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kiwisub12 -> RE: What are you not willing to give up? (5/3/2009 8:32:54 AM)
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DesFIP said it for me - i would not become less, and for me that means not giving up my creativity, or the things that bring me joy. When i moved in with Sir i gave up my dogs and cats (stayed with my adult daughter), and as much as i enjoyed them, it wasn't as hard as i thought. On the other hand he tolerates my birds and encourages my quilting, and hasn't insisted that i love brussel sprouts or lima beans.
There are compromises in every relationship and a tpe isn't any different to a vanilla relationship. If he insisted i quit reading for pleasure, i would have to think long and hard before commiting to a man who would take away something that gives me so much pleasure. And as for moulding my personality - forget that crap. If my personality was so abrasive that he couldn't tolerate it, and "had" to change it, we shouldn't be together in the first place.
If i wanted to be gushy i would say that i handed my Sir my heart - and he has held it very gently - but i am not that sort of woman, so i won't [:D]
For me a relationship isn't about what you give up, its about what you acquire - companionship, love, another viewpoint, and someone to serve, to submit to. If your relationship is about what you gave up, then it would sound as if you haven't gained enough to balance it out.
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