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SteelofUtah -> RE: How to ask A Dom to play (4/22/2009 11:44:42 AM)
My take on this to no one inparticular is "Fuck it just ask" I am about to come across rather Boisterious They don't know what the Dynamic is and until they ask they will never know. Anyone who gets upset with someone for asking a question is a moron because it is through questioning that we learn. If you think it is most appropriate to afford someone the same respect you would want afforded to you then you go and ask the sub and if she is in a particular dynamic she will direct you to her Master. If she is not going to be okay with it and the Master would be then you get to decide if you want to play with a Master who does not care that his sub would be bothered by it. If you were to ask the Dom and he gets all snotty or annoyed that you would ask such a thing well now you have a better understanding of the kind of Dom you wish to play with. ASK QUESTIONS, it's how you learn. Steel

wolfgirl87 -> RE: How to ask A Dom to play (4/22/2009 12:22:37 PM)
quote: Anyone who gets upset with someone for asking a question is a moron because it is through questioning that we learn. Yeah, after reading the entire thread, this is about where my opinion is, too. has more to say but doesn't.

TaoWoman -> RE: How to ask A Dom to play (4/22/2009 12:28:49 PM)
Agreed ^...although moron is a strong word here~

LadyPact -> RE: How to ask A Dom to play (4/22/2009 12:51:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: slvemike4u Where abouts exactly are You located LadyPact.......party on indeed!~ LOL. Not like the both of you don't already know. <chuckle>

SimplyMichael -> RE: How to ask A Dom to play (4/24/2009 11:50:15 AM)
The easy low key answer is to ask the party host what the guy's story is. More than likely they will know exactly who to ask and how.

girlivy -> RE: How to ask A Dom to play (4/24/2009 10:04:51 PM)
Simple... Ask the one in charge....

ranja -> RE: How to ask A Dom to play (4/28/2009 4:13:00 AM)
When i go dancing the 'protocol' is to tap the man on his arm slightly and ask if he cares for a dance (never go and ask his partner first)...as long as you are in the right place for the activity you want to do i don't see why it could not be the same for bdsm play

slaveaprilbama -> RE: How to ask A Dom to play (4/28/2009 6:26:19 AM)
Almost every time we are at a BDSM function someone asks Master to Top them. Part of the time it is because He makes and sells whips and they want to see what the whip feels like. The other times it is because they want a lovely beating and/or to submit to Master for a little while. i get asked often if they can ask Master or how to ask Master to Top them. It is not my place to tell them yes or no and it is that simple. He is my Master but i do not own Him, He owns me. i tell them they need to ask Master but i give the impression that i do not mind. Some bottoms do not want to step on others toes so to speak. i appreciate this train of thought even though it is not needed in our case. This is how we are and i understand that all BDSM types are not like this. It would be easier for us if everyone adopted this thought process. It will never be that way so we must handle other thought processes and perspectives. The one thing i refuse to do ever again is tell a bottom what words and demeanor to use while asking Master. (okay unless Master tells me otherwise) If a bottom cannot muster the courage to pull the right words out of themselves along with the right attitude then they do not deserve to be Topped by Master. MasterinSEAL's property, slave april

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