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RE: 24/7 Live in Question - 5/4/2009 3:33:57 AM   
GYPZYQUEEN


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Status: offline 		MAKE A MANUAL WITH YOUR MISTRESS..

I have always had my boys
make a HOUSE MANUAL them selves....called
              PLEASING MISTRESS


I start in the very beginning with the protocol page on entering the home and waiting for instruction..lists of my likes and dislikes( no runny eggs)..and habits..then further protocol etc.


A big binder or coil book is good...with plastic covers so pages don't get wet

It has in it things I have discussed after training and meetings such as HOW house tasks are to be done eg) how and when the bathroom is cleaned right down to the cleanser used....
a weekly schedule and sometimes daily

There are blank places for notes by the boy..
 
I like to give text to be hand written in or cut and pasted
AFTER training/meeting/discussion so there has been verbal..written and hands on learning.
 
I have the boys research things such as...stain removal...plant care...pet care or things SPECIFIC to our home and me like coffee making or fruit recipes...and ADD them in.

or things that come up as our relationship goes fwd..eg) all things packed for camping list**( he can then reference back for next time and see his notes as well..
" pack more coffee and dif .kinds for Mistress..pack her fav mug""

or FLOWERS: "always cut the stems of flowers from flower shop BEFORE putting in vase (longevity)..Mistress loves stocks and iris........best: fresh at Planet Organic..$3 for stocks

There is a recipe section...a section of envelopes for receipts etc.
adn places to paste in business cards such as my spa...hair salon etc

These manuals turn into works of art...with photos..art work and a lot of info..
.......each being beautifully made with love by my boys..

I can also add in post it reminders and little happy face "I am pleased" notes.

Also boys end up exchanging info with each other..on line( training sites)...in person etc and this can be useful to add in as well...
I know of one group of boys that gets together  and exchanges household tips

** you asked specifically about training so then if YOUR Mistress
is not sure how she would like some things done for whatever reason...eg) house work..perhaps another sub can come in who is trained and show both of you and see if she wants it this way...or she can have you research and do a task then modify it to HER specifications eg) you have researched table setting and meal presentation and she wishes it to be less formal or what ever......or you fold all the towels and store them together and she wants them by size side by side or by color in the vanity

It s much better if she know what she wants...IF SHE DOES NOT...then
you will need to work together for quite a while on this for a harmonious home..it will take time but is well worth it.
 
GQ

BEST OF LUCK...it will be useful and fun

< Message edited by GYPZYQUEEN -- 5/4/2009 3:45:52 AM >

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RE: 24/7 Live in Question - 5/4/2009 3:40:02 AM   
HalloweenWhite


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Status: offline 		There's no tutorial as such, but there are plenty of books you could read to give you some ideas. Talk to your Domme to see what makes her happy.

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RE: 24/7 Live in Question - 5/4/2009 5:22:22 AM   
MrsGray


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Status: offline 		Gypzy, what a wonderful idea. I may have to implement something similar.

To the OP: I agree with almost everyone. There is no "tried and tru" guidebook to being a house slave. For instance: Some guides lay out a style for serving a cup of tea. I think it's way to formal and a waste of time that I do not have, so I have a different style. Communication with your Dominant is the key.

As far as your troubles with CM and Chrome? this isn't the place for that....don't they have a "bugs and glitches" type forum for that?

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RE: 24/7 Live in Question - 5/4/2009 7:44:29 AM   
oceanwinds


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I will not insult you nor your question. I do know you want to be 'perfect' when you visit your Mistress. One advice I will share with you, is everything you do and how you present yourself is a reflection on your Mistress/Master..etc. This was the first thing I learned in BDSM. Now knowing that, I do watch how I present myself in these message boards and in other places. I do know your conduct here would be unacceptable in the eyes of Sir, if I was carrying on that way. This might be some food for you to think about.

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RE: 24/7 Live in Question - 5/4/2009 8:26:13 AM   
Jeptha


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Nullsub

Remember that no one should ever follow a guide to full detail. They should be only used for reference and research purposes to figure out a guideline of what other people think. I am not looking for tutorials or guidelines because I want to follow them from line to line but simply out of my own curiosity for research.

