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Pony/Puppy play (with male subs) - 5/11/2009 3:58:54 PM

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Another one of my questions.....while it's difficult for anyone in the BDSM scene (or out of it, for that matter!) to find compatible partners, I think it's commonly accepted wisdom that a male sub looking for a female dominant is probably in the worst position of all. It seems to me that certain fetishes/activities make this even more difficult -- probably they all do (in that no matter what you like, some potential partners won't -- such as the frequently discussed crossdressing/feminization, which many dominant women have zero interest in, and some actively dislike.

My own perception is that animal roleplay also falls somewhat into this category. There are a fair number of people out there looking for ponygirls and puppygirls -- not so many looking for the male equivalents. In particular, the "puppy" scene seems particularly bleak for a male puppy looking for a Mistress (though it does seem to have a fairly large presence in the gay leather scene). Ponyboys are a bit more acceptable -- though it can be a bit irritating that even female dominants often seem to prefer girls for this.

Of course, I'm sure many D/s couples occasionally flirt with mild and brief forms of puppy play, but I'm thinking about something a little more serious -- recurring sessions, sometimes lasting hours or even possibly days, with the sub hopefully getting really into the puppy headspace.

(I should perhaps mention that this is not a "must" for me in a potential D/s relationship -- as opposed to finding someone who accepts my crossdressing, which is a must, though I'm very flexible about how exactly it would fit in -- but it is something in which I have a fairly strong interest, and my attempts to find someone with whom to explore it have been totally unproductive; even more so than my interest in ponyplay, which remains mostly unfulfilled, but where I've had people at least willing to sort of flirt with it.)

Anyhow: how many dominant women actually are interested in getting farily seriously into this kind of play? Inquiring minds want to know!

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RE: Pony/Puppy play (with male subs) - 5/12/2009 9:57:29 AM

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I know quite a few Mistresses in the UK that are very actively into male puppy/pony play its quite popular over here. Maybe you should move?

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RE: Pony/Puppy play (with male subs) - 5/12/2009 10:02:26 AM

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ORIGINAL: pinnipedster

Of course, I'm sure many D/s couples occasionally flirt with mild and brief forms of puppy play, but I'm thinking about something a little more serious -- recurring sessions, sometimes lasting hours or even possibly days, with the sub hopefully getting really into the puppy headspace.

I relate to this part. Parts of my boy's personality are quite 'puppyish': his love of all ballgames and snacks, exuberance, loyalty, etc., all of which I find completely endearing. Particularly in the early stages of our relationship, I loved occasionally relating to him as a 'puppy' - making him hump my leg, whine for my attention, pant to express his sexual frustration, etc.

I don't believe I'd have enough interest in this form of play to scene with it seriously for hours/days, though - I think I'd lose interest, perhaps because I lack imagination about what you could do to string it out for such a long period of time.

Also, similar to the sentiments some expressed on the cross-dressing thread, what I enjoyed most about the 'puppy' play was the objectification and watching him do something he was uncomfortable with, really as a form of humiliation play.

I don't think I'd have the same interest if he had a genuine need to be related to in the form of a 'puppy' - probably because I'd find his 'need' overshadowed my desire to make him do something kinky and hot that pushed him out of his comfort zone. I'm not entirely sure why that is.

That said though, I'm very open-minded and believe lots of things are different depending on the person you're with. If I was crazy about someone, and they were interested in scening as a pony for the weekend, I'd be more than happy to give it a whirl and see where it took us. That's why I think it's really important to get to know someone, before prioritising kinks and sexual peccidillos - you may rule someone out on the surface who could have been perfect for you if only you'd given them a chance.

What is it about the puppy/pony headspace that particularly appeals to you, pinnipedster? I'm genuinely interested.

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RE: Pony/Puppy play (with male subs) - 5/12/2009 10:31:50 AM

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Hmm. Well, I look at pony and puppy play a little differently.

