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RE: talking to your Master proper and with respect - 4/21/2009 7:05:43 AM

hallieB

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thank you all for your comments and advice. It is greatly appreciated.

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RE: talking to your Master proper and with respect - 4/21/2009 6:22:42 PM

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Does anyone have any helpful advice on the proper and respectful way to carry a conversation with a Master.

I'm going to have to agree with those that have said only your master can actually answer this question. Consider me... I actively do NOT want mine to speak or behave in any way differently than when she was my wife and not mine slave... except I want her absolute obedience. But to me, at least, it was important not to lose the woman I already knew and loved behind some facade of slavehood. She obeys... that works for me. It seems to me that every single dom out there is going to have their own motivations and thoughts on the matter.

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RE: talking to your Master proper and with respect - 4/22/2009 9:08:27 AM

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Good manners and being respectful are a good start, and ask your Master what His rules are. Not all D-types have the same rules, and His are the ones that matter. No book with generic rules is going to tell you everything you need to know.

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RE: talking to your Master proper and with respect - 4/22/2009 10:18:53 PM

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You're 42 years old.... if you don't know how to come across as polite and respectful by this point, I don't know what to tell you.

If you were having a serious conversation with your boss or a police officer for instance ...how would you approach that situation?

I think your dom is looking for something along those lines.
You can still convey your opinion in a good manner which shows tact.

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RE: talking to your Master proper and with respect - 4/23/2009 8:31:03 AM

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You're 42 years old.... if you don't know how to come across as polite and respectful by this point, I don't know what to tell you.

If you were having a serious conversation with your boss or a police officer for instance ...how would you approach that situation?

I think your dom is looking for something along those lines.
You can still convey your opinion in a good manner which shows tact.

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RE: talking to your Master proper and with respect - 4/25/2009 8:21:38 AM

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Hi Hallie

I have read your responses and it makes me wonder why your Master has such a hard time expressing to you what pleases him and what doesn't...? It seems that either he isn't communicating well enough or you are not listening well enough. and/or possibly visaversa..He is not listening well enough and you are not communicating yourself to him...

After a year of being together > which do you think it is?

I agree with the others who say your answer isn't going to be what works for others in their relationships> but what works between you two.

I think sometimes in our efforts to please them, it creates a fear of displeasing. Perhaps Im just speaking for myself here...shrugs..
but I know I had to really LISTEN and trust him when he said never to be afraid of saying the wrong thing, expressing myself and my feeling is what gives him knowledge to guide US in the relationship. Fear is me keeping my control. Fear is a wall that keeps him out. There is no room for fear between us.

When I learned to trust in that I learned a new kind of trust in him.....but I couldn't get there until I was willing to risk saying or doing the wrong thing and then being instructed of his preference...not his displeasure, but his preference...There is a difference, I had to learn that.. I am not perfect...none of us are...

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RE: talking to your Master proper and with respect - 4/30/2009 9:03:10 PM

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I have a ? I am new to all this and learning to speak to my Sir with respect and with out being a silly person I am silly by nature but I do love to do things to please him and he does still love me to be fun so with in reason as u understand . My real ? is when being Collared does it have to be a collar or can it be just anything to signify the meaning ? Say a ring or Braclet if one was hmm say keeping this secret from a signifigant other ?? Can't it be something you and your Master or Sir agree on?? Thanks

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RE: talking to your Master proper and with respect - 4/30/2009 11:04:17 PM

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I have a ? I am new to all this and learning to speak to my Sir with respect and with out being a silly person I am silly by nature but I do love to do things to please him and he does still love me to be fun so with in reason as u understand . My real ? is when being Collared does it have to be a collar or can it be just anything to signify the meaning ? Say a ring or Braclet if one was hmm say keeping this secret from a signifigant other ?? Can't it be something you and your Master or Sir agree on?? Thanks

WTF??

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