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monaslave -> namecalling slaves? (5/4/2009 9:21:47 PM)
Can a Master(or Mistresses) call their slave for dumb,or other nasty words as humiliation on a ongoing basis? wouldnt that become something negative? Im talking about ltr 24/7 especially and Im not talking about as in play. Can anything good come out of that? Can you be excused with "I have all the right to call you whatever I like"? Have you crossed the thin line to abuse?

monaslave -> RE: namecalling slaves? (5/4/2009 9:23:05 PM)
Im also talking about words like fat,ugly etc-that kinds

DarkSteven -> RE: namecalling slaves? (5/4/2009 9:32:34 PM)
A Master or a Mistress can do darn near anything they want with their slave. But I'd love for a slave to do chores around the house, cook and clean, serve sexually, and play with me. Someone who would take a possession and use it like that is like someone who buys a brand new top of the line computer and uses it to play Solitaire. NOTE: A slave has the responsibility to see if his or her situation will fit before accepting a collar. If you think that your service will consist of being called names by some immature twerp calling himself a Master, I'd start looking if I were you.

LadySweetOrSour -> RE: namecalling slaves? (5/4/2009 9:36:31 PM)
One persons abuse is another persons turn on. I personally don't use "abusive" words, as I wasn't brought up to them, much like I am softly spoken and get my point across without yelling or shouting. It all depends on the relationship and the individuals in that relationship. What is considered abusive/normal vocabulary for THEM.

WyldHrt -> RE: namecalling slaves? (5/4/2009 9:50:03 PM)
It depends. For some, verbal humiliation in the form of insults is "hot", for others it's really not. Personally, I don't "do" that type of humiliation play and would be completely uninterested in a D type who got off on calling me derogatory names. Nothing wrong with it IF it brings pleasure to both, but if the s type winds up feeling crappy about him/herself or depressed as a result, they are probably not a match for a D who enjoys such things.

LafayetteLady -> RE: namecalling slaves? (5/4/2009 9:51:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: monaslave Can a Master(or Mistresses) call their slave for dumb,or other nasty words as humiliation on a ongoing basis? wouldnt that become something negative? Im talking about ltr 24/7 especially and Im not talking about as in play. Can anything good come out of that? Can you be excused with "I have all the right to call you whatever I like"? Have you crossed the thin line to abuse? It's unclear whether or not you are merely asking a question about how things might generally work or whether you find yourself in this situation and are being told that "this is the way it is, so get used to it". There really isn't "general" to much. You will notice a lot of "your kink isn't my kink" kind of talk. If you are finding yourself in this situation and you don't like it, don't put up with it. You are free to leave, end the relationship, have a discussion about what is going on and see if things will change. Honestly, anyone who is doing that and knows it is being hurtful but using BDSM as an excuse is someone that will do worse in the long run. Was there a discussion on this beforehand? Bottom line, if it ain't floating your boat, jump ship.

hopeful68 -> RE: namecalling slaves? (5/4/2009 9:52:08 PM)
I do not like being called names on a every day/hour/minute basis. I think that is abusive. I am a person to be respected and admired. I am smart and funny, and strong. It is through my strength that I give my submission to another. It is through respect that they earn my submission. This is not a free for all abuse fest (or at least shouldnt be). The two parties must agree on the behaviors set forth. If one person likes to be called names then they need to find a compatable counterpart. If they do not like that, then just the opposite. It is possible to like the names while 'playing' or 'sceneing'.. but quite acceptable to be address with respect the rest of time.

breatheasone -> RE: namecalling slaves? (5/4/2009 10:08:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: monaslave Can a Master(or Mistresses) call their slave for dumb,or other nasty words as humiliation on a ongoing basis? wouldnt that become something negative? Im talking about ltr 24/7 especially and Im not talking about as in play. Can anything good come out of that? Can you be excused with "I have all the right to call you whatever I like"? Have you crossed the thin line to abuse? If it feels like its abuse to you....then it IS abuse... and you should surely talk to your partner about this.