With pony play, part of it is simply the bondage (I am a total bondage slut -- it disappoints me that for so many in BDSM, bondage seems to be a more optional component) and loss of control -- being "tacked up" in bridle and bit and preferably some form of arm restraints, so that one has no choice about remaining in pony role. My first fascination was with the idea of being a cart pony; the feeling of being "driven" just really turns me on. It is to some degree a form of objectification. (One thing that really turns me off is when I see photos where the 'pony' is using hands to grip the cart -- even if the hands are cuffed to the grips, so that letting go really wouldn't accomplish anything, the mere fact of using the hands imparts too much 'humanity' and feeling of being in control. Properly tacked and harnessed, I see the pony as really having no options but to go or stop -- as directed by verbal commands, tugging on the reins, and if necessary, use of the whip -- and, with eye blinders properly arranged, s/he can also be 'steered' with the reins, since s/he can only see what is directly in front.) When not being driven, I picture the pony either being kept on a reins or confined in a fenced or walled area, so there is still little freedom.

One write-up of pony play I read early on (by far the best, though it was incomplete, and was taken off the web shortly after I discovered it -- fortunately I'd printed out hard copies, because I've never found anything else nearly as good) made the point that, with human beings, you have an emotional side and an intellectual side, but ponies are all emotion. I think the appeal to be of pony headspace is the idea of being entirely 'in the moment,' reacting to things with raw emotion, and not worrying about the future. I don't know if I could ever really get fully to that point -- I have a very active, processing mind -- but that would be my personal goal.

The "in the moment/all emotion" aspect is part of the appeal of puppy play as well, but the puppy generally has much more control over its immediate actions, except perhaps if put into a smallish cage, but this would not be its ordinary condition. Even when leashed, there's still a certain amount of freedom. Still, again, there's the notion of being entirely in the present. With a puppy, more of it, it seems to me, is about the relationship with the owner/trainer -- having owned and been around a lot of dogs myself (whereas I actually have little experience with real horses), I know how there can be a strong emotional connection and communication. I see a puppy as definitely wanting to please its owner, being happy when s/he is happy and terribly upset and guilt-ridden when s/he is displeased. There's a strong protectiveness there, too. And I do think there is a certain element of humiliation in it, when the puppy has to do certain things most humans would not care to.

Some of it, I think, is just wanting to take a vacation from the various concerns and worries of everyday human life. (One appeal of puppy play is that it's simply a lot more practical than pony play; it takes much less equipment and can be done even in a small apartment, whereas pony play needs some room.) If I were to engage in it for long periods, I would certainly not expect to be the center of attention every minute -- much of the time I would expect to be just lying on the floor, napping and keeping an eye on things, or patrolling the house or yard for intruders (or squirrels!).

There's also some appeal to the idea of being 'trained' in the way an animal is, as opposed to 'taught' like a human. In fact, my ultimate fantasy in this regard would be to be the pet of someone who exclusively spoke to me in a language other than English, so that I would have to learn to recognize commands and even my own name, going by tone, body language, repetition, etc. I think that would be a great experience. (I've read of some cases where hypnosis was used to block understanding of most words for a similar effect.)

Anyway, this is certainly not the only form of submission in which I'd like to participate, and in fact I'd be more than willing to give it up if I found a partner who had no interest in it but with whom I was compatible in most other respects. But it is one in which I have a definite interest, and for sheer turn-on, thoughts of being a pony can do it to me quicker than just about anything else.

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RE: Pony/Puppy play (with male subs) - 5/12/2009 10:41:15 AM

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I might seem touchy here on this...I've been talking about Club Fem this morning...

Straight male s-types don't have it the hardest. Dyke s-types that aren't looking to be part of a het married couple's family or fling have it the hardest. I promise.

Secondly, it's those same het males looking for puppy "girls"...it's gets even harder when you're not ok with serving a male of any kind as a puppy or otherwise.

Guys you're so caught up with your parts that you forget that you have a lot more in common with dyke s-types than you can imagine. As one of the dyke s-types, it really only makes you look like you're focused on your parts and your fantasies, not actual commraderie or advice.

Just sayin...and yes I know that's a rant.

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RE: Pony/Puppy play (with male subs) - 5/12/2009 10:49:57 AM

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quote:

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I might seem touchy here on this...I've been talking about Club Fem this morning...

Straight male s-types don't have it the hardest. Dyke s-types that aren't looking to be part of a het married couple's family or fling have it the hardest. I promise.

You may be right, though it seems to me that I see a fair number of female Dominants who are looking for female subs -- the postings or ads seem to me to imply that they are harder for these women to find than male subs are -- though, most often it does seem they are not looking for a female as their one-and-only sub. Also, I can't speak to whether they are looking for more femme types rather than Dykes (assuming that you're making a distinction there).