I must have gave the wrong impression that I was looking for a tutorial or guide so I could follow it detail to detail. This is not the case. If anyone still has any articles written on the subject about live in slaves then I still wish to read them. I'm also researching and looking for more information. That is all.

That seems like a fairly simple concept. I don't know why people are having such a knee-jerk reaction about it.

Maybe check over in the Gorean forum

I've had subs who really like to do research like this, and I appreciated it.
Even if the ideas they collected and brought forth didn't really float my boat, the fact that they took the time was meaningful.
And ~ usually they produced something that was at least interesting to know, if not actually put into practice for a trial run.




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RE: 24/7 Live in Question - 5/4/2009 8:37:30 AM   
RCdc


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Status: offline 		Just to say, google chrome sucks bigly!  I would really recommend you just trash it.
 
Now, back to business.  My advice?  Avoid the naysayers and all the rubbish about 'discuss it with your dominant' rubbish.  Honestly, you get one piece of advice saying submissives are strong and blah, and next it's all down to the dominant and your weak soul who mustn't look anything up yourself!
 
I wouldn't recommend tutorials as in BDSM books though, but I would ask yourself what is it you want to achieve in the relationship and what has been negociated?  Are you to cook for her, for example?  Mend things?  Deal with household chores?  Is it only sexual submission/slavery?  Once you have laid out the essentials, then I would recommend either going off the take a course at a college or somewhere like that, or do something like an online course.  You can study anything from aromatheraphy or massage, to cuisine, to car maintainance.  Even how to lay a table can be studied.  Or how to use natural products for things like cleaning.  I would say these will go a long way in not only pleasing your mistress, but also in furthering your own education.  Have fun exploring!
 
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RE: 24/7 Live in Question - 5/5/2009 2:41:04 PM   
ranja


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Status: offline 		Anthea Turners book about perfect housewifes?

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RE: 24/7 Live in Question - 5/5/2009 2:55:38 PM   
KoolnSassy


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Nullsub

in the past months i have been able to have my first collared experience as i found my first Mistress and have been living under her collar ever since. I have been extremely thrilled with my experience so far. My experience as my Dommes property have been better than i could have ever imagined when researching the life style. My Mistress and i have known each other for months now and we finaly have the opportunity to allow me to become her live in house slave for a handful of days. This is going to be a big change for the both of us and there is so much that i want to learn and do.

So, i was just curious if there was a tutorial on house slave training and duties of a house slave guide? i already have a pretty good idea but i was just hoping there was something really thorough on how to train a house slave and how a house slave should act. The only results i've found are sites that you must pay for the information and i don't exactly know the validity of the information. Does anyone know of good tutorials and/or articles on house slave etiquette and training?

Thank you.

(Also, when are the CM admins going to stop trying to cover up the fact that their website won't work in google chrome, everyone knows it.. Just fix it already! )


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RE: 24/7 Live in Question - 5/5/2009 9:17:48 PM   
NihilusZero


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Status: offline 		Disregarding the technical aspect of the thread (despite the fact that there is no website-bug forum to post such comments in)...

If you seriously want a thoroughly different series of answers and feedback, you can take this very idea over to the "Ask a submissive" forum and phrase the question in a manner in which you are asking other subs to delineate the ways they themselves please/cater-to their live-in D-types. You'll be surprised how careful framing/wording of a question and demographic-targeting can yield entirely different results.

Then, just make a trimmed-down list from all of the good morsels you see in the responses.


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RE: 24/7 Live in Question - 5/6/2009 7:47:46 AM   
Interesdom


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Status: offline 		You really need to have some knowledge of what your Mistress requires of you before you can even start.  I am hoping that you do have that knowledge, because frankly I think you were very silly to allow yourself to be collared otherwise.  You should pay close attention to what she says she needs of you and use that as a guide in your research.  After a few years, when you have everything perfect that she requires of you, you can then look into what you think she might like but may never have thought about requiring from you.

Here's some additional resources that may be useful for you, but you should check with your Mistress before reading any of them because it may interfere with her training of you.
  • The Kama Sutra available in most good book stores.


