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RE: Temporary?? - 4/28/2009 6:43:25 AM

IronBear

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It all depends on the people involved. At this time, Neets and I are the temp Master and Mistress of a lass who has recently suffered a messy break up with a completely nasty idiot who is still trying to cause her problems even though he is in another state. This lass has been our friend for ten years and I helped train her in the Gorean Lifestyle when she was in another relationship at that time.

I will only become so involved if I know the whole story and the expected time limitations. In another thread I recounted how years ago after my 'Nam time, I fell in love with a girl who saw in me, the brother she never had and how she fell in love with a colse mate of mine. I was both best man at their wedding and am God Father to their children. She never knew and still does not know how much I loved her. The issue was and in such cases like being a temp Master, I want what is best for that person in my care, personal feelings are firmly set aside. Life is a game and like playing poker, you do the best with the cards you hold. Double dealing or cheating may get you some satisfaction but in the long run you are the poorer for it.

So to answer the OP, yes it does work if the right people are involved and they are open and honest.

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RE: Temporary?? - 4/28/2009 7:16:07 AM

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Another point to ponder...Is your submission a desire or a need?

One gives you the POWER of choice, including wise choice to serve another - the other controls you and in essence serves you~

So who are you wishing to serve?

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RE: Temporary?? - 4/29/2009 4:01:08 AM

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

I would stop talking to him and start enjoying yourself, and see what it is you want vs what he thinks you ought to do. Because right now you are still used to considering him first and yourself last. And that's not a healthy place for you to make decisions about your future from.

DesFIP - hadn't even considered this view point but you are so right in what you say.... He is still very much in my mind when i'm considering life choices....

Thank you for highlighting!

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RE: Temporary?? - 4/29/2009 5:09:27 PM

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i don't see that your previous Master as pushing any agenda or trying to control you with his advice to be patient. that is good advice, and it is a good option.

but it is your life and your decision how to proceed. you can respect him and his advice and still choose another option that you feel is more what you need at this time.

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RE: Temporary?? - 4/30/2009 8:20:16 AM

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Generally, advise given, is probably good advise for the person giving it and yet it may be completely wrong for you. Whilst you are uncollared, you must make up your own mind both heeding and dismissing advise given. Hopefully you make the best choice or decision based on the information you have to hand when making life choices especially.

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RE: Temporary?? - 4/30/2009 8:54:54 AM

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You seem so sweet and put together.
My answers are from the heart, head and wisdom of my own Sir.

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ORIGINAL: ohsocheekyslave

- i miss the control is the bottom line
You must take control of your own life first, before you can give the control away to another.
You must always remain strongly independent, ready to take control at any moment.... sometimes the rug is pulled from underneath you and you are not warned.

Honest and upfront opinions welcomed - am i just being a selfish slave?
Well, I don't know about slave, but a selfish woman?

If I asked that question of my sister (biological), she'd tell me wait at least 6 months so you don't make a rebound decision and live to regret it.

thanks in advance!
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