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RE: Can a slave have kinks? - 4/13/2009 9:11:48 PM

littlesarbonn

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My kinks are very much a part of my being. I wouldn't be a submissive if I didn't have some type of submissive kink that brought me to that understanding. It's not about wanting to be a cleaning slave because I like to clean. Hell, I could clean my apartment all day long and get zero pleasure out of it. It's not about being on my knees before a woman I care for because I like being on my knees. Being on my knees hurts after awhile, and the action gives me little actual pleasure. Being tied up can be done (with some work) all by myself, but I don't get all excited about it. Being tied up BY a woman I care about, well, that does things that I can't even begin to describe.

I'm a service submissive, which means that I tend to do a lot for the person to whom I serve. At the same time, I like helping people out, and I do it all of the time. I help you women, men, kids, adults, grandparents, little old ladies, cops, etc. I do that because I like to think of myself as a nice person. I do things for a dominant partner (when I have one) because she's specifically special to me, and it brings me great pleasure to do so, so much that I'd do anything for her whereas I'd help out a stranger (to a certain extent). In other words, I'd sacrifice to help out the one I love, but that only goes so far when it comes to helping out someone else.

There is meaning in the kinks that we all have. Not all kinks are the same, but at the same time I don't think any of us would be here if we didn't have some level of kinkability in the first place.

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RE: Can a slave have kinks? - 4/14/2009 12:29:24 AM

Andalusite

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Pigslut, I hadn't read your profile earlier. While in general, there's nothing wrong with a slave or submissive having kinks, a lot of women aren't going to indulge your wanting to eat poop, especially since it is so important to you that you do so on your own! That's likely to be a major compatibility issue with a lot of people who might otherwise be interested in you.

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RE: Can a slave have kinks? - 4/24/2009 8:11:50 PM

GYPZYQUEEN

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ps...
your kinks are yours..specific to you and therefore valid..

Different Dommes search dffrent ways..dif subs work/search dif ways..
It is all a search here..
FINDING a "fit"".commonalities..
I try to see if there is ENOUGH commonalities...to talk further
rather than seeing what the person does or does not do..

Commonalities such as personality fit..do I need a service sub..is he?? do I need a domestic? is he? do I love queening? does he?
minds first..
THEN we discuss..
their most exciting experiences etc so I can see where thier
"kink' is and how it drives the submission,,

eg) I loved a adult-baby sub I had but had a hard time making fun of his cock..( but this DROVE his submission) soI learned how FOR him because he attended to me in every way
as a good baby/slut/wife

When there are really specific kinks/ fetishs then I see..
IF this person wants a kink partner or a Ds realtionship..sometimes they find they want a kink partner rather than a Ds relationship....
and then that gets difficult because they may have to come to terms with the fact that they may have become willing to submit to slavery to TRY to get the one kink satisfied.

If I feel a boy is a fit for me IN EVERY WAY
and has a specific activity not in my
usual way of things I try to see if I can incorperate it in our life as a way of exploring for me...so his needs are met as well..

GQ

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