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GoddessDustyGold -> RE: a true love (2/4/2006 5:02:56 PM)
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I agree that one should make an effort to look beyond your profile. I don't have any idea how you are interacting online, or even, perhaps in real time, with Dominas you choose to contact.
Your profile, as has been stated, is very offputting. So I am going to pick it apart a little bit. Not to be accusatory, or to be judgemental. But sometimes we can make statements that are very clear to us, and you might still not understand why your profile is offputting.
This bothers Me:
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i am looking for marriage or at least an eventual live in relationship where there will be frequent role play in which i will be your slave and you will be my owner. During these play periods i will serve you in any safe way you see fit, housework in the nude, massage, full body worship and oral worship and lovemaking service.
Role play? Frequent role play? During these play periods...? What happens when you are done playing. Is it then time for Me to do the laundry?
You see, the situation here is that this is not roleplaying. There can be some role play during actual play or in a scene, but most, if not all, of the Ladies who are also seeking ltr with a "slave" (that is how you are identifying) are seeking a constant mindset. Not just, "Hi honey, I'm home, but I don't feel like getting into any role play tonight.
This bothers Me even more:
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Also there will be other fetish activity such as you placing me in bondage and disciplining me within my limits, possibly boot and shoe worship, etc. If you are careful you also have the freedom to play with a limited number of other people (men and/or women) in a fetish context and/or regular good old fashioned sex. If, however, you just want to be involved with me that is fine as well.
Again here, I see a lot of dictating. "If you are careful, you can also have the freedom to play with a limited number of other people."????
Everyone should be careful, and play safely. But what you are doing here is saying, "I will give you permission, if...." A slave does not give permission to a Domina, except in the context that he now trusts and has entered into the relationship, and so he has permitted her to take the reigns in the relationship. That permission is given once. And that is when you agree to be collared and/or sign a contract.
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You must be female, that is you were born a female and still are a female, you may be any legal age, younger than myself or up to 5 years my senior. Like me you must be a nonsmoker and std and hep free. You may be 5 feet tall to 6 feet 6 inches tall, small medium or large in build, any race and ethnic background, white. black, asian, etc. You may have any educational background but you must be able to support yourself financially, not that you need to be rich or anything. Thank you.
Again you are being very rigid, here. I don't know if you have been approached by many tg's. Maybe this is a bigger problem than I am aware. You are extremely specific regarding height. What if your perfect lady is 5"7"? Attitude not withstanding, with every new condition, you narrow your pool of possibilities. Many say that smoking bothers them, so they would not wish to be with a smoker. That happens on both sides. But there are nicer ways of putting things.
In the end, if you contacted Me, the first thing I would do, if your letter was in the least polite and respectful, is read this profile. And it would turn Me off, big time. Chances are I would reply with a "Thanks, but no thanks", and you may never understand why. So I am trying to give you, at least from My perspective, the why.
I recently made the comment that I seem to get an awful lot of boys who do not meet My minimum expectations, and they know this, but they seem to feel they should be able to take My time up trying to convince Me why their expectations are the ones I should meet. They want Me to compromise and change and settle for less than I want.
I am not telling you to settle for less than you want, but what I read tells Me that you do not want a Domina. You are an alpha male with strong bottoming tendencies, and you want a Lady who is also into all of your fetishes and thinks it would be fun to role play in a long term relationship. But you are actually running the show.
That does not a submissive make. And it doesn't even come close to approaching slave.
Best of luck and welcome to the boards.
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