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You call that a demo?? Play Rape - 1/30/2006 5:32:11 PM   
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This weekend I went to a munch/demo/scene on "Takedown and Aggressive Play" When I got the email invite off the list serv, I knew that they were talking rape fantasies. WOOHOO, one of my favorite things. I marked my calendar. It As it turned out, the willing victim was going to be an acquaintance of mine. Who would want to miss that? It turned out so damn good, I thought I would share with you all as well.

This was a private event in a home, with consenting adults. So there.

It began with chili. I brought shredded cheese and my friend brought chocolate chip cookies. It was sort of like a church potluck, but with people dressed in slutty black clothing and lots of leather. Then the thirty or so people introduced themselves around the circle. Again, a little like many youth group functions in my past. Instead of sharing a favorite food, we shared how long we had been "in the lifestyle" or a favorite pervertabile. (A pervertabile is an everyday item that can be used in kinky play.)

Then we headed downstairs to a very artfully decorated dungeon. In a small room off the main room there was a bed, a medical table, and a kneeling bench. But this was not the presentation area. In the main room walls were draped alternatively in red and black fabric with hanging items like swords, knives, erotic photographs, etc. Lighting was dim, with a reddish glow. In one corner there was a St. Andrew's cross with leather straps. Next to it a plank was suspended from the ceiling on heavy chains. Chairs circled the room but I naturally headed for the couch against one wall.

A one hour presentation followed, sort of a facilitated discussion regarding the stigma of rape fantasies, the core differences between the sexual act of censensual play rape and the violent act of real rape, and ways to facilitate the negotiation of a scene. Emphasis was placed on being risk aware and ways to communicate so both parners got what they hoped from the scene. Elements of a scene were divided up, and strategies shared to find limits and desires within those areas. Restraint, impact, torture, sexual abuse, defilement, verbal abuse. The discussion was facilitated by a dominant couple, her being a professional.

As he was discussing scene music, the dominatrix suddenly grabbed my friend from the audience and drug her screaming into the middle area. The demonstration scene had begun.

Now, I knew this was coming. I knew my friend had rehearsed with the two facilitators. I knew she was a dirty whore and a pain slut. But I was unprepared for what came next. It lasted about 45 minutes and due to the size of the room, everyone was right there. They struggled, kicked her, slapped her, punched her body. They pinned her, gagged her, cut her clothes off. Dildo penetration, forced intercourse, face fucking, anal. They restrained her in a chair and the woman held her legs while the man forcefully fisted her. They wrote on her with lipstick and spray painted "whore" across her chest. He pissed on her and bit her. They held scissors to her nipples and made her beg not to cut them off. And finally they drug her into the bathroom and shoved her head in the toilet.

But for me, what was disturbing was the verbal humiliation -- possibly because I was unprepared for it. I get into the dirty talk. I do the "oh you nasty little slut, you like that don't you, you f-ing bitch?" type thing. Bring it on. But this dominatrix took it to a new level. I was simultaneously impressed and terrified. Particularly since I had been discussing her kitchen curtains with her an hour earlier.

Now you might think my wide eyes and raised eyebrows might have discouraged me for staying for the play party. But I am no quitter. In fact, shock is an aphrodisiac. That is another post though.

As for my friend, she is bruised and sore today, and having some sub drop. But she told me it was "f'ing awesome."

After some time to process, I have to say the entire evening was really really good. The space itself created a specialized atmosphere. It was a cozy but diverse group - young and old, different levels of experience, doms and dominas, submissives and switches, transgendered and bisexual. There was lively and intelligent discussion. The scene itself incorporated many of the components from the prior lecture/discussion. It was full on and potentially horrifying to some, but also not gratuitious - each element had a purpose. It was also pretty damn hot.



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RE: You call that a demo?? Play Rape - 1/30/2006 5:38:13 PM   
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And a lovely time was had by all....

I only hope the local group here in Baltimore will do such a discussion. Even without the demonstration, I'd be interested in what information was related to everyone. Certainly this type of scene has always been high on my list of things to pull off, but serious safety concerns have prevented me from pursuing it with any seriousness.

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RE: You call that a demo?? Play Rape - 1/30/2006 5:42:18 PM   
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quote:

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It began with a chili potluck. I brought shredded cheese and my friend brought chocolate chip cookies.


