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slave, hung a must? - 2/4/2006 7:55:18 AM   
cbts4gd


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Status: offline 		HOw important is it it for you dommes, for the slave to be well hung? Be honest.
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RE: slave, hung a must? - 2/4/2006 8:14:08 AM   
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I'm sure that you will get a variety of answers, but for me, it depends on the definition of "well hung".

Do you mean long? Do you mean thick? Do you just mean a general "largeness"?

"Well hung" for me is average length or shorter (although, yes, too short could be a problem), and thickness is not a big issue either way. If a guy is going to be big, I definitely prefer it to be in girth rather than length, as I have some problems when it comes to length. However, overall, if the gent in question knows how to use what he has properly - large or small - and/or knows how to make up for any lack or overage of size in other ways, then size doesn't matter.

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RE: slave, hung a must? - 2/4/2006 8:16:16 AM   
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HOw important is it it for you dommes, for the slave to be well hung? Be honest.


I couldn't care less.

One of the first things Fox told me when I decided it was time for me to see him naked (not that important to good service in my opinion) was that he was "smaller than normal". Actually his penis is very normal sized I think men worry so much about this that he thought it must be smaller compared to porn images.

When I have sex with a slave or a submissive, its about me and my orgasm first and foremost. His penis might be used for that purpose but probably not -- I find hands, fingers, tongues and toys to be more useful.

I think its more important that a man be confident and happy in the rest of his life. When that I happens it has been my experience that he stops caring about penis size or shape for that matter.

A man who feels the need to tell me about his penis size or shape within a couple of conversations signals to me that he's very interested in the sex part of BDSM and that means we aren't a good match.

Of course this is just me.


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RE: slave, hung a must? - 2/4/2006 8:49:16 AM   
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RE: slave, hung a must? - 2/4/2006 9:31:06 AM   
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ORIGINAL: cbts4gd

HOw important is it it for you dommes, for the slave to be well hung? Be honest.


It depends on how I plan to use the submissive. Personally, I appreciate endurance more than size.

I have never asked a prospective submissive about size, though a number have brought it up, always the guys that think it's their selling point. It really just shows a limited concept of "service."

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RE: slave, hung a must? - 2/4/2006 10:12:21 AM   
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I have never asked a prospective submissive about size, though a number have brought it up, always the guys that think it's their selling point. It really just shows a limited concept of "service."


Not to be rude.. but i was curious.. what would be Your ideal way of Your submissive servicing you? (Just trying to see if theres a "general" idea of servicing)

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RE: slave, hung a must? - 2/4/2006 10:32:10 AM   
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quote:

I have never asked a prospective submissive about size, though a number have brought it up, always the guys that think it's their selling point. It really just shows a limited concept of "service."


Not to be rude.. but i was curious.. what would be Your ideal way of Your submissive servicing you? (Just trying to see if theres a "general" idea of servicing)

*BP*




You need to specify service, domestic, personal, etc.


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RE: slave, hung a must? - 2/4/2006 10:50:46 AM   
blackpearl81


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Status: offline 		Whoa.. ok.. whats the difference?

I mean..my initial thoughts are like this:
domestic - house chores
personal - bathing??

(not neccesarily being limited to those mentioned above though)

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RE: slave, hung a must? - 2/4/2006 10:59:05 AM   
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ORIGINAL: cbts4gd

HOw important is it it for you dommes, for the slave to be well hung? Be honest.


Size DOES matter.

Thick is more important that long.

Long is good, but only if it's thick enough.

How important is size? Not nearly as important as his mind.

(That said, a stupid but well hung sub is always welcome in My stable if he knows how to follow simple instructions...)

lolololololololol

TM

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RE: slave, hung a must? - 2/4/2006 11:09:08 AM   
blackpearl81


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Status: offline 		You all are single handedly destroying my long held thought that Women are turned on more by mental stimulation than by physical... :P:P:P

whats a boy to do :( lol

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RE: slave, hung a must? - 2/4/2006 11:19:26 AM   
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I don't mix sex with BDSM.

So obviously size really has no "weight" on anything. lol.

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RE: slave, hung a must? - 2/4/2006 12:14:05 PM   
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Status: offline 		I don't mix sex with BDSM either.

I enjoy BDSM. BDSM sexes Me up. lolol

A boy better have the equipment for Me to use if I feel like it.

Fortunately, My boy has the perfect equipment to suit Me.

It's thick, and it's long. And he has brains to boot. PURRRFECT. Would I have kept him if the pieces didn't all fit just right? I doubt it.

Just stand right here, boy. Hands behind your back. And DON'T YOU MOVE!.....

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RE: slave, hung a must? - 2/4/2006 12:36:50 PM   
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HOw important is it it for you dommes, for the slave to be well hung? Be honest.



