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LaTigresse -> RE: What are you not willing to give up? (4/29/2009 9:06:32 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: subtlebutterfly After a looooooong train of thoughts I'm going to be the selfish one and say nothing. There ya go I admitted it![8\|] Oh yeah, my material stuff, someone better be offering something better. A LOT better! (even then I would be greedy and want to keep what I already have and just add to) When answering previously I was thinking deep thoughts......[:D]

TaoWoman -> RE: What are you not willing to give up? (4/29/2009 9:06:50 AM)
Playing Devil's advocate here... If a slave can chose what NOT to give up, is she a slave even by BDSM terms? While these debates go on at adnauseom, it is still incredulous that a slave has so many choices, and why a woman who has a choice feels she needs to identify herself as slave when she is a submissive~

Mercnbeth -> RE: What are you not willing to give up? (4/29/2009 9:06:58 AM)
given the parameters you have set in the OP: this slave was not/is not willing to give up her submissive nature/personality...which had resulted in her no longer seeking partners from the "conventional" relationship pool. she was not willing to go to therapy/counselling/take medications with the goal being to supress or change her nature/personality into one that is physically, emotionally and mentally comfortable with taking on a dominant role, or co-dominant role, in any relationship, intimate or otherwise. everything else was negotiable.

slavekal -> RE: What are you not willing to give up? (4/29/2009 9:09:49 AM)
I will not give up being a guy. I eat meat. Like a beer with my steak. I don't like chick flicks, antiquing (When did that become a verb?). I will serve my lady, but I won't sip tea.

subtlebutterfly -> RE: What are you not willing to give up? (4/29/2009 9:30:28 AM)
..we should found the single&selfish club![:D] am I seriously the only gawd damn "submissive" who answers: nothing.. thinks of changing my label over to dominant to fit in better[8D]

wisdomofgiving -> RE: What are you not willing to give up? (4/29/2009 10:58:06 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: subtlebutterfly ..we should found the single&selfish club![:D] am I seriously the only gawd damn "submissive" who answers: nothing.. thinks of changing my label over to dominant to fit in better[8D] No you are not the only one who would not give up anything. If someone wanted me to give something up, then they really aren't interested in me but a fantasy. wisdomofgiving

LafayetteLady -> RE: What are you not willing to give up? (4/29/2009 11:13:34 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: subtlebutterfly ..we should found the single&selfish club![:D] am I seriously the only gawd damn "submissive" who answers: nothing.. thinks of changing my label over to dominant to fit in better[8D] Hell no! Like everyone else, I have been asked (more usually "told) that if I were to become "his", this that and the other thing would be changed about me. I don't think so. I usually sit back and think "if there is that much about me that you find unappealling, what the F*&$ are you talking to me for?"

brownbutterflyy -> RE: What are you not willing to give up? (4/29/2009 3:42:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CatdeMedici (first of all let Me apologize if the font is odd, for some reason since yesterday, its gotten screwy and when I try to fix it, it goes back-anyway, I digress..) I wonder if this applies to the female submissives as well, it will be interesting to see---we FemDoms do get some of the most bizarre petitioining emails-submissives who live way too much in the land of Fantasy--willing to be chained 24/7 in the basement, seeking to have their privates removed and on and on and on. However, we also know that there are some very good potentials or some very good submissives who do and have given up a lot to seek a certain kind of life. My question though is, other than the obvious or perhaps not so obvious ( health and anatomical parts)--what are you NOT willing to give up? My personality, my UMs for anyone. It took me a long time to learn to me myself and I am not giving that up for anyone.

InTonguesslut -> RE: What are you not willing to give up? (4/29/2009 4:27:50 PM)
I'm not willing to give up anything if i'm honest. I will reprioritise (sp) things but not give them up altogether.

lally2 -> RE: What are you not willing to give up? (4/29/2009 4:37:16 PM)
OTK spanking for no particular reason - [:)]

whiteslavebitch -> RE: What are you not willing to give up? (4/29/2009 4:40:01 PM)
In no special order: My career, my family, my identity, my dog.