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RE: 24/7 Live in Question - 5/6/2009 12:07:49 PM   
OmegaG


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Here's the thing, I had brief interactions with another Dom before m'Lord and he taught me all these slave poses and never indicated that it was his preference that I pose in these possitions.  He also expected that I adhere to internet protocol regarding capitalizations and wanted me to talk in third person in any written communications.  Since this was my only expereince with anything more then kinky sex, I thought that if I was going to be any good in any relationship that I had to learn this stuff.  Imagine my relief when I started dating m'Lord and he told me to use proper grammar and that he was not Gorean and didn't expect me to pose unless he gave me the instruction.

He's not into protocol and the things that I do to make him happy are the things that and individual to him.  I am a good cook, but he's a vegitarian so I had to learn new dishes and substitutions for old ones.  I am a compulsive organizer, but he is more interested in things looking neat so when I feel the need to empty an entire closet and re-do it, I have to make sure he's out of the house for the entire day.  Basically, the more we knew each other, the more I knew how to make him happy.

And it's not just a one way street.  I remember way back at he beginning when I was asking him questions with regards to walking/crawling, sitting on the floor/sofa, and clothing, he actually put some thought into his answers and many were dependent on the situation (there are days he wants to play with my hair so I have to sit on the floor, there are days that he wants a human teddy bear so I sit next to him on the sofa) Anyway, one of his answer was that he was in a relationship with a girl that glowed when she crawled from place to place and he preferred her to use that mode, but he likes my walk so he preferrs that I stand up and walk.

There are some that have house rules for everyone, there are some that make it up as they go and the best thing you can do to make yours happy is to talk to her about her preferrences and ideas.

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RE: 24/7 Live in Question - 5/6/2009 12:53:01 PM   
susie


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Master just checked using Collarme with google chrome and had no issues at all. So not sure what the problem is!

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RE: 24/7 Live in Question - 5/6/2009 1:45:13 PM   
gumshoe


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Nullsub
(Also, when are the CM admins going to stop trying to cover up the fact that their website won't work in google chrome, everyone knows it.. Just fix it already! )


Google Chrome is a far superior browser to Explorer (at least I think so). It is also new and so perhaps not totally bug free as yet.

I too look forward to the day when I can browse collarme.com on Google Chrome, however I don't it's necessarily CM admin's responsibility to make that happen.

EDITED TO ADD:

If the CM website works properly in one browser, then reason suggests the CM website is not actually bugged. Ergo the problem lies with the new Browser.




< Message edited by gumshoe -- 5/6/2009 2:09:29 PM >

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RE: 24/7 Live in Question - 5/6/2009 4:04:09 PM   
Interesdom


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Status: offline 		Off-topic post.

quote:

ORIGINAL: gumshoe
Google Chrome is a far superior browser to Explorer (at least I think so). It is also new and so perhaps not totally bug free as yet.

I too look forward to the day when I can browse collarme.com on Google Chrome, however I don't it's necessarily CM admin's responsibility to make that happen.

If the CM website works properly in one browser, then reason suggests the CM website is not actually bugged. Ergo the problem lies with the new Browser.


I mostly use Firefox (currently v3.09) and CM works fine.  According to the stats on W3C, Firefox is apparently now pulling ahead of IE, with Chrome still under 5% usage.

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RE: 24/7 Live in Question - 5/6/2009 6:43:57 PM   
goodpet


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Status: offline 		Ahh to be 19 and so... so.... well most of us remember... *grin*

I would suggest to make your own.. get the old notebook (remember from high school) and put in some tabs. Talk to your Mistress about what topics she wants..  then begin your research with more directed topic questions.

My point is a thread with asks:  "What is a good ways and ideas to manage a calendar for her and give her reminders without sounding like i am nagging or a broken record?"  Then you will get focused answers about date books, wall calendars and Google and phone calendars and written and verbal reminders.. and some that will just say ask her what she wants..    If you just ask like you did,, teach me EVERYTHING... well it's just not really out there.. you can find someone's personal manual but my manual will not be right for your needs..  ask more focused topic questions and see if that helps.





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