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What are you not willing to give up? - 4/29/2009 5:06:03 AM

CatdeMedici

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(first of all let Me apologize if the font is odd, for some reason since yesterday, its gotten screwy and when I try to fix it, it goes back-anyway, I digress..)

I wonder if this applies to the female submissives as well, it will be interesting to see---we FemDoms do get some of the most bizarre petitioining emails-submissives who live way too much in the land of Fantasy--willing to be chained 24/7 in the basement, seeking to have their privates removed and on and on and on.

However, we also know that there are some very good potentials or some very good submissives who do and have given up a lot to seek a certain kind of life.

My question though is, other than the obvious or perhaps not so obvious ( health and anatomical parts)--what are you NOT willing to give up?

< Message edited by CatdeMedici -- 4/29/2009 5:28:09 AM >

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RE: What are you not willing to give up? - 4/29/2009 5:21:57 AM

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Having spent 3 years exploring the submissive side of the kneel...there is not a thing worth giving up. Painful road to figuring this out but worth it~

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RE: What are you not willing to give up? - 4/29/2009 5:23:26 AM

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first and foremost, i'm not willing to give up my identity/personality. it's what makes me be me. i have met dominants who want a submissive/slave to mold and shape them as they (dominant) want them to be. that's not for me because i know it would be hard not living up to their standards. i live up to my own standards.

next i'm not willing to give up my ums for any man - i had a couple of dominants here asking me to give up being a mother to be with them. HA - i love my girls more ...and they'll always be first in my life.

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RE: What are you not willing to give up? - 4/29/2009 5:37:25 AM

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I won't give up the close relationship I have with my immediate family.

I won't give up reading/learning.

I won't give up my core values/morals.

Fortunately, I didn't have to give up any of these. He is very supportive of all these things and wouldn't think of asking me to "give up"any of them.

But then, He's wonderful

luci

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RE: What are you not willing to give up? - 4/29/2009 5:40:54 AM

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i won't give up my faith, my family/friends, my hard limits, my personality, my sense of self

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RE: What are you not willing to give up? - 4/29/2009 6:18:22 AM

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Outside the obvious… I am not willing to give up working on interpreting/creating a new mythology.
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RE: What are you not willing to give up? - 4/29/2009 6:19:24 AM

tiinkerbell

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My question though is, other than the obvious or perhaps not so obvious ( health and anatomical parts)--what are you NOT willing to give up?

Self respect.

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RE: What are you not willing to give up? - 4/29/2009 6:20:58 AM

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It's pretty hard to sit here and type that i won't do something. Even so, i cannot live in slave lala land all the time. Combining slavery and reality is what makes my life so beauitful.

i won't give up my choice and dersire to be a slave, my family, religious beliefs, moral values and my core inner self.

Many aspects of myself have been modified to better serve Master the way He wishes. Some changes have been extremely hard and others have been very easy.

MasterinSEAL's property, slave april

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RE: What are you not willing to give up? - 4/29/2009 6:22:39 AM

CollaredLisa

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My family and friends.
My personality (I mean, sure, I'm 18, some things will change for me, but I wouldn't give anything up)
Reading, learning and so on.
My job-related wishes for the future.

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RE: What are you not willing to give up? - 4/29/2009 6:25:38 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sirsholly

i won't give up my faith, my family/friends, my hard limits, my personality, my sense of self

Can't say it any better than this. Though I have been alienated from my family and friends for, GASP! Daring to fall in love and move 2300 miles away to another country to be with the Man i love. That's their choice, not mine.

If someone won't respect my hard limits and the reasons behind them, that person is not worth giving up my freedom for.

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RE: What are you not willing to give up? - 4/29/2009 6:31:25 AM

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You cannot make a list on something so vague without sacrificing your integrity.

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RE: What are you not willing to give up? - 4/29/2009 6:37:29 AM

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My children and my faith.

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RE: What are you not willing to give up? - 4/29/2009 8:03:25 AM

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My sense of self, my Cats, friends/family, my ability to have a job, my independence outside the relationship...god, so much more.

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RE: What are you not willing to give up? - 4/29/2009 8:09:10 AM

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I cannot answer. Everything that is that important to me, that I delude myself in having the power to hold onto, still can be taken away.

It is easier to say what I will protect from my own selfishness. What I will not allow to be sacrificed.

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RE: What are you not willing to give up? - 4/29/2009 8:12:17 AM

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I will not give up my famly my faith or senes of self or my personallity. Why would i? My personallity is what made him interested in me. iI i gave that up i would not be the girl he fell in love with. That being said i (in a manner od speaking) gave up my heart to him.

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RE: What are you not willing to give up? - 4/29/2009 8:22:19 AM

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After a looooooong train of thoughts I'm going to be the selfish one and say nothing.
There ya go I admitted it!

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RE: What are you not willing to give up? - 4/29/2009 8:34:41 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: subtlebutterfly

After a looooooong train of thoughts I'm going to be the selfish one and say nothing.
There ya go I admitted it!

Well, don't feel alone, I'm with ya on that--I've been faulted on more than one occasion for those feelings, having been told I was selfish, single minded, etc---and yeah ok maybe I just haven't meet the right person to make Me compromise or give something up---but yeah, so far, I haven't and I doubt very strongly that I ever will.

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RE: What are you not willing to give up? - 4/29/2009 8:46:10 AM

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I'm not willing to give up my family. I'm too close to them, especially to my nephew whom I've raised. I won't give up wanting to go back to school to get a buisness degree so that I can start my own business. I won't give up my desire to start a family, to have children of my own. I won't give up trying to better myself in anyway I can, be it through Master's advice and guidance, through exploring, through going back to school ect. there's more but those are the ones that immediately come to mind

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RE: What are you not willing to give up? - 4/29/2009 9:00:57 AM

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My family and my assets.
It would seem axiomatic that nobody would ask a mother to abandon her children, unfortunately I have gotten that. As well as doms wanting use of my female offspring while she was underage.
It would also seem common sense that nobody's first question would be about me signing over the deed to my home and other assets. Unfortunately common sense is in short supply.

More encompassing, I won't break my own moral code. I could never respect myself again.

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RE: What are you not willing to give up? - 4/29/2009 9:02:44 AM

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This is a great question. As I thought about what I'd put down as a "no-surrender" I realized how little I actually control.

I could say family, but I 've already lost a few for various reasons. I could say my job but that could change at any time. My possessions? I learned how quickly this past weekend how quickly those can be taken from me.

I'm left with what's important...my integrity, my independence, my core beliefs and the things that make me the person I am. Those are things I won't compromise on...things I do have control over.

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