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RE: Why do so many dommes want you to pay them? - 5/19/2009 9:45:46 AM

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If female Doms wish to go pro then that is their right to choose. If this is not a submissive cup of tea, then all they need to do is move on.

Now, i am not saying this applies to you, and I'm not one to speak about the cmails that come to me, but perhaps if a submissive would not be in such a hurry to be about getting their wants met, they might do better. One suggestion that i would suggest is to read someone's profile first before sending cmails stating, 'let me make your dreams come true, Mistress'..blah blah blah. In my case, if read they would know 1. i am a submissive, not a Dom or switch, 2. it states clearly that i am not looking.

People are so much in a hurry for instant gratifaction, and nothing any one can do to change that. Such is life. I am not one for instant gratifaction, instead i go by the school of; look at yourself, stop pointing fingers, and see what you can change to bring different result .
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RE: Why do so many dommes want you to pay them? - 5/19/2009 11:35:07 AM

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ORIGINAL: ice0488

I don't think I've met one mistress yet who is a domme because she truly enjoys it and that's the only reason. Everyone at some point or another has said they want a financial slave or they require tribute. And not just those listed as Pro either. Are there any authentic mistresses on here who just want to be the owner of a slave?

See, this is what I see mentioned again and again in a few forums I am a member of.

As a Pro/Lifestyle Domme, I have the best of both worlds.

You will also actually find, that the Pro-Dommes that really have a zest for their lifestyle, will also be very much lifestyle too, and have subs/slave's, hand-picked via the professional route, that they wish to keep as lifestyle subs, without paying a dime, as I do.

So to clarify, there are more lifestyler/pros then people think. not just one or the other.

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RE: Why do so many dommes want you to pay them? - 5/19/2009 12:46:48 PM

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FR, after read thru

lol

Personally I'm not much on the money thing, vanilla, BDSM, whatever. I'm kinda hippie-punk-anarchist, especially around money stuff . . . . .

But I do have an emerging 'hard limit' thing going on about whining about 'sex work', & a strong preference for s types who have paid to receive the services of a professional BDSM provider . . . . . .

Just so's you knows that even non-pro kinksters can find this whole anti-sex-work attitude repellant . . . . . Which I say cuz that's how I perceive different versions of this all-too-common complaint . .. ... .

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RE: Why do so many dommes want you to pay them? - 5/19/2009 4:17:18 PM

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I don't mind a lady being a pro. Only when they bait and switch on you, placing ads that seem lifestyle, then ask for money.

Sometimes you have to do that to get around local prostitution laws, fyi. But I know what you mean.

I've done both and I don't mind...if someone's going to pay me, by all means. I prefer domming in a professional environment though, even if it is for free, because of the safety/sisterhood aspect of the whole thing.

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RE: Why do so many dommes want you to pay them? - 5/19/2009 5:54:25 PM

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To the OP, if you feel like someone is running a scam you can report them to collarme.

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RE: Why do so many dommes want you to pay them? - 5/19/2009 6:55:40 PM

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ORIGINAL: ice0488

I don't think I've met one mistress yet who is a domme because she truly enjoys it and that's the only reason. Everyone at some point or another has said they want a financial slave or they require tribute. And not just those listed as Pro either. Are there any authentic mistresses on here who just want to be the owner of a slave?

Your profile states that you will worship her while you are at her feet which leads me to believe along with your willingness to do online I feel that you want part time dominance only....basically a sexual kink. Many if not most of the Mistresses who do this for the sheer love of this also want a relationship. They want to date, go to the movies, go out to dinner, golf, jog, bowl, meet friends for drinks, and all the other activities a couple enjoys doing together. Yes, some of these activities will require money or you might call it tribute. If you are unwilling to have a relationship, are unable to have a relationship, are married or otherwise taken, then you will have difficulty finding one of those ladies who does it for the joy of the relationship itself. In your profile you need to make it clear if you are looking for a meet and beat relationship or something more where you can actually be of service to a Domme.