Honestly, with the men I've met over the years, since turning 40, I'd have to just say that it would be more important if it just worked!

K

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RE: slave, hung a must? - 2/4/2006 12:49:35 PM   
RumpusParable


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ORIGINAL: cbts4gd

HOw important is it it for you dommes, for the slave to be well hung? Be honest.


Absolutely not at all. I've little interest in their penis, period, as I do not have sex with slaves.

On the vanilla side, I've found ability is much more important than equipment. In fact, I've found size to not be a factor at all, really.

But a male concerned or proud of his size tends to be a problem and a way to weed out lovers.

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RE: slave, hung a must? - 2/4/2006 1:06:27 PM   
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ORIGINAL: TexasMaam

I don't mix sex with BDSM either.

I enjoy BDSM. BDSM sexes Me up. lolol

A boy better have the equipment for Me to use if I feel like it.

Fortunately, My boy has the perfect equipment to suit Me.

It's thick, and it's long. And he has brains to boot. PURRRFECT. Would I have kept him if the pieces didn't all fit just right? I doubt it.

Just stand right here, boy. Hands behind your back. And DON'T YOU MOVE!.....

TexasMaam




Good for you *rolls eyes*


Didn't know we were gloatting.

In that case. I have this absolutely TO DIE FOR stuffed moose. His name is Stuwart, named after the first Bass player to be in The Beatles. He's soo ceeeuuutttteeeeee.
*squeeze*

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RE: slave, hung a must? - 2/4/2006 1:32:34 PM   
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Size DOES matter.
Thick is more important that long.
Long is good, but only if it's thick enough.

How important is size? Not nearly as important as his mind.
For the majority of women who actually like or intend to use the penis, I would say the above summarizes the importance of penis/size perfectly.

So I think the answers should be clarified by 1)Yes I phuck/have sex with my slaves, so size does matter (or it doesn't since I don't worry about feeling anything ), or no I don't phuck/have sex with my slave, so size does not matter at all.

P.S. I absolutely mix sex and BDSM, heck that's the most fun/important part for me!
Someone else asked the question http://www.collarchat.com/m_258365/tm.htm M

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RE: slave, hung a must? - 2/4/2006 2:24:23 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: blackpearl81

quote:

I have never asked a prospective submissive about size, though a number have brought it up, always the guys that think it's their selling point. It really just shows a limited concept of "service."


Not to be rude.. but i was curious.. what would be Your ideal way of Your submissive servicing you? (Just trying to see if theres a "general" idea of servicing)

*BP*


Making me soft chocolate chips cookies and holding the plate on his lap while we watched on of my favorite movies together; if the phone rings he'll get it, if someone comes to the door, he'll get it, if I want something else, he'll get it.

OR seeing there is someting that needs done around the house and then doing it without telling me about it or asking if it needs to be done.

OR several other things the vast majority of them having nothing to do with sex and the majority of them having to do with making my life a bit easier or less stressful.


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RE: slave, hung a must? - 2/4/2006 3:22:30 PM   
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For one, size really does not matter to me, because if I require a servant or slave to take care of my needs in that way, for me it is also about endurance -- as well as creativity and pure skills.

As for "service" -- this in my Household means a lot more than in many others. For instance, sex is a very very rare use for a submissive. There are the usuals: sensual service, personal service, and domestic help. These are not all of it though, mine have to be a lot more versatile than that: they may help me with my webpages, help me plan or brainstorm on something, help me with my projects, mentor other submissives in my household, accompany me on trips, cheer me up and/or conversate with me, attend to their studies (cultural, spiritual and protocol), improve their lives, and otherwise grow. Even taking care of their bodies and being good workers to their bosses is included and a part of their service to me. In that way, they become true 24/7 -- even if they do not live with me -- because it is their outlook that changes that their lives' purpose is to be in many cases an extension of my will and that this includes every aspect of their lives.

So yes, a lot more there than if a guy is hung well :D.




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RE: slave, hung a must? - 2/4/2006 4:31:44 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: blackpearl81

quote:

I have never asked a prospective submissive about size, though a number have brought it up, always the guys that think it's their selling point. It really just shows a limited concept of "service."


Not to be rude.. but i was curious.. what would be Your ideal way of Your submissive servicing you? (Just trying to see if theres a "general" idea of servicing)

*BP*


I'm a little unconventional, so I don't think you can generalize from me. I'll send you what I look for off-forum, as I am currently NOT looking, and besides, it's long.

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RE: slave, hung a must? - 2/4/2006 7:38:15 PM   
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Status: offline 		Well I dont mix Domming and intercourse so penis size isnt a issue but in "vanilla ish" sex I dont like big ...small to normal suits me fine, I am built shallow and like hard vs big ...my fav lover has a small penis that is like rock :) that works better for me ...

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