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GeneBulge -> Does ejaculation matter? (4/11/2009 9:21:08 AM)

I have a problem that I am still struggling with and would like to hear what others think on this subject.  Nearly a year ago I had my bladder as well as my prostate removed because of cancer.  With the removal of the prostate it left me unable to ejaculate semen even though I am still able to have a dry orgasim.  To be honest I really miss this male function and it makes me curious to know how others feel about a non squirting penis.  There are various submissive activities such a milking that I can no longer have done to me.  Would love to hear from anyone on this subject.



DelilahDeb -> RE: Does ejaculation matter? (4/11/2009 9:57:08 AM)

Dry orgasm? A non-fluid-emitting penis sounds like a lot of fun to play with! I'm flavor-challenged; love the sensations and textures of oral, but hate the inevidable emission flavors. Hence have always settled for condoms with BJ. (The taste of latex is not so bad.)

So, personally, it would just add to the variety of play types and techniques that I could include in CBT.

Me, I feel as though intensity matters. Orgasms—or the equivalent energetic experiences—are fun but not the sole point!

Lady Delilah Deb



GeneBulge -> RE: Does ejaculation matter? (4/11/2009 10:44:50 AM)

I thank you for your view on this situation.  I can see where it could open a new door or two as far as cbt or forced bi play.  So often I see where women talk about how much they love the taste of cum or want a guy to shoot his load on them so I am really curious how people really think about this.  So many thanks, Gene.



dreamerdreaming -> RE: Does ejaculation matter? (4/11/2009 10:52:41 AM)

I don't see it as a problem at all, and if you were mine I'd look at it as a good thing!

Suggest you do, too.

Less mess, and no milking needed. More time for other things!



dreamerdreaming -> RE: Does ejaculation matter? (4/11/2009 10:55:40 AM)

Are your orgasms now less satisfying, or just different?

Can you please describe the difference in feel, between the ones you have now and the ones you had before the surgery?



Lockit -> RE: Does ejaculation matter? (4/11/2009 10:59:48 AM)

I've never heard of this before, so I guess I have something to look up.  I really never thought of it or knew anyone going through anything like this.

The way I look at things is if someone has a medical issue/limitation, I consider that and do not feel it is their fault.  It is a fact of their life and if I care about them, it is a fact of my life.  Whatever it may be.  You work around the facts of life that need you to work around them.  You don't resent them.  You look for opportunity to make something good out of what might be seen as not good or is actually bad.  If both are okay with it... it is all good.

I have my own issues and wouldn't want someone judging me or rejecting me for them.  Of course it will be a cold day in hell when that doesn't happen! lol  But I do expect to accept willingly someone's limitations and health situations just as I expect them to handle my own.  If not... see ya... have fun... it just won't be fun between us.



lusciouslips19 -> RE: Does ejaculation matter? (4/11/2009 11:01:33 AM)

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ORIGINAL: GeneBulge

I have a problem that I am still struggling with and would like to hear what others think on this subject.  Nearly a year ago I had my bladder as well as my prostate removed because of cancer.  With the removal of the prostate it left me unable to ejaculate semen even though I am still able to have a dry orgasim.  To be honest I really miss this male function and it makes me curious to know how others feel about a non squirting penis.  There are various submissive activities such a milking that I can no longer have done to me.  Would love to hear from anyone on this subject.


Id say if you were a permanent prtner where STD's arent a concern, Id say Brava.No mess to get rid of!



LadyPact -> RE: Does ejaculation matter? (4/11/2009 11:01:53 AM)

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ORIGINAL: GeneBulge

I thank you for your view on this situation.  I can see where it could open a new door or two as far as cbt or forced bi play.  So often I see where women talk about how much they love the taste of cum or want a guy to shoot his load on them so I am really curious how people really think about this.  So many thanks, Gene.

I must really miss a lot of posts.  In two years on this Ask A Mistress forum, I can't recall even one instance of one female Dominant saying that she wanted a guy to shoot his load on them.




Lockit -> RE: Does ejaculation matter? (4/11/2009 11:21:22 AM)

LOL... LadyPact... when I read that, I wondered about that too.  I am sure some like it... but from what I have seen, read, etc, it is mostly submissive women that seem to ask for that.  It did make me wonder how many would.  I have done this with two partners... and found some enjoyment with it... but that was because I loved them and I loved that they enjoyed it and most often there was another purpose involved besides the act.  I could count the times on one hand and still have extra.  It isn't something I would really want as I like things going in other directions so to speak. 



Domin8tingUrDrmz -> RE: Does ejaculation matter? (4/11/2009 11:26:56 AM)

I agree LadyPact, I've not once seen a Domina say any such thing either.  I'm sure some Ladies may enjoy it, and I know of many submissive women who enjoy it, but I don't think it's a common request of Dominant Women. 