Am I the only one who read that and thought, I wonder if anyone farted in the dungeon?

I have to say, though, this was my favorite part:

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I was simultaneously impressed and terrified. Particularly since I had been discussing her kitchen curtains with her an hour earlier.


You're not kidding -- that was an amazing story. Thanks for taking the time to write it up for us.

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RE: You call that a demo?? Play Rape - 1/30/2006 5:51:49 PM   
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quote:

But for me, what was disturbing was the verbal humiliation -- possibly because I was unprepared for it. I get into the dirty talk. I do the "oh you nasty little slut, you like that don't you, you f-ing bitch?" type thing. Bring it on. But this dominatrix took it to a new level. I was simultaneously impressed and terrified. Particularly since I had been discussing her kitchen curtains with her an hour earlier.


I am intensely curious about what kind of verbal humiliation happened. This is something Iv'e never really done but would -really- like to try.

May I ask what kinds of phrases were used? My owner is willing to try this with me, but he's curious as to what works for me, or what I think would...I dunno...hit sore spots, so he can make it effective.

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RE: You call that a demo?? Play Rape - 1/30/2006 5:56:10 PM   
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quote:

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And a lovely time was had by all....

I only hope the local group here in Baltimore will do such a discussion. Even without the demonstration, I'd be interested in what information was related to everyone. Certainly this type of scene has always been high on my list of things to pull off, but serious safety concerns have prevented me from pursuing it with any seriousness.

BESS did a workshop on Takedowns over the summer. Was much fun. Will let them know that you want. Are you coming to the meeting this Wednesday?

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RE: You call that a demo?? Play Rape - 1/30/2006 5:57:12 PM   
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Sounds like a normal day in the neaborhood.....
the question is now how many times will you go again
till you have perfected its application and
the question is now when will you now apply it ?
It sounded like you now have some reserve on
such play?

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RE: You call that a demo?? Play Rape - 1/30/2006 5:57:28 PM   
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ORIGINAL: perverseangelic

May I ask what kinds of phrases were used? My owner is willing to try this with me, but he's curious as to what works for me, or what I think would...I dunno...hit sore spots, so he can make it effective.

Me too. For me depending on the words and the tone- the same sentence can cause laughter or humiliation.

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RE: You call that a demo?? Play Rape - 1/30/2006 6:02:12 PM   
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Sounds absolutely fabulous, Sensualips.

I would love to do such a scene with a man at a local BDSM club. I want it to be a complete surprise to him, but of course there will have to be a few people there that know what's going down. Although I am a big and strong woman, this man is easily stronger than I and I will probably have to be quick with some restraints and maybe have another domme helping me...

Wow, your post really got my creative juices flowing...I need to get this all down on paper while I'm hot...


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RE: You call that a demo?? Play Rape - 1/30/2006 6:05:53 PM   
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Skip this post if you don't like naughty words.

Okay?

Well, part of it was her tone. When the victim was crying or screaming, she would mimic her - "Waah waah waah...shut up you fucking bitch. We don't care" or "Eeeeee, eeeee. No one can hear you scream you filthy cunt. Just scream your head off -- unless I get sick of it and cut your tongue out of your ugly fucking face." She would also change froma sweet mocking tone to an evil one like "oh does that hurt? it does? GOOD!" Or "Where ya going" Hmm, little baby, where you going....you are not going FUCKING ANYWHERE. " Yank. Smack.

Those are not exact quotes, but along those lines.

She would also tell her she was liking it, what a nasty bitch she was for liking it. She made a big production about how loose her nasty cunt was, she almost lost the dildo up her huge ugly pussy, she must be a real whore because she had never seen a meathole so big and disgusting.

She and the guy both had these kinda creepy laughs they would do when the victim was particularly distraught. She told her no one cares about her, she could get any trashy slut off the corner for the same thing, that if they left her for dead would anyone really notice?

And again, it was her tone. When she would call her a name, she sounded like meant it. When she screamed "hold the fuck still" I'd instinctively quit moving and breathing.



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RE: You call that a demo?? Play Rape - 1/30/2006 6:12:03 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

BESS did a workshop on Takedowns over the summer. Was much fun. Will let them know that you want. Are you coming to the meeting this Wednesday?


