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sub4u101 -> Dommes (5/4/2009 7:43:40 PM)

I am new to this and I have been chatting with a Domme for a week or so on collarme videochat room. I asked her if she would teach me and she told me not to ask. She then told me she wasn't needing a sub now. Then she saw me asking another Domme and she told me not to be bothering others. She also told me she never wanted to see me wanking in the chat room. When she is on we chat a lot. I am not sure what to make of this. Is she testing me to see how serious I am? Please let me know. I really like her but not sure how this works.



Lockit -> RE: Dommes (5/4/2009 7:48:52 PM)

You would have to ask her.  When I say I am not needing a submissive now, I mean what I say.  Being friendly isn't the same thing as considering you as someone I might be interested in.

If you are going around asking dominant's to teach you, that is bothersom.  It wasn't jealousy or trying to control you I'm sure.  She doesn't want you wanking in the chat room and bothering people. 

Don't make rocket science out of it all and don't be looking for mysterious messages.  We are people and not here for the amusment of other's.  So... read the boards, learn and pay attention.  It won't take long to learn what's up.



DemonKia -> RE: Dommes (5/4/2009 9:52:44 PM)

Welcome to the message boards, OP.

These threads might be helpful starter reading:

For men: how to find a woman here


Lessons you have learned.


The same 10 questions always asked



azjojoba -> RE: Dommes (5/4/2009 11:47:21 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: DemonKia

Welcome to the message boards, OP.

These threads might be helpful starter reading:

For men: how to find a woman here

Lessons you have learned.

The same 10 questions always asked


I have learned plenty on this website. Like for instance, I learned that a man's chance of meeting a woman here is about like a snowball's chance in hell.



MsDDom -> RE: Dommes (5/5/2009 12:48:29 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: sub4u101

When she is on we chat a lot. I am not sure what to make of this. Is she testing me to see how serious I am? Please let me know. I really like her but not sure how this works.


u should give chat a break and assess what you want. then study, read, and then try entering chat a little more prepared.



GoddessTeaze -> RE: Dommes (5/5/2009 2:01:35 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MsDDom

quote:

ORIGINAL: sub4u101

When she is on we chat a lot. I am not sure what to make of this. Is she testing me to see how serious I am? Please let me know. I really like her but not sure how this works.


u should give chat a break and assess what you want. then study, read, and then try entering chat a little more prepared.



Oh wasn't it about rubbing my clitty
to any camDomme on CM? she doesn't want me
but i not may talk to others either...
is it their job to confuse me now?

*EG*

Life is just too funny

GoddezzT`



LadyLou -> RE: Dommes (5/5/2009 3:16:00 AM)

 
Sounds like she is just being friendly and offering friendly advice. I am of course reading between the lines here. Instead of saying “she also told me she never wanted to see me wanking in the chatroom”, I'm guessing she said and/or meant something more along the lines of 'dude, just a friendly heads-up, it isn't good form to go around wanking publicly to anything that resembles female'.


She obviously likes chatting to you. She's told you where she's at. She's told you she ain't interested. I guess she is just being friendly then.



thishereboi -> RE: Dommes (5/5/2009 4:35:13 AM)

She sounds like an asshat. I would just ignore her.



thishereboi -> RE: Dommes (5/5/2009 4:38:16 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: azjojoba

quote:

ORIGINAL: DemonKia

Welcome to the message boards, OP.

These threads might be helpful starter reading:

For men: how to find a woman here

Lessons you have learned.

The same 10 questions always asked


I have learned plenty on this website. Like for instance, I learned that a man's chance of meeting a woman here is about like a snowball's chance in hell.



That is why I always advise people to go to local events to meet people.



mugwump -> RE: Dommes (5/5/2009 4:47:54 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyLou


she never wanted to see me wanking in the chatroom”, I'm guessing she said and/or meant something more along the lines of 'dude, just a friendly heads-up


*snigger*

I'd run around and absorb as much knowledge as you can from some of the very wise owls on here and at munches etcetc then return to an active status on the boards with no presumptions of 'being taught' but keep your mind open to learning and see accept the cards, however they're dealt.



ChampagneMojito -> RE: Dommes (5/5/2009 5:10:38 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: azjojoba

I have learned plenty on this website. Like for instance, I learned that a man's chance of meeting a woman here is about like a snowball's chance in hell.