KneelforAnne -> RE: What are you not willing to give up? (4/29/2009 4:41:15 PM)
I’m not willing to give up anything. For this to work, it has to work for both of us.

lizi -> RE: What are you not willing to give up? (4/29/2009 6:16:06 PM)
I won't give up my close relationship with my ums for anyone. I won't give up myself either - the sparkling personality and wit lol [:D]

littlewonder -> RE: What are you not willing to give up? (4/29/2009 6:29:05 PM)
I'm not willing to give up my self-confidence, family, health, integrity, religion, sense of self-worth, intelligence...give me time and I'm sure I can come up with lots more things but those are just off the top of my head. Not giving up those things is why I stayed single for so very many many years and I'd stay single again for even longer if I had to if I felt I had to give those things up to be with someone. Those things that make up who I am and are part of my moral code and values are not things I'll give up for anything. Why would someone want someone who would so easily give up such things? What kind of life would that be really?

beltainefaerie -> RE: What are you not willing to give up? (4/29/2009 7:05:26 PM)
My faith and my family, but that's about it.

catize -> RE: What are you not willing to give up? (4/29/2009 7:23:35 PM)
There are times when I think that with the right dominant and the right circumstances I’d be willing to give up a lot. But I also believe that any dominant for whom I would be willing to do so would not want me to forfeit anything that was truly important to me. Pragmatically, I would not be willing to give up food, clothing or shelter. Emotionally I could not give up those people who are a significant part of my life. Mentally, I believe I would waste away if not allowed to read and write. I might be willing to give up my autonomy, but there are some big IF’s around that. I have conflicted feelings because I have had only myself to rely on all my adult life. It would be difficult to be dependent on another person. And yet there are times that I am wistful, thinking perhaps I would like to give up my job and house in order to be available to serve a dominant man. In order to do that I would need a legally binding written guarantee that I would be provided for; not just for the duration of the relationship, but also if he no longer wanted me or if he died. I am no starry-eyed submissive. Practicalities rule. It is the rare dominant indeed who is not only able but willing to accept the responsibility for what I would give up for him.

Blackwolf9 -> RE: What are you not willing to give up? (4/29/2009 8:33:32 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: InTonguesslut I'm not willing to give up anything if i'm honest. I will reprioritise (sp) things but not give them up altogether. I mostly agree with this. I can't think of anything that I've been asked to give up entirely...other than sexual contact with other men, which he didn't have to ask for since I am monogamous... I am in love, and it is hard to say what I wouldn't do for Master. Things that blatantly effect my health or cause permanent damage are a hard limit, but they are for him as well. Things that I wish to keep high on the priority list are my horseback riding and financial independence.

sweetsub1957 -> RE: What are you not willing to give up? (4/29/2009 8:55:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sirsholly i won't give up my faith, my family/friends, my hard limits, my personality, my sense of self What she said.

Missokyst -> RE: What are you not willing to give up? (4/29/2009 10:02:41 PM)
This is an easy one for me. My early marriage was largely DS. We married in a catholic church though neither one of us practiced the faith. 7 yrs into the marriage, he was reborn, having found a tall well built woman to help him along. He demanded that I convert to his new faith or our marriage could not be saved. Oddly enough, though I did all his college work, took care of the 3 kids, made their clothes because he was too busy outfitting himself.. he said.. "the bible says you must submit to me as I am the head of the house" Umm.. it was my mom's house and in 7 yrs..he held down a job for only that last year. Converting .. hard limit. I still do not engage in organised religion but I will be damned before anyone tells me I MUST. Kyst

YoursMistress -> RE: What are you not willing to give up? (4/29/2009 10:32:19 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: slavekal I will not give up being a guy. I eat meat. Like a beer with my steak. I don't like chick flicks, antiquing (When did that become a verb?). I will serve my lady, but I won't sip tea. omg, I'm the anti-kal! [;)] I wouldn't give up my job, or anything putting my job at risk. yours

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