I'm sorry I missed it! We've only been going to meetings for a short while. And as for this Wednesday, I wish I could, but now that my school schedule is lined up for the semester I've got a class Wednesday evenings from 5:30 to 8:15. If it gets out early I'll be there, though, I'm looking forward to the caning demonstration.

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RE: You call that a demo?? Play Rape - 1/30/2006 6:14:52 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Sensualips

Skip this post if you don't like naughty words.

And again, it was her tone. When she would call her a name, she sounded like meant it. When she screamed "hold the fuck still" I'd instinctively quit moving and breathing.





99% of a good verbalization is tone I've found. If you say it right, you can make anything sound humiliating and nasty. Try the following:

"What icky little anchovies you have!"

See?

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RE: You call that a demo?? Play Rape - 1/30/2006 6:16:12 PM   
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You mean this wasn't just ordinary sex.... mmmmmmmm maybe I am alittle more fucked up than I thought!


damn sensual you got me all excited with this post... mmmmm I wonder what to do about it.

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RE: You call that a demo?? Play Rape - 1/30/2006 6:51:42 PM   
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hehe..grin..lol.....sorry i had to make a comment on KnightofMists last post, made me laugh.

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RE: You call that a demo?? Play Rape - 1/30/2006 8:50:07 PM   
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Wow, thanks for sharing that :)

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RE: You call that a demo?? Play Rape - 1/30/2006 9:49:29 PM   
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Better than the reverse.

I attended a resistance play demo and I had to actually leave the building so I could giggle just because it was so sweet and lovey-dovey.

I was expecting what you saw. What they did was soft, tender, sensual, and far too much narration.

"Okay honey I'm going to cut off your dress now, and the scissors are so sharp, so don't you move now"

And everyone else was totally entralled. The feedback after it was oh that was so scary and intense and all I could think of was wow. Had it been a demo from my area, it would have FREAKED those folks out. LOL.

To each their own though. But resistance play sorta has that non-con edge to it, and this demo had none of that at all. I kinda felt a wee bit robbed. lol.

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RE: You call that a demo?? Play Rape - 1/30/2006 10:01:59 PM   
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holy cow - a bit past my limits but riveting nonetheless.

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RE: You call that a demo?? Play Rape - 1/30/2006 10:26:22 PM   
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holy cow - a bit past my limits but riveting nonetheless.
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i admit, it sounds, interesting, for a topic, among adults, about 'a' scene.
however..
i myself could not stomach being witness to such.
i have a bad enough time, just hearing 2 rooms away, whip sounds and floggers ounds.
it actually turns my stomach.
its worse when "I" am the one being whipped and flogged.
i just cannot personally,..........cope.

i myself personally...detest it.
the topic to discuss..is one thing...though i am squeamish to do so...by itself.

i guess..."I" am never...........going to grasp the physical side of this lifestyle.



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RE: You call that a demo?? Play Rape - 1/30/2006 10:33:22 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Sensualips

Skip this post if you don't like naughty words.

Okay?

Well, part of it was her tone. When the victim was crying or screaming, she would mimic her - "Waah waah waah...shut up you fucking bitch. We don't care" or "Eeeeee, eeeee. No one can hear you scream you filthy cunt. Just scream your head off -- unless I get sick of it and cut your tongue out of your ugly fucking face." She would also change froma sweet mocking tone to an evil one like "oh does that hurt? it does? GOOD!" Or "Where ya going" Hmm, little baby, where you going....you are not going FUCKING ANYWHERE. " Yank. Smack.

Those are not exact quotes, but along those lines.



Sounds just like the comments made by opposing tackles and blockers just before the ball is snapped.

I enjoyed the original post.. Impressive and interesting, food for much thought and discussion with a few friends.


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RE: You call that a demo?? Play Rape - 1/30/2006 10:36:48 PM   
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Sounds like something I would've loved to have gotten to see, a very interesting demo. Thanks for posting about it!

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RE: You call that a demo?? Play Rape - 1/30/2006 10:52:35 PM   
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I absolutely loved this post. I really enjoy hearing about people's experiences within groups and such, as it is hard to find play like that given my location and age. Thanks so much for sharing, Sensual, I'll have to pass a lot of this on... :D

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