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New To This - 5/1/2009 9:19:14 PM   
WhtEvaULike


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Status: offline 		New to this and just had a question . When being collared does it have to be a collar or can it be anything that you and your "Sir" Or "Master" agree on ?? In my case I am married and my hubby know's nothing of this so to wear a collar may be difficult so I was thinking a ring or a braclet is that out of the question or how does that work?? Thanks
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RE: New To This - 5/1/2009 9:25:03 PM   
DomArtist1


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Status: offline 		Hi there,

I'm confused by your question. Are you trying to hide the fact that your collard from your husband? Do you have a dom somewhere who's collared you, but is not your husband?

Or are you saying that your husband is a dom and what's to collar you, but is also a newbie and doesn't know the process?

Being collard typically means you're owned by a particular master or dom.

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RE: New To This - 5/1/2009 9:26:15 PM   
kuriouswitch


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Status: offline 		well the collar can be whatever you and your Master decide. right now my collar is an anklet Master gave me for chrristmas. In less than two weeks Master will place a leather collar around my neck. it's a symbol really of your commitment to him.

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RE: New To This - 5/1/2009 9:30:10 PM   
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Status: offline 		What, your husband doesn't know you are collared? Are you keeping it from him? Or did you mean something else, and I'm confused. 

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RE: New To This - 5/1/2009 9:34:17 PM   
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well the collar can be whatever you and your Master decide.

Kurious wins the "correct answer" blue ribbon.
That said, if you have a "master" and are hiding that lil snippet of info from the person you are married to... ummm, not a good thing.


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RE: New To This - 5/1/2009 9:52:46 PM   
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RE: New To This - 5/1/2009 10:14:02 PM   
CarrieO


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Status: offline 		Although I have never collared anyone, or been collared, and I also haven't been married I'll still give this the old college try.

From what I've been told, being collared is much like being married...a commitment made by to people. This could mean that a collar could be viewed much like a wedding ring...a symbol of said commitment. Anything that represents this, be it ring/collar/bracelet/anklet or nose ring could work.

Either way, they represent same...a commitment.

Just my opinion, though.

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RE: New To This - 5/1/2009 10:42:08 PM   
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RE: New To This - 5/1/2009 11:07:24 PM   
Fitznicely


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quote:

ORIGINAL: WhtEvaULike

New to this and just had a question . When being collared does it have to be a collar or can it be anything that you and your "Sir" Or "Master" agree on ?? In my case I am married and my hubby know's nothing of this so to wear a collar may be difficult so I was thinking a ring or a braclet is that out of the question or how does that work?? Thanks


It can be anything of significance between you and your Owner.

However, if you're new, I don't think it's something you need to worry about just yet. If someone wants to collar you when you're unsure even of it's significance, then your answer should be "No thanks".

As for your husband, tell him.

[edited cos I'm tired and didn't read the last bit]

< Message edited by Fitznicely -- 5/1/2009 11:16:12 PM >

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RE: New To This - 5/1/2009 11:40:44 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Fitznicely


quote:

ORIGINAL: WhtEvaULike

New to this and just had a question . When being collared does it have to be a collar or can it be anything that you and your "Sir" Or "Master" agree on ?? In my case I am married and my hubby know's nothing of this so to wear a collar may be difficult so I was thinking a ring or a braclet is that out of the question or how does that work?? Thanks


It can be anything of significance between you and your Owner.

However, if you're new, I don't think it's something you need to worry about just yet. If someone wants to collar you when you're unsure even of it's significance, then your answer should be "No thanks".




OP, you're asking the wrong question, IMHO. You're putting the cart before the horse.

Better questions would be "Why am I staying married to someone I'm not being honest with? Is that fair to him? Don't both of us deserve to be married to someone who we can be our authentic selves with? Am I wasting both of our time, by staying married to someone who I feel compelled to deceive? What am I afraid of? How long am I willing or able to hide this part of myself away from him? What are my motivations, and why? Am I acting  out of love, or more out of fear? What do I have to lose, and is it worth it?"

