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PeonForHer -> RE: Domme Space (4/30/2009 5:35:33 PM)

True.  But - good god - I can only imagine what it'd be like to be in domme-space (or sub-space, in my case) with someone by whom I was also lovestruck.  I think I'd float off, never to be seen again . . .



LadyPact -> RE: Domme Space (4/30/2009 5:43:03 PM)

That, My dear peon, is exactly why those we share certain experiences with, are better than others.  I can hit Top space with just about anyone, to be sure, but My best trips have been with My boy or those with whom I have an emotional connection.



PeonForHer -> RE: Domme Space (4/30/2009 5:48:30 PM)

I know that I'd feel extremely vulnerable in that state.  More so afterwards, probably.  Is it likewise for a dominant?



LadyPact -> RE: Domme Space (4/30/2009 6:36:55 PM)

I don't know if I'd use the word vulnerable.  For Me, it's pretty amazing though.



DemonKia -> RE: Domme Space (4/30/2009 6:41:58 PM)

It is for me.

I'm basically not wired for anything casual, in & of itself. I've quit going to play parties (actually, I quit hosting parties, but it all works out the same), because I need more support infrastructure in my life . . .. . Going home to an empty bed was not working for me, in part because of the whole top drop thing that I get . ... . .

Frankly, most of the time I feel exposed when I'm 'exercising my kink self' -- posting here, going to munches & classes & parties, & etc . . . . I'm putting my wants & needs out there, I'm being 'real' & vulnerable & trying to stay emotionally available . . . . . In lots of other areas of my life I have far more guards & walls up than I do here, amongst the 'out & organized kinksters' . .... . I 'spect I'm not the only one . . .. . .



PeonForHer -> RE: Domme Space (4/30/2009 6:45:13 PM)

I have an impulse to say: please have a certain level of care, Kia, even here.



DemonKia -> RE: Domme Space (4/30/2009 7:34:20 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

I have an impulse to say: please have a certain level of care, Kia, even here.


Aw, Peon, that's so sweet of you . . .. .

I've a long practice at being open, even inappropriately intimate & frank, & of working with my vulnerability as a strength as well as a weakness, long before this kink thing (it's yet another draw of kink that those things are potential pluses in these venues) . ... .

After hosting a radio call-in talk-show most everything else is a piece of cake; you've never lived 'til you've come to tears on-air (I can laugh about it now) . . . . . (That's where I learned that the ones putatively on my side can cause far more pain than the ones on the 'other' side.)

& besides, here I can jog off to the Silliness forum & get aftercare [;)]



GYPZYQUEEN -> RE: Domme Space (5/2/2009 10:23:20 PM)

D SPACE:

I get to surf the sub's sensations..I am hot with his responses..the physical and emotional intensity of what we are doing  creating..
as I ride with him into his space..mine and his merge...
The sub lends his power...I add mine and we have HIGH VOLTAGE..
I wield the power which is hot ..erotic..sexy..
 
**I also get DOMME "drop"...at times
which is similar to when a sub needs after care..it can occur after a "Session" or a day later...as I process a particular feeling..that has been posponed becuz I needed to be totally there to calibrate the subs process..
I may feel down..tired..anxious..I know then I need to take care of self..rest...relax..process..talk...
 
 
GQ



PeonForHer -> RE: Domme Space (5/3/2009 4:02:40 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

I don't know if I'd use the word vulnerable.  For Me, it's pretty amazing though.


After getting only one response to that question, and watching the thread drop down the page, I began to wonder if I'd asked a very vexing question.  But, now, it seems that it's more an irrelevant question than a troubling one.  Of course, there's a feeling of great power and control when someone is in domme space - rather the opposite to vulnerability, in fact.  I can understand that some feeling of melancholy - involved in which might be a certain sense of vulnerability - might come after, though. 



vampchick88 -> RE: Domme Space (5/15/2009 3:48:31 PM)

I get into "Domme Space". pet is able to get into subspace by what he is experiencing and I also get into my own headspace of sorts. Its almost as though the torrent of all that I've pent up for pet, my ideas, my emotions, being myself and allowing my desire to all interconnect (may also be called my "Id") comes unleashed. I then torture and base my session on feelings and spir of the moments. I unleash and join my comfort zone while pet also experiences it in his own way. Domme space is very intense for me and can last after the session for quite some time. During aftercare my mindset is still the same and may continue to be so until I go to sleep.  If it is a chemical reaction in the brain which I think it is, both Domme and sub/slave both experience it on different planes. But pet has been the first to drag it completely out of me, I've never had the comfort as I do now. Its a complete blissful experience. ~Lorelei