SailingBum -> RE: namecalling slaves? (5/4/2009 10:27:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: breatheasone quote: ORIGINAL: monaslave Can a Master(or Mistresses) call their slave for dumb,or other nasty words as humiliation on a ongoing basis? wouldnt that become something negative? Im talking about ltr 24/7 especially and Im not talking about as in play. Can anything good come out of that? Can you be excused with "I have all the right to call you whatever I like"? Have you crossed the thin line to abuse? If it feels like its abuse to you....then it IS abuse... and you should surely talk to your partner about this. To that I say hogwash The person that said it may have to clear up some miscommunication meaning or intent but to say it feels therefore it is. Just aint right. BadOne

monaslave -> RE: namecalling slaves? (5/4/2009 10:27:21 PM)
Im speaking in general since the topic was a subject for discussion the other evening. The Dom I was talking to just said if I like to do it,shes gotta put up,done. But as what I know most women dont like to be called fat fx,day out and day in.. according to him,it was too late to change their mind. Even though if she happened to enjoy it first.

monaslave -> RE: namecalling slaves? (5/4/2009 10:29:31 PM)
And ..I mean.. even if you happen to enjoy whatever is said, if it is very negative, is it possible your mind wont take it that way, in the long run?? as i can see its a veryy thin line.

breatheasone -> RE: namecalling slaves? (5/4/2009 11:30:27 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: monaslave And ..I mean.. even if you happen to enjoy whatever is said, if it is very negative, is it possible your mind wont take it that way, in the long run?? as i can see its a veryy thin line. If you are this troubled, and feel like a line has been, or is very close to being crossed, you should talk about it with your partner.

LadySweetOrSour -> RE: namecalling slaves? (5/5/2009 12:19:09 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SailingBum quote: ORIGINAL: breatheasone quote: ORIGINAL: monaslave To that I say hogwash The person that said it may have to clear up some miscommunication meaning or intent but to say it feels therefore it is. Just aint right. BadOne Are we allowed to use that word in here? I think hogwash is a bit rich, dontcha know. In fact, I think you should be spanked. Just saying.

army101 -> RE: namecalling slaves? (5/5/2009 10:17:14 AM)
TALK....its a four letter word meaning to communicate! Use it and talk about anything the TWO of you need to talk about. Esp likes and dis-likes, just dont jump into a BDSM relationship and training with out knowing about each other. Talking before saves a lot of grief later...okay?

HalloweenWhite -> RE: namecalling slaves? (5/5/2009 12:55:40 PM)
If its not part of play then I'd say "no".

SailingBum -> RE: namecalling slaves? (5/5/2009 1:40:09 PM)
lady sourpuss Lemme get back to you on the whole hogwash deal.....k? BadOne

Fitznicely -> RE: namecalling slaves? (5/5/2009 2:37:39 PM)
Depends on the sub and the intended result... Far as I'm aware, most can handle some pretty hardcore abuse when scening...but aside from that, it depends what you want to achieve by the namecalling. Any blow or injury will fade in time. A word that comes across too harsh, or beyond what the person can bear...that can't be taken back. The four things I tend to bear in mind... Common sense: Calling a subbie a fucking whore pigslut may be ok in the dungeon/bedroom/home, but maybe not Wal-Mart Decency: Not so much that you're embarrasing the sub, but yourself - "You kiss your mother with that mouth??" Respect: I respect my girl for the things she endures in my name, and for the gift of her submission. Therefore I take her limits seriously. If this involves there being certain words that trigger a response that's more extreme than she deserves, I don't use 'em. Intent: I doubt I'm the only Owner in the world who delivers a good telling off, with a fair sprinkle of personal abuse. It can be a neat lil tool.

sirsholly -> RE: namecalling slaves? (5/5/2009 2:41:12 PM)
quote: Can a Master(or Mistresses) call their slave for dumb,or other nasty words as humiliation on a ongoing basis? wouldnt that become something negative? Im talking about ltr 24/7 especially and Im not talking about as in play. It may be acceptable for some...but it is not for me. If i were with a Master who called me fat, i would show him the numbers on a scale...then pat his belly and suggest he lose a few. If he were to call me stupid, i would wave a college degree or two in his face. Call me lazy i would laugh in his face... In a relationship the partners build each other up..not tear each other down, imho.

SailingBum -> RE: namecalling slaves? (5/5/2009 3:09:37 PM)
hey holly What about your momma dresses you funny???? smirkle BadOne

sirsholly -> RE: namecalling slaves? (5/5/2009 3:22:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadySweetAndSour In fact, I think you should be spanked. Just saying. quote: ORIGINAL: SailingBum hey holly What about your momma dresses you funny???? smirkle BadOne LadySweet.....do you need an assistant? Please? [:D]

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