I will maintain that it's still pretty difficult for the heterosexual male-to-female crossdresser to find a female partner of any description, let alone a kinky one, and more so if you aren't fortunate enough to be young and pretty -- though to be sure, women who aren't young and pretty have a major disadvantage, too (and it affects them in many more areas of their lives).

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RE: Pony/Puppy play (with male subs) - 5/12/2009 1:03:27 PM

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RE: Pony/Puppy play (with male subs) - 5/12/2009 1:39:28 PM

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I will maintain that it's still pretty difficult for the heterosexual male-to-female crossdresser to find a female partner of any description, let alone a kinky one, and more so if you aren't fortunate enough to be young and pretty -- though to be sure, women who aren't young and pretty have a major disadvantage, too (and it affects them in many more areas of their lives).

I maintain that it's fairly difficult for most people to find a partner they are compatible with. There are quite a few lesbian submissives around who could tell you how hard it is for them, straight male submissives, bi, gay, lesbian submissives, straight, bi, gay, lesbian domiants...

No offense but when you say "pretty difficult for the heterosexual male-to-female crossdresser to find a female partner of any description, let alone a kinky one" it does sound to me like your kink comes first and the partner second, I might be wrong here but that's a message I get and maybe a few others too, and that could be the root of the whole problem.

The old saying "everybody likes a winner" is true, if you sit there and complain about what you don't have, what you want, how difficult it is and how unfair life is, it's not appealing to women as "Oh how interesting, I should take a look at him", now if you'd post something that appeals, that makes people interested in you, you might get a few mails just talking, even if they are not "potential partners" they know other kinky people, and maybe their friends or friends of their friends will know somebody... Who knows, you might even click with somebody, her kink might not be 100% yours and yours might not be 100% hers but if you click, you meet somewhere in the middle.

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RE: Pony/Puppy play (with male subs) - 5/12/2009 2:15:19 PM

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I maintain that it's fairly difficult for most people to find a partner they are compatible with. There are quite a few lesbian submissives around who could tell you how hard it is for them, straight male submissives, bi, gay, lesbian submissives, straight, bi, gay, lesbian domiants...

I absolutely agree, and I said that in my original post -- but I do think some groups are at more of a disadvantage than others. Or at least, very different disadvantages. The problems most Dominant women talk about, for example, is having to sort through dozens and dozens of poorly-written emails from clueless guys who obviously haven't even read their profiles, aren't local, are married, etc etc etc. I don't disagree that this is a problem, and an extremely annoying one, but I can assure you it's not the sort of problem that most male subs have....

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No offense but when you say "pretty difficult for the heterosexual male-to-female crossdresser to find a female partner of any description, let alone a kinky one" it does sound to me like your kink comes first and the partner second, I might be wrong here but that's a message I get and maybe a few others too, and that could be the root of the whole problem.

Perhaps I didn't make it clear here, but the point is that my crossdressing/gender identity confusion is not just a kink -- it's a very, very major part of who I am. I don't insist it be a part of kink play at all (though I don't say I wouldn't enjoy incorporating it) but anyone who can't accept that part of me isn't likely to be someone I could have a relationship with. It's not something like, say, electrical play, which I've experienced a tiny bit of and would like to try some more, but would be more than wiling to forego if it squicked a potential partner. As I have made clear (or at the least, tried repeatedly to make clear) in my profile and other threads, I am very flexible as to exactly how my feminine alter ego might fit into a relationship, but there is no way she's just going to vanish.

(There's also a fine line here, in that most women on the site urge subs to be honest about what we want and are looking for, but then when you do, you get the "you're making it all about your kinks" response. Well, to some degree, it is about our kinks, even if our kink happens to be "pleasing you by doing whatever you want." But most subs aren't quite that selfless (though some will claim to be) and, yeah, we're not going to be happy in a relationship where some of our kinks aren't addressed some of the time. I try to be upfront about mine in the hope that I'll find a woman whose own kinks and limits overlap enough that we can make something work. I've even been commended for this approach -- but almost entirely by women who are too far away to be interested or already have a sub they're happy with. I don't know, maybe San Diego women are just too fussy. :)

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The old saying "everybody likes a winner" is true, if you sit there and complain about what you don't have, what you want, how difficult it is and how unfair life is, it's not appealing to women as "Oh how interesting, I should take a look at him", now if you'd post something that appeals, that makes people interested in you, you might get a few mails just talking, even if they are not "potential partners" they know other kinky people, and maybe their friends or friends of their friends will know somebody... Who knows, you might even click with somebody, her kink might not be 100% yours and yours might not be 100% hers but if you click, you meet somewhere in the middle.