So make your profile reflect what you seek, and be patient as 5 days is not long enough to be looking for a pet dog let alone a Domme. Dommes are not interchangeable, one size fits all.

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RE: Why do so many dommes want you to pay them? - 5/19/2009 9:25:40 PM

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Somehow I'm not feeling the whole "high quality fish" analogy....

How about caviar??

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RE: Why do so many dommes want you to pay them? - 5/19/2009 11:27:49 PM

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ORIGINAL: ice0488

I don't think I've met one mistress yet who is a domme because she truly enjoys it and that's the only reason. Everyone at some point or another has said they want a financial slave or they require tribute. And not just those listed as Pro either. Are there any authentic mistresses on here who just want to be the owner of a slave?

Checklist:
What do i want from a dynamic?
Before i invest in meeting this domme have i checked the profile to see if remuneration is mentioned?
If tribute is asked for do i find this acceptable?
Is there a level of tribute that i might find acceptable?
Is there a tribute that i might find a torn on?
Is there another form of tribute ie service that the domme might be willing to accept which could be negotiated before consent/
What is it that i don't agree with about tribute?
Did i state in my profile or at the very beginning of my search no payment can be, will be made to a domme?

i'm a woman. It's a man's world... it's as genderised universe as far as i am aware sinve even God is male... so i am told. (Irony).
i do what i choose to do for money. But there was a time when i have done anything i could for money. It's tough being a woman. Until it's not tough anymore.
PS If i had my time over again? i migjht have experimented by asking for tribute as a slave. God knows those willing to do anything without limits are worth their weight in gold.

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RE: Why do so many dommes want you to pay them? - 5/19/2009 11:30:09 PM

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I'm so sick of seeing these threads.

If I don't have change, I don't park in front of the meter. It's really simple.

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RE: Why do so many dommes want you to pay them? - 5/19/2009 11:53:17 PM

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I'm so sick of seeing these threads.

If I don't have change, I don't park in front of the meter. It's really simple.

What a brilliant 2nd post. One of those lines i wish i had thought of myself. Rather like saying if i don't have any housekeeping i won't walk out via the checkout.
i'll remember that if i ever need to do a runner.

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RE: Why do so many dommes want you to pay them? - 5/20/2009 12:15:12 AM

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Money is an obvious proxy for one's time and labor, and seeing as how it is the mortar of material wealth, comfort and civil freedom, it only makes sense that it is demanded and given.

I am not sure money is the mortar of comfort or civil freedom necessarily.

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RE: Why do so many dommes want you to pay them? - 5/20/2009 7:21:53 AM

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Pay to play? What a concept. The title of "Pro" is just that. A title one would presume to tell the difference between play for fun and pay to play. A lifestyle domme and a pro domme may not be one and the same as far as experience is concerned. The only difference is one asks for money or gifts in return for services rendered and the other asks for servitude and dedication on a regular(daily) basis. Hobby versus living the life. A "Job" versus just plain living it.
Damn, if women offered ME money to tie and tickle torture me.....why would I not take it?! Times are tough and the more money one can make the better, no? (as the Ler, I am not one who would pay to tickle or as the lee would not pay someone TO tickle me, that is just me and I don't have ton thankfully).
There are Men who want "services" from a pro domme who just want the visit and the hourly rate for their quick fix and so long as there are men who will pay for play, there will be services out there to take care of their needs. Not all men have wives or girlfriends etc. who are Dommes or "Slaves" or Subs.
There really is no wrong or right,although that is a gray area to some who think such services are a form of prostitution.
Whole other argument and debate.
Are these pro dommes just doing it for the money and do not really "enjoy" their "work"? Is it just work for them?
If you love your job you will never work a day in your life. Forgot who first said that but I love that quote.
Maybe I should change careers.

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RE: Why do so many dommes want you to pay them? - 5/20/2009 7:26:43 AM

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I'm so sick of seeing these threads.

If I don't have change, I don't park in front of the meter. It's really simple.

*Fantastic post* cutie. Welcome to the boards. I love people who cut through BS quickly. M

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