Things like that, would be good questions to start with. Or you may wish you had, when they come up later.

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RE: New To This - 5/1/2009 11:59:08 PM   
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ORIGINAL: WhtEvaULike

New to this and just had a question . When being collared does it have to be a collar or can it be anything that you and your "Sir" Or "Master" agree on ?? In my case I am married and my hubby know's nothing of this so to wear a collar may be difficult so I was thinking a ring or a braclet is that out of the question or how does that work?? Thanks

Are you kidding me?? Wow thats just RICH....


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Do they make infidelity collars now?

LMAO...nice


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RE: New To This - 5/2/2009 12:07:48 AM   
breatheasone


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OP, you're asking the wrong question, IMHO. You're putting the cart before the horse.

Better questions would be "Why am I staying married to someone I'm not being honest with? Is that fair to him? Don't both of us deserve to be married to someone who we can be our authentic selves with? Am I wasting both of our time, by staying married to someone who I feel compelled to deceive? What am I afraid of? How long am I willing or able to hide this part of myself away from him? What are my motivations, and why? Am I acting out of love, or more out of fear? What do I have to lose, and is it worth it?"

Things like that, would be good questions to start with. Or you may wish you had, when they come up later.

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RE: New To This - 5/2/2009 4:42:14 AM   
oceanwinds


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Status: offline 		In my life a wedding band is sacred. If I ever considered to be collared it too would have to be sacred.

I not one to accept disloyality in my life, nor to be disloyal to another. It just would not work in my world.

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RE: New To This - 5/2/2009 5:08:23 AM   
Sunnyfey


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Status: offline 		So you don't think your husband would ask about some random ass piece of jewelry you just happen to wear all the time?

No scratch that, go out and buy an eternity collar or something ostentatious, a big freaking leather dog collar with spikes!!!

Maybe then he will notice. And maybe then you can talk about the fact your not  being honest with him.


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RE: New To This - 5/2/2009 5:08:32 AM   
SultryMomma


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Status: offline 		It can be anything the two of you decide. I think you may have other things though that are more important. Especially the fact that you are hiding what you do from your husband.

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RE: New To This - 5/2/2009 5:26:40 AM   
DomImus


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ORIGINAL: NihilusZero
Do they make infidelity collars now?


Yes. They are right next to the judgment handcuffs.

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RE: New To This - 5/2/2009 5:47:36 AM   
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Status: offline 		Eva, you're setting yourself up to be screwed over really badly.

You're married, your profile states that you consider yourself a slave, and you're new and innocent.  It would be easy for a faker to push you to "prove" your devotion, and then blackmail you.

I've got a better idea.  Try telling your husband that you'd like him to take more control in bed.  If you can make that work, get him to take more control out of bed as well.

Ideally, the two of you could learn together.


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RE: New To This - 5/2/2009 9:25:21 AM   
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ORIGINAL: DomImus

quote:

ORIGINAL: NihilusZero
Do they make infidelity collars now?


Yes. They are right next to the judgment handcuffs.


That wasnt a judgement...it IS . Nice try though


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RE: New To This - 5/2/2009 9:41:29 AM   
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Status: offline 		I would consider getting out of the first commitment before making another one.  Have you thought about telling the hub, so you can each move on to something that suits you better?  I would also think about what Steven said as well.  How well do you know this guy who wants to collar you?  I know this isn't what you were asking about, but it wouldn't hurt to kick some of this stuff around in your head.

At any rate, sure, anything can be used as a "collar", a necklace, a bracelet or anklet etc. And it signifies whatever you want it to, could be a commitment to one another, a mutual agreement, a physical reminder, etc etc.

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RE: New To This - 5/2/2009 10:08:15 AM   
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Status: offline 		Please stay in the vanilla lifestyle. This lifestyle is about honor. Being collared is serious. We have seen enough people crash and burn trying to sneak around.

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