Well, I'm trying. But I do get discouraged and feel despair at times. I'm really, really sick of being alone. And if you're looking for someone who is bursting with self-confidence and optimism, you may as well know now I'm probably not your boy, anyway.

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RE: Pony/Puppy play (with male subs) - 5/12/2009 2:40:17 PM

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Dyke s-types that aren't looking to be part of a het married couple's family or fling have it the hardest. I promise.

I think there are certain types who have it leagues harder even than that . . . .

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RE: Pony/Puppy play (with male subs) - 5/12/2009 2:40:54 PM

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Given the fact that a lot of water is between us, nevermind a whole continent, chances of you being that boy are quite slim anyway.

What I'm saying is that confidence makes attractive, seeing things in a negative light can become a self-fulfilling prophecy. I read through your profile, you say "I'm not this, that and the other..." like you already expect rejection and then you wonder why it happens? Personal ads and profiles if you are looking for somebody are a bit like advertising, you are selling yourself very short. I'm not suggesting you should claim to be the greatest, best thing since sliced bread, but if you would apply for a job, would you decide to start your application letter with everything you can't do and what you are not? Why not give an "ad" for a potential partner the same consideration?

No need to be overconfident, but no need to sell yourself short and basically say "You might not want me because this is what I am NOT"

Not knowing how your CD side expresses itself, I can't comment on it or how it could be incorporated in your regular life, but have you thought about phrasing it a bit like this "I have a feminine alter ego, yet would leave it to my potential partner how she wants to incorporate it in the relationship, I can be many things for her, it's for her to decide if I should be her best girlfriend, her maid, her painslut - or all of them..." Sounds a lot more appealing.

Also your penis size, you know most women aren't really interested when reading a profile to know that your penis size is best described as average, wayyyyyy too much information, some things we want to find out ourselves.

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RE: Pony/Puppy play (with male subs) - 5/12/2009 2:49:25 PM

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pinnipedster,

I would say quite a few actually. About 8 months ago I was sitting in a hotel in Quebec City (digesting way too much delicious food), and I was just flipping regular cable channels. On one of them, not spank-travision, was a show about the pony fetish. There were plenty of people acting this out on regular television. They delved fairly deep into it, weren't professionals, and there were certainly ponies of both genders and as well as a variety of ages.

Also, the Anne Rice trilogy went into pony play! I can't imagine that it would be impossible to find someone into this with that kind of mainstream publicity. Just keep looking, and maybe broaden your search to several methods.

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RE: Pony/Puppy play (with male subs) - 5/12/2009 2:51:52 PM

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I can't speak to how hard things are for any particular group, because pissing contests are neither enjoyable or productive, so...

I've always been very puppyish or pet-like in my sexual play, even when not overtly in the puppy role. One of my nicknames in the old IRC rooms I slunk around was "polymorph", because of the general nature and mannerisms I had that various Dommes viewed as different cute animals.

Mistress and I have enjoyed a lot of specific puppy play since we've been together; She bought a leash for me, has made me beg for treats and do tricks, even made me try dog-food as a punishment. We've enjoyed it thoroughly.

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RE: Pony/Puppy play (with male subs) - 5/12/2009 3:08:39 PM

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(There's also a fine line here, in that most women on the site urge subs to be honest about what we want and are looking for, but then when you do, you get the "you're making it all about your kinks" response.

I don't think the line is particularly fine. Making something "all about your kinks" is like making something "all about you" in any other sphere of communication. It's pretty obvious when someone is only interested in knowing and pleasing himself, regardless of his orientation. Whereas when he's open to knowing and accommodating others, that is also pretty obvious.

You may have been commended for leading with your kinks on your profile--but the question is, have you been rewarded with the relationship and/or play dates you were looking for? Because if not, perhaps LadyC has a point about too much information.