Gene,

The only use I have for semen is for submissive men.  I can no longer get pregnant, so it is of no importance to me personally.  I do enjoy seeing a boy swallow his own semen or the semen of another, and I enjoy using semen in other ways for fun, but it isn't a requirement nor is it even something that I consider important.  Erectile Dysfunction on the other hand would be an issue in the person I seek as a slave, but, even ED isn't something that would prevent me from taking someone on in a different manner:  he just wouldn't be my slave.



GeneBulge -> RE: Does ejaculation matter? (4/11/2009 11:50:55 AM)

actually it is a bit different now than before all of this surgery happened.  After my bladder and prostate were taken out it left me unable to get a boner.  At the end of december '08 my urologist performed a penile implant on me which is a whole other story in itself but just let me say this about that.  I love it as it contains a squeeze bulb in my ball bag that you squeeze several times and the old cock slowly starts to rise right before your very eyes.  It will stay hard until it is physically deflated so I can have a perpetual hardon.  I dont have to rush to the ER if I am stiff for more than 4 hours as I can stay errect for months if I choose.  My cockhead is very sensitive but for some strange reason it takes longer for me to orgasim and even though I dont ejaculate with a liquid load I feel the throb of my cock pulsating just like before as it thinks it is shooting out semen but nothing comes out.  I would say that at first the sensation wasnt as strong but the more I orgasim the stronger the sensations have come.  One other advantage to my bionic cock is that if I had it in a vagina and enjoying intercourse, even if I cum before my partner I can keep on humping until she begs me to stop.  In other words I am not a one pump chump but long lasting and more satisfying.  All in all I feel good about the implant and look at is as an asset.  Thank you for your question. Gene



Lashra -> RE: Does ejaculation matter? (4/11/2009 11:54:54 AM)

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I must really miss a lot of posts. In two years on this Ask A Mistress forum, I can't recall even one instance of one female Dominant saying that she wanted a guy to shoot his load on them.
ORIGINAL: LadyPact


I can honestly say that I have not either. I know that no guy better shoot his load on me or he will be removing my shoe from his asshole.

As for not having to deal with semen, it works for me.

~Lashra



GeneBulge -> RE: Does ejaculation matter? (4/11/2009 11:55:50 AM)

I am sorry as this was a generalization and not intended to be dirrected toward a domme.  Of course they wouldnt ever wish to have that nasty stuff squirted on them.  I am sorry about the unclarity of my statement.



Lashra -> RE: Does ejaculation matter? (4/11/2009 12:00:02 PM)

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I can keep on humping until she begs me to stop.  ORIGINAL: GeneBulge


Begs you to stop? And in your other post you stated that someone wanted a guy to shoot his load on them. You've never been with a Dominant woman have you? I think you may have meant this post for the submissive forum. I do not profess to know ALL Dominant women, we are all unique but most that I know do NOT beg and they do not take kindly to a male shooting his semen on them.

As for your "problem" good luck with it.

~Lashra



dreamerdreaming -> RE: Does ejaculation matter? (4/11/2009 12:07:14 PM)

Not to jack your thread, but I'm sure I'm not the only one who's curious: was the implant covered by your health insurance?



GeneBulge -> RE: Does ejaculation matter? (4/11/2009 12:09:19 PM)

This is for Mistress Lashra.  Yes I have been with a good number of dommes and have been involved in D/s for more than 25 years.  When I first got involved you would have been 12 years old. 



subtlebutterfly -> RE: Does ejaculation matter? (4/11/2009 12:12:14 PM)

but having a profile that only tells the reader that you had surgery on your "package" down there.................[X(][8|]



kinkme43 -> RE: Does ejaculation matter? (4/11/2009 12:17:28 PM)

gene.....
if only more men could be like that!
In my opinion, if I have kids and then know I don't want anymore... that would be nearly the perfect situation.

In fact, my boyfriend wishes we could take the semen out of the equation simply for the fact that it makes a mess...

no muss no fuss



kinkme43 -> RE: Does ejaculation matter? (4/11/2009 12:19:42 PM)

lashra,
I definitely see your point as to genes post probably more geared towards subs.
I don't think begging is in a dommes vocabulary... unless they are telling someone else to do so.



GeneBulge -> RE: Does ejaculation matter? (4/11/2009 12:24:31 PM)

Well I didnt really want to go into it in depth on my profile but after my surgery to remove my bladder which had two different types of cancer in it the urologist said to be safe they had to remove the lymph node and the prostate as well.  Actually I got a freebie as he took out my appendix while he was removing stuff.  So after the surgery Aug 4th 2008 I suffered from ED.  Mine wasnt the type that the little blue pill would fix as it was physical so my urologist suggested as an option to have a penile implant done which I had done on December 29th 2008.  That was my third surgery of 2008 and by far the most painful as for a solid two weeks after that the pain was so bad that even a bed sheet resting on my penis hurt.  I did have pain pills but took them only when the pain brought me to tears.  I have pictures of my black and blue cock, balls and asshole if anyone wants to see what this surgery does to this area.  So now with a little hard squeeze bulb in my ball bag that when squeezed several times, my penis starts to stretch and slowly rise like a drawspan bridge.  It will stay hard until it is physically deflated.



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