FTopinMichigan
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ORIGINAL: littleone35 I got a story i met this Dom r/l he seemed nice did not give me fireworks just something about him seems wrong to me when we left said he would keep in touch and gave me a hug. Wen i got home i had a e mail fom him saying i was not what he was looking for. he could have told me that up front i mean no hard feeling not everyones is someones cup of tea just seemed rude to do it over the puter. If you're meeting someone for the very first time, to get to know them...it means you don't know them, right? That also implies that you don't know how they might react to rejection, let alone with it being in public. I have met with a few men for lunch or drinks, and immediately realized that things wouldn't go well between us. I also felt an obvious response from them, that they thought we were a perfect match. They were either blind to our differences, or completely ignoring my hint, and even my direct words, in some cases. I have even spoken to them about things probably not working out, and this "always" feel on deaf ears (of course because they always felt they could "change my mind"). Rejecting them in a public area, in my own neighborhood in some cases, may not be the best move, as I don't know how they would react. Some people don't do well with rejection (do ANY of us do well with it), as evidence from the responses many of us have received when we've rejected folks just via e-mail contacts alone. Can you imagine that same rejectee reacting poorly in public? I think the let down, via contact "after" an initial meeting(that didn't go well) is better for both parties sometimes. I also feel that finding out that the match is not a match is good, regardless of the way it's offered. Too many people just disappear without reason. K
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