Aidan and I incorporate some puppy/pet play into our D/S life now, because it is part of his nature, I care about him, and I enjoy playing with a happy and fulfilled submissive. But if he had written up a fetishistic profile which focused obsessively on pet play before we first met, I probably never would have been interested in him as a partner. The implication that any relationship with him HAD to focus on that game would have turned me off big time.

Is it because I have anything specific against the fetish itself? No, not at all. There are actually very few fetishes that turn me off specifically. What turns me off is a man who leads with his fetishes, as if they are the only or even the most important basis for our compatibility as partners.

When I see this in an email or a profile, I usually tune out immediately. I take it as a sign that a submissive is not looking for another human being to love, care for or please. Instead they're looking for someone to serve as the host to a lot of parasitic needs which are much more important than any domme could ever be. Kind of a bucket of ice water to the groin.

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RE: Pony/Puppy play (with male subs) - 5/12/2009 3:20:35 PM

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I know quite a few Mistresses in the UK that are very actively into male puppy/pony play its quite popular over here. Maybe you should move?

Very true, in fact I heard a rumour that U/us brits are renowned for O/our pony-play activities. I've been known to ride pony girls and boys on occasion actually. "Go Me!".

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RE: Pony/Puppy play (with male subs) - 5/12/2009 3:34:06 PM

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A few men in my local community do pony play or puppy play as the "pet."

I tend to do mildly equine and feline stuff, without a kink context. I pounce my friends, like batting at untied shoelaces and such, sometimes curl up in the seat of a chair instead of sitting in it, and such. I practice dressage tests on foot, occasionally hop over actual fences, and so on. It's more playful/silly, rather than sexual, and I don't need costuming or anything to have fun with it.

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RE: Pony/Puppy play (with male subs) - 5/12/2009 3:43:05 PM

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With pony play, part of it is simply the bondage (I am a total bondage slut -- it disappoints me that for so many in BDSM, bondage seems to be a more optional component) and loss of control -- being "tacked up" in bridle and bit and preferably some form of arm restraints, so that one has no choice about remaining in pony role. My first fascination was with the idea of being a cart pony; the feeling of being "driven" just really turns me on. It is to some degree a form of objectification. (One thing that really turns me off is when I see photos where the 'pony' is using hands to grip the cart -- even if the hands are cuffed to the grips, so that letting go really wouldn't accomplish anything, the mere fact of using the hands imparts too much 'humanity' and feeling of being in control. Properly tacked and harnessed, I see the pony as really having no options but to go or stop -- as directed by verbal commands, tugging on the reins, and if necessary, use of the whip -- and, with eye blinders properly arranged, s/he can also be 'steered' with the reins, since s/he can only see what is directly in front.) When not being driven, I picture the pony either being kept on a reins or confined in a fenced or walled area, so there is still little freedom.

Sort of piggyback on Shatki's comments...I feel like the focus of this fantasy in particular is very specific and the woman in it is secondary. That's why even though I have a pretty big "objectification" fetish and an even bigger bondage fetish (especially tight, cruel, inescapable bondage) I read that and I feel like it's all about the guy, and not about what it does for the woman. I guess on some level there's really no other way to phrase it and it's implied, "all this is done by a woman who absolutely digs and loves it and is totally getting off on it," but when the finer, finer details are already all mapped out, really, is it about the woman?

Super-specific fantasies are ok, but I think a bottom has to realize that if he's with a bondage-Top, she's got her buttons too. The best he can hope for in a case like this is: Relationship-first. Period. On specific fantasies like this, you are NOT going to meet a woman who simply gets totally wet and excited for the level of detail you have put into this in your head, it will never match up (on top of ALL the other relationship-compatibility stuff), but what you CAN hope to find is a woman who can appreciate your level of passion, reaction and excitement over it, and in her hot-wet-need-to-push-YOUR buttons mode, she can facilitate this for you. But don't expect that she's just going to do this because she lays awake in bed fantasizing and masturbating that level of detail about the gear, the pony, etc. -- I mean the woman barely is even present in your description. What's her role anyway? Oh yeah - the femdom? Secondary!

