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RE: Can CM provide a default definition for "Male ... - 4/13/2009 6:33:37 PM

KTownMaster

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This one confuses me as well. While I've not personally hit the issue OP states, I do also see it as a Male dominant with a female submissive/slave. I can certainly see the problem, though. Even suggestion of Dom/sub couple doesn't seem to fit. One person will want it to mean Dom, another will think Domme. Ambiguity is seriously an issue though. It seems that couples were thought of secondary to singles, and that's led to a shoehorned system which is open to interpetation. A possible fix would be to allow strict checkbox solutions, ie. you can check dom male, domme female, switch male, switch female, sub male, sub female, slave male, slave female, and then ALSO check singles and couples, to specify more correctly. Admittedly, I believe people tend to check a lot of things they don't intend, just to find more matches or just because they're unaware.
Now I have to go back and try to re-evalute my own search criteria =D

P.S. Lying to say you're not interested is pretty low, regardless. Respect should be at the forefront of this community. It's saddening to know that it isn't, for most. Kudos to those who have it.

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RE: Can CM provide a default definition for "Male ... - 4/14/2009 4:05:51 AM

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I'm with the group that feels that "Male Dom Couple" is a Male Dominant/female submissive COUPLE. A Dominant couple, would be either Male or Female considering the terminology would be stressed on their BDSM orientation, and not their sex. The first and it's counterpart (Fem Dom couple) would be more directed to the sex of the Dominant, with the submissive presumably being of the opposite sex (of course if otherwise noted)... NO this isn't complicated at all! It shouldn't be, but perspective is a strong thing in the human animal...

While we're at it: If you're walking down a street and you spot of sign overhead that reads in front of a shoe store: "Shoes shined inside"... does that mean that people actually take the time to shine their shoes inside...or shine the inside of their shoes? I won't even start with that "Chicken of the Sea" issue...But that's a Simpson thing...

And there's that sign that you see sometimes on the side of the road in neighborhoods: "Slow Children At Play"...I can imagine some are looking for unfortunate children outside (possibly wearing protective headgear) without a clue but playing none the less. It's good to let one know when to watch out for retarded children possibly wandering out into the streets.... but for Heaven's sake: Putting a sign outside their house?!

My favorite is the sign outside the restaurant: "We have Menus in Braille"... Now that's just cruel.

Seriously though, I can see the point that those are trying to make. Perhaps CM should adopt a more defined group for us all: MM couples, FF couples, Mm couples, Ff couples, Fm, Mff, MFf, you know the combination factor... (Great! Now my OCD will force me to figure out just how many combinations CM would need to make it work. THANKS CM! I wonder what YOU'LL be doing this weekend... I know what I'll be doing. OK: MFmf..MFtf...great...)

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RE: Can CM provide a default definition for "Male ... - 4/14/2009 7:20:02 AM

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ORIGINAL: susie

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ORIGINAL: aravain

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For what it's worth, Male Dom Couple (to me) means a couple comprised of two male dominants. Fem Dom Couple is a couple comprised of two female dominants, and (finally) a dominant couple is a couple comprised of one male and one female dominant.

That's how I've read and 'flagged' it.

Interesting as I have never taken it that way. To me Male Dom Couple is a Male Dom/ fem sub couple and a Fem Dom couple is a Fem Dom / male sub couple. I have never considered it to mean Male/male or Female/female. Am I the only one to take it that way?

I have always taken those to mean "Couple with a Male Dom" *sub gender optional* and "Couple with a Female Dom" *same option*

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RE: Can CM provide a default definition for "Male ... - 4/16/2009 2:21:35 PM

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Oh god, here we go with labels again - the board seems to be split in how we interpret "Male Dom couples" - I'd always assumed it meant Dom male, sub female, because I've met plenty of those, in real life and online, but I've never met or heard of a couple comprised of two dominant males....I'm sure there are some out there (I suspect I'm about to get flamed by some), but I'm guessing the F/m variant is more common than the MM couple. The OP raises a valid point - since the purpose of the check boxes is to help filter and search, it would be better if it were less ambiguous - but capable of coping with the myriad variations we welcome here - perhaps it needs some AND/OR options???

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RE: Can CM provide a default definition for "Male ... - 4/16/2009 4:23:38 PM

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I thought about it more... and I figured out where my idea of what it means came from...

...the inclusion of Domme/Dom couple as a profile choice. To me it just makes sense that they'd use the other two to balance it out to provide for similar same sex couples (which they're able to do with submissives with one choice since it doesn't have the gender bias... though, personally, Dom is gender neutral for me... and representative of the word dominant), though thinking more about it that's how it would likely be inturpretted elsewhere.

Why not cut the ambiguity altogether? Dominant/Dominant couple, in addition to the submissive/submissive couple option (rather than Dom/Domme) and adding a /submissive to the Male Dom and Fem Dom couple options?

Either that or those little popup button thingies.

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RE: Can CM provide a default definition for "Male ... - 4/16/2009 4:44:14 PM

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This is a HUGE problem... ppl sending me emails and me having to reject them for any number of reasons. Their ass is to fat ... Their ass in NOT fat enuff. They cnt spel They cnt rite. So instead of telling them I find them decidely unattractive. I lie YES I lie to them. I explin to them that they misunderstood my profile. It's a polite way to tell you your ass is not to my liking.

Any questions???? go email yourself.

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RE: Can CM provide a default definition for "Male ... - 4/23/2009 2:35:27 PM

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ORIGINAL: susie
Interesting as I have never taken it that way. To me Male Dom Couple is a Male Dom/ fem sub couple and a Fem Dom couple is a Fem Dom / male sub couple. I have never considered it to mean Male/male or Female/female. Am I the only one to take it that way?

To me, a maledom couple is one with a male dom and a sub (male or female), and a a femdom couple is a female dom and a sub (male or female). Though statistical averages makes a female and male sub respectively the most likely.

EDIT: oops, I was accidently logged into our couples account instead of my own! *blush*. That was from graceadieu.

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RE: Can CM provide a default definition for "Male ... - 4/24/2009 10:38:35 AM

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ORIGINAL: aravain

Lets look at the possible selections for couples:

You are ACTIVELY seeking:

Dom/Domme Couples Sub/Sub Couples Femdom Couples Male Dom Couples

Huh. Interesting.
Those options aren't very clear to me.
I thought the title of this thread referred to two male doms, for instance.

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RE: Can CM provide a default definition for "Male ... - 4/24/2009 1:40:11 PM

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you'll find I thought/think the same thing