I read this post and at first was not going to answer, but have since changed my mind because someone I think needs to. My opinion (yes just an opinion) isn't going to be very popular with you but here is what I think.
I think someone has enjoyed playing the field a little too much and is now cuaght between a rock and a hard place. Certainly all these men must take accountability for their own actions but I can also pretty much surmise that they would not all still be interested in you if you did not give them indications that you were interested.........in all of them. The very first thing that came to mind when I read this was...
You made your bed...now lie in it.
Sorry for sounding so harsh
MTs slave
== the above is my OPINION and does not reflect the BDSM community as whole==
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