how a man takes care of himself.  I can find something attractive in most anyone.  What makes a person beautiful is their mind, heart, personality and how it might blend with my own.  I have been with Hollywood movie star looking men and... well, I don't know what to call them, but few would say they were attractive and believe me, while some were nice to gaze upon, some of those less attractive held my attention and heart like none other.  Looks can be a bonus, but they are not the prize.

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RE: Does looks really matter? - 4/6/2009 10:43:27 PM   
DelilahDeb


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Status: offline 		When I do not know a person, a superficial thing like looks or clothing or accent may attract me—briefly. Having a conversation with a person will rapidly take me past that: if there's nothing between the ears but vacuum or Madison-Avenue pap, I'll be gone very quickly!

At the same time, basics like bathing, grooming, and self-esteem matter. And believe, me, they show more than you may think, even self-esteem. (Posture being one component of the body English of self-esteem.)

Hey, if all I wanted was asses to spank, I could set up a fund-raising booth at some local dungeon and enjoy. But playing with someone, for me, requires a modicum of friendship, or at least friendly acquaintance, before I even start negotiating.

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RE: Does looks really matter? - 4/6/2009 11:04:14 PM   
FullfigRIMAAM1


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Status: offline 		Looks matter a little.
Personality, spirit, soul, mind all matter more, but looks matter too.    Looks don't count to me, nearly as much as they matter to most people, or the magazines lacking substance and plastic surgeons would go broke.    M

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RE: Does looks really matter? - 4/6/2009 11:21:23 PM   
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Status: offline 		Wow, another stupid question. Do looks matter to people? It depends on the person.

Next.


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RE: Does looks really matter? - 4/6/2009 11:44:51 PM   
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RE: Does looks really matter? - 4/7/2009 12:06:38 AM   
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ORIGINAL: NormalOutside
Wow, another stupid question. Do looks matter to people? It depends on the person.
Wow, another jerky response.    M

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RE: Does looks really matter? - 4/7/2009 4:16:49 AM   
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Status: offline 		They matter.  A skilled domina who is a seven trumps a vapid ten, but yes, looks do count for something.

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RE: Does looks really matter? - 4/7/2009 5:40:08 AM   
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Status: offline 		Looks do matter. Looks matter because they are a first impression.

Yes it's nice to say that who a person is really determines the viability of the relationship and blah blah blah. But when you get down to it....most individuals (not just Dommes but you s-type males out there too and I am SO not excluded from this) won't give you the chance to get to know you like THAT if you aren't attractive to them.

I mean how many times have you stopped to check out that grossly over weight, pimply, ashy, fucked-up haired, Woman walking down the street or tried to pick her up so that you could serve her as opposed to how many times you saw theis fantasy inducing Woman and thought "man I'd love to serve her for the rest of my life".

Looks matter.

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RE: Does looks really matter? - 4/7/2009 7:31:28 AM   
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Status: offline 		Certainly looks matter.  "Chemistry" matters, too, however you define it. 

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RE: Does looks really matter? - 4/7/2009 7:47:51 AM   
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Status: offline 		Turn the question around.  Do looks matter to you?  Would you prefer a Mistress who can bring out the best in you?  Or only in one that looks like the movie portrayals of a Latex goddess?

I feel very sad for you if you truly believe that looks are the most important thing in a relationship.


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RE: Does looks really matter? - 4/7/2009 8:24:33 AM   
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ORIGINAL: uncollaredmalenj

If a submissive male is seeking a short or longer-term relationship with a dominant female does looks truly matter or does compatibility and personality matter the most?

Respectfully it seems that looks are most important than anything else 


Yep!- looks matter...


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RE: Does looks really matter? - 4/7/2009 8:52:54 AM   
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Status: offline 		Yes looks matters. I need to be able to look at the person without feeling sick, without having to laugh 'cause their face looks rediculous etc. etc.
but of course personality does need to be taken into account too.

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RE: Does looks really matter? - 4/7/2009 8:59:37 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Vanityfull

no, a paper bag can fix things easyly


Sometimes, a plastic bag can be more fun. 

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RE: Does looks really matter? - 4/7/2009 9:06:51 AM   
colouredin


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Status: offline 		For me? Well my most recent partner was not someone I would say I 'fancied' you could see he used to be attractive, back in the day but now? Not so much. He has charisma coming out of his ears though and that will draw me to someone far quicker than whether they have a nice bum or clear skin. Dont get me wrong though they cant physically repulse me but generally there are things more important. My ex from last year was a pretty man, beautifully chisled body, really fit but thick as two short planks and left me totally cold after a brief while (about a week to be honest, bugger knows why I moved in with him)

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RE: Does looks really matter? - 4/7/2009 9:07:58 AM   
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RE: Does looks really matter? - 4/7/2009 9:15:01 AM   
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Status: offline 		It really depends. I find larger people attractive, personally, as well as smaller ones. If I want my sub to be flexible and have supple joints, I'm likely to look for someone with those qualifications, and ignore things like an unfortunate teenage bout with acne. The light of joyful submission in the eyes makes even the ugliest person beautiful.

That said, all of us who aren't models have the choice to do the best we can with ourselves, and if you're looking for a partner, obviously that's what you should do.

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RE: Does looks really matter? - 4/7/2009 12:34:48 PM   
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chamberqueen


One who can bring out the best of me as well as one who is willing to help me know what my limits are.
The ones portrayed in the movies are merely eye-candy and nothing more.

Those portrayed in the movies IMO merely look the part and lack any experience and therefore not worth seeking a relationship with.

How one who is experienced and shares similar interests is what I am looking for.



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RE: Does looks really matter? - 4/7/2009 1:02:53 PM   
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ORIGINAL: stella41b

To a degree, but how much might depend on the length and influence of your pork sword.


I can move mountains with mine.

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RE: Does looks really matter? - 4/7/2009 1:04:42 PM   
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