MistressRouge -> RE: Domme Space (5/16/2009 1:20:48 AM)

Head space whether Dominant or submissive, is usually the state of mind of excitement prior to the play/ session. Submissives usually describe this as an exciting trepidation, also some may prepare and carry out rituals of preparation i.e. even shaving themselves, the journey, a nice lunch prior or after session also.
Dominants may also achieve headspace with play planning, laying out equipment, setting the scene etc prior, this intensifies when the play partner/submissive/masochist is present.

This head space can also then merge into "sub space for the sub, and Dominant space for the Dominant", once the play is in motion, more of an exchange of energy, sharing in the experience together.

As a Dominant I like to channel and hold the reins of the energy, thus creating a wonderful union of "space" sometimes a mixture of the "spaces".

Endorphins, dopamine, adrenalin also play their part in a different way, and usually result in subspace if a submissive is adept at receiving, registering and absorbing and bouncing back the energy to the Dominant, mainly totally emersing themselves into the dynamic.

Masochists can also get straight to the "zone", without any other D/s involvement, I suppose many masochists I session with (some switches) just feed on the painful sensations & energy Which is totally fine by me. My sadism is not only a "Mistress, Ma'am, Madam", she can rear her cruel head anytime lol.
It is not all about pain and sensations regarding headspace either, some D/s activities commands, and even fetishes may also act as a trigger.

Sub/Dom/me drop is usually paramount a few days after the euphoric high, sometimes a week or longer for many, they have told me.
What goes up, must come down so to speak, as a Dominant I have also experienced Domme drop, not a very nice place to be, but usually rectified with more play

To add, you can not WILL someone into any of the spaces, it has to be a mutual, genuine alligned energy, usually boils down to enjoying one another to the point of tuning into each other mentally and physically.

I really thrive on Domme headspace, and feel I am kind of a junkie for it [:)]

There are some pre planned sessions that I sometimes feel WOW I cannot wait, not only in excitement but to really indulge and explore another human being, is truly amazing!

Also, creative, impulsive moments, are also truly rewarding.




Vendaval -> RE: Domme Space (5/16/2009 1:38:14 AM)

Not at all, super in control and confident is what I experience.

quote:

ORIGINAL: PeonForHer
I know that I'd feel extremely vulnerable in that state.  More so afterwards, probably.  Is it likewise for a dominant?



PsyVamp -> RE: Domme Space (5/16/2009 10:20:01 AM)

My reactions depend on the person I'm with.   Like some others, I don't do casual play but no matter who you are with, there is always that 'first time'. 
The 'first times' have a lot of NRE attached and I'll notice the "Top drop" later more than I'll notice actual "Dom space" at the time of 'play'.
Once a dynamic has been established though, I noticed that I get more focused and calculating and less emotional during any type of Dominating.  I'll still experience the drop later but I'm able to recognize the way the Dominating amplifies certain aspects of My personality.





vampchick88 -> RE: Domme Space (5/17/2009 7:11:37 AM)

Domme space to me is the best part of the hunt. You've hunted your prey, caught them, now your playing with and devouring them. I tend to get a very animalistic mind set which just expands and lets me enjoy everything. A predator enjoying her caught prey[:)]~Lorelei



LadyPact -> RE: Domme Space (5/17/2009 7:51:05 AM)

Actually, I have different types of space.  One of the varieties is something that I refer to as "primal space" which is the kind that is obtained through scratching, clawing, biting, etc.  It's brought out by the animalistic (My spell checker doesn't like that word) side.  Common definition.  Those things that can bring the bottom to bleed without the use of toys.  Just Me and My own devices.

Another is something that I call "residual space" which I happen to be enjoying at this particular moment.  Not the full on space that immediately follows play, but the lingering space that I can experience the next day from the night before.  Still floaty, but to a lesser degree.

Speaking of which, all answers given today are coming from a brain that hasn't quite processed all of the endorphins.



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