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RE: What have you learned about yourself in BDSM? - 5/13/2009 5:15:45 AM

tiinkerbell

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In my limited experience; I have already learned not to jump too quickly into something that should instead, be eased into; and I have learned that talking about emotions, feelings, wants, and needs is really important; no matter how small or unimportant I may think them. ( Still not good at doing this; but I am working hard on it )

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RE: What have you learned about yourself in BDSM? - 5/13/2009 5:23:59 AM

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ORIGINAL: greeneyedreamer

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I'm 54 and that doesn't mean I'm too old to have a healthy relationship that includes a dynamic that works for me, and play that I enjoy.

I am 54 also.. and I just got started a year ago. WOW... I don't feel too old at all, maybe I am delusional? LOL I know I have never felt more at peace and more myself.

I am 58 and started at 55 and am discoverying so much about me. I am delusional and already knew that:). I learning that if i stop resisting my submissive nature, there is a calmness in me that I never experienced.

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RE: What have you learned about yourself in BDSM? - 5/13/2009 6:03:31 AM

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[QUOTE:
[/I need to feel wanted and in turn I provide a tremendous amount of care and nurturing and pleasing. I found that out...

Now when I respond that way to anyone, I get varying responses. Most very negative. (except from my dom, which is all that matters) ]

Curious what does anyone else found?
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I have found as a DOMME I need to provide a lot of love..nurturing and care..also...and have realized this to be loving/MOMMY/caring DOMME.I too have received less than positive reponses at times...why would you care? you are not harsh enough..
this then changes to REALIZATION that this is indeed a wonderful and neccesary facet of the dynamic...
cruel Mistress..loving 'mama:..

IN 20+ years I come to realize I can switch positions for a very special man..2 so far...

I have realized the most harmonious home is POLY with 2-3 men..and me...
and I have learned to be proud of who I am and
that one of the greastest things and most rewarding thing I can do is mentor..guide and mould my wonderful ,precious sub men.

I also LOVE to educate and teach..and coucelll around festish..kink..poly and more...such as my EROTIC EXPANSION classes...( hope that was ok to say that..if not I will delete)

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RE: What have you learned about yourself in BDSM? - 5/13/2009 6:13:22 AM

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I have learned how freeing submission really is. The submission in one area of my life has freed up so many others. I have healthier relationships in many other areas of my life simply as a result of this one. Who would have guessed?

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