How come no subs are knocking down my door asking to help me facilitiate, fantasize, eroticize, roleplay and otherwise beat-to-death-the-subject-of my idea of an airtight penalty box? Oh yeah, because it's NOT a male fantasy! It's just the same level of bondage, fear, helplessness, and objectification, isn't it? What if you met a woman that rocked your world and she said no way, never to the pony stuff, but her objectification fantasy was to have you (bondage-free) act as a coffee table or footrest every Saturday night? Not quite as fun?

The beauty is in the compromise. You meet that woman and she realizes how exciting your fantasy is (to you) and you realize how exciting hers is (to her), and because you both "get it," you enjoy creating it for one another, and enjoy the reactions.

When I read your pony desc. my reaction is "ew," and "how boring for the woman," and "is the woman even there?" and if asked, "Hey, wanna give this a try?" I think -- no, I'll pass. When I take that same set of circumstances and imagine some boytoy I have the hots for presenting this idea to me and explaining it in a manner that he conveys it much more openly with more a sense of surrender, helplessness, button-pushing and appealing to my fetishes at the same time, I think, "Hmm, yeah, I could probably get off on that." But the key is that it's not so sub-specific.

I think any time a sub or bottom over-thinks a fantasy to the point that he's got it that mapped out, he should take it to a pro.

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RE: Pony/Puppy play (with male subs) - 5/12/2009 3:53:04 PM

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Of course I am dating myself, but the hottest potrayal of "male pony play" is forever singed into my brain courtesy of the 'adult' version of Duran Duran's "Girls on Film," which was a hard-to-get-video (when you were 15 yrs old in 1983). For the brief but sensual bits of pony-esque stuff, check out the 3:30 mark:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H5gDWoPN2Bk&feature=related

I wanted one. For sure. It's an entertaining video all around, for a walk down memory lane. As a 15-16 year old that video left quite an impression. Also led to my interest in pretty boys, bangs, and a variety of other..things :)

Akasha

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RE: Pony/Puppy play (with male subs) - 5/12/2009 4:04:05 PM

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha

Sort of piggyback on Shatki's comments...I feel like the focus of this fantasy in particular is very specific and the woman in it is secondary. That's why even though I have a pretty big "objectification" fetish and an even bigger bondage fetish (especially tight, cruel, inescapable bondage) I read that and I feel like it's all about the guy, and not about what it does for the woman. I guess on some level there's really no other way to phrase it and it's implied, "all this is done by a woman who absolutely digs and loves it and is totally getting off on it," but when the finer, finer details are already all mapped out, really, is it about the woman?

I do think it's fair to point out that the section you quoted was my response after ChampagneMojito asked me what I got out of it.

As to what the woman/Dominant gets out of it -- heck if I know. If I understood that better, maybe I'd be a Dominant myself. Oh, don't get me wrong, I can imagine topping someone and enjoying it and can think of a lot of things I could do with a female sub/bottom if I had one that I think would be fun for both of us -- but I can't imagine preferring the Dominant role. Mostly I'd be doing to her what I wish someone would do to me. (Oh, with variations according to her particular kinks, to be sure.) So as to what the Dominant gets out of it -- well, that's why I'm trying to find someone whose kinks reflect mine; I don't want someone who only does things to me because I want her to.

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RE: Pony/Puppy play (with male subs) - 5/12/2009 4:07:27 PM

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ORIGINAL: Andalusite

A few men in my local community do pony play or puppy play as the "pet."

I tend to do mildly equine and feline stuff, without a kink context. I pounce my friends, like batting at untied shoelaces and such, sometimes curl up in the seat of a chair instead of sitting in it, and such. I practice dressage tests on foot, occasionally hop over actual fences, and so on. It's more playful/silly, rather than sexual, and I don't need costuming or anything to have fun with it.

To be totally honest, I haven't done that much pony play, but I do it when I get the chance-I missed out on a pony play weekend a few weeks ago cos I had a kidney infection, I'd planned to go but when I got ill I thought it'd be better to stay away and not be miserable around other P/people.

I want to get as much gear as I can realistically afford s i don't have to borrow stuff, I use a wheelchair and I scrapped a perfectly good wheelchair late last summer after going away for the weekend "pony playing". I suddenly realised it would have made a pretty good sulky with a bit of modification. I was kicking Myself when I realised what I'd done. (Figuritivly speaking, of course).

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