I met my fiancee via these boards almost 3 years ago now.  I wouldn't have bothered responding to his first email if I'd seen evidence of such negativity or whining.  I know it's hard to find someone, but you need to keep the chin up and present an impression of yourself as a positive, willing individual if you are to have any chance whatsoever. 

Best of luck.

E. x



MissJanice2 -> RE: Dommes (5/5/2009 6:59:10 AM)

She means what she is saying.  Best thing is to move on from her.   If she needs anything, she will contact you.
 
Best Wishes,
 
Mistress_Jan



dreamerdreaming -> RE: Dommes (5/5/2009 7:04:45 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: azjojoba

quote:

ORIGINAL: DemonKia

Welcome to the message boards, OP.

These threads might be helpful starter reading:

For men: how to find a woman here

Lessons you have learned.

The same 10 questions always asked


I have learned plenty on this website. Like for instance, I learned that a man's chance of meeting a woman here is about like a snowball's chance in hell.



I can sure see why you've been unsuccessful. A negative attitude like that would repel just about anybody who might have otherwise been interested in you.

I found my boy after we'd both been on CM less than two weeks. In another two weeks, we were together. Positive attitudes attract.

Edited to address the OP: That woman is just jerking you around. If you want to waste your time with her go right ahead, but she already told you she's "not needing a sub now". Why are you acting like she owns you, letting her boss you around and such? Is your submission really so cheap? Get some self esteem, so you won't continue letting strangers jerk you around.



LadyLou -> RE: Dommes (5/5/2009 9:38:38 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: ChampagneMojito

quote:

ORIGINAL: azjojoba

I have learned plenty on this website. Like for instance, I learned that a man's chance of meeting a woman here is about like a snowball's chance in hell.



I met my fiancee via these boards almost 3 years ago now. 



I guess snowballs must be rolling in hell right now, as I met my male sub on this very site also. We met 3 years ago this July.


Lets go build a snowman on lucifers front lawn! [;)]

ETA:
I met my sub within just a couple of weeks of signing up on here also.



BoiJen -> RE: Dommes (5/5/2009 10:31:52 AM)

Snowballs have a great chance in Hell depending on the time of year.

HellPinckney, MI 48169

Hell near Monguelfo, Italy
Hell, 8143 Stallikon, Affoltern, ZH, Switzerland
Hell, 7517 Stjordal, Norway
Hell 3882 Putten, GLD, The Netherlands
Hell, 8124 Maur, Uster, ZH, Switzerland

Just sayin

boi
Future ruler of the Universe serving MsKitty
Silently plotting the revenge of the swine




Venatrix -> RE: Dommes (5/5/2009 11:03:20 AM)

So, what you're saying is that when I tell someone to go to Hell, he actually has a reasonably decent chance of arriving there.



ShaktiSama -> RE: Dommes (5/5/2009 11:18:32 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: dreamerdreaming
I found my boy after we'd both been on CM less than two weeks. In another two weeks, we were together. Positive attitudes attract.


Ditto this, although the time frame was different.  My submissive and I also met on this site, and got to know each other on this very forum, as well as via email and phone.  He's been wearing my collar for a year now, which makes me very happy.  [:)]



Bella1965 -> RE: Dommes (5/5/2009 11:24:28 AM)

G'afternoon all:


quote:

ORIGINAL: azjojoba
I have learned plenty on this website. Like for instance, I learned that a man's chance of meeting a woman here is about like a snowball's chance in hell.

Considering most dominant females don't want "discreet" affairs with married men cheating on their wives, then you'd be bang on. Also, I highly doubt they find underwear pictures with the poster's head chopped off intriguing. Pick your battles dude. Stop whining. Go pay a professional dominant and get your kink on. If you want sex, go pay a prostitute.

Here's a novel idea! Discuss your kinks in an open fashion with your wife and see if she's amenable to being your dominant. Crazy, I know, but maybe finally being honest instead of an unfulfilled adulterer might just work.


Stay safe, play nice, & share your toys w/ others...


[:D]


Bella



dreamerdreaming -> RE: Dommes (5/5/2009 11:24:55 AM)

Congrats!


*tips hat to the lovely ShaktiSama*



Lockit -> RE: Dommes (5/5/2009 11:37:43 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Venatrix

So, what you're saying is that when I tell someone to go to Hell, he actually has a reasonably decent chance of arriving there.


[:D][:D][:D][